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  Do you have GOSSIPERS and those with STRONG PERSONALITIES that "control" the congregation?

  by BonaFide in

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  i bet a lot of others have, and its strange how so many are powerless to do anything.. one sister i know was married to another jw.

  he was unfaithful, she was crushed, he wasn't disfellowshipped, she forgave him, he was cruel, finally she committed adultery to get out of it.

  they divorced.

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  Did you participate in STREET WITNESSING in your area? What was it like?

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  here in southern california, the witnesses still do streetwork.

  i did it since i was a kid.

  i used to spend two hours every saturday morning from 7 to 9 am walking down the street near my house with my brother or sister.

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  In the past 20 years, have you seen a balanced, educated adult not raised by JW parents get baptized as a JW?

  by BonaFide in

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  i am not criticizing those who have gone through depression or a traumatic experience.

  nor am i criticizing those who were raised as a witness as i was.. but i am curious to know if any of you have seen a person from the territory, not a relative of a witness, no recent tragedies or emotional problems, not a young runaway, not a drug user, but an educated adult who began a study with jehovah's witnesses, and eventually got baptized.. when i was a missionary, i met a gilead couple who had been in their assignment for 19 years.

  i asked them about that.

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  Have any of you had the experience of listening to a Witness' sad story, and not being able to tell them, ITS BECAUSE YOU ARE IN A CULT!?

  by BonaFide in

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  tonight i went out with some witnesses for coffee.

  one is an elder, and the others are pioneers, etc.

  two of them had a sad story of how other elders had treated them lately, and one talked about how the elders in her hall won't give her any assignments.

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  Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions regarding "attention seekers"?

  by BonaFide in

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  we all love it when people pay attention to us or our opinions.

  but what i am talking about is people who crave and force attention from others.

  not just people who talk a lot, but those that force everyone around them to focus on them and them only.. in one of my classes there is a woman who raises her hand to ask a question, but never really has a question to ask.

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  I would like to know if you have succeeded in helping your friends or family SLOW DOWN in their zeal as a JW

  by BonaFide in

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  i have read thousands of posts on this forum, and i am finding with all your experiences that however hard we try, it's difficult to actually get a family member or friend to disassociate themselves.

  after all, some of us are still "active jw's", right?.

  but, i have been noticing that some seem to have accomplished enough with questions and comments that at least their family members or friends are less active as jw's.

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  I need some good responses to the excuse "The elders are imperfect"

  by BonaFide in

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  please make them simple, i have noticed that some of my friends can only stand logic for about 30 seconds before they start changing the subject.

  i need some good questions, or points to make them think.

  i have tried my own, but i need a better response.. here are the comments my friends have made:.

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  Can anyone make sense of this? I am trying a new method to circumvent Cognitive Dissonance

  by BonaFide in

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  this is what happened to me a few minutes ago as i came home.

  i live in a almost 100% jw apartment complex, so i have a lot of contacts with witnesses every day, apart from meetings and service.. so i have been trying with a few friends to use a "third person" that doesn't exist, to try and get them to reason.. here an example of what happened today outside my apartment:.

  friend: "hey bonafide, what's going on?

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  At the hospital today I apologized to a disassociated sister

  by BonaFide in

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  got back from the hospital awhile ago.

  an older brother i know is very ill. in his 60's.

  one of his family members is a girl in her 20's.

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  I went on another Bible study yesterday - Any suggestions on what I could have said?

  by BonaFide in

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  i was visiting a friend that is a witness yesterday.

  his mother was preparing for the bookstudy with another sister who is very new.

  we are on the chapter about blood this week.

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