To this day (and I'm going on 2yrs being DF'd) I feel BAD for how I treated other DF'd people that I knew...specifically this one sister I knew. She was my best friend at the time, and we had sort of falling apart because she was older then me and was living her life. Well I ran into she and her mom in the grocery store one day and ran over to say hi...her mom told me that my friend was DF'd and then the mom started crying. I toos tarted to cry, and my friend (who was standing RIGHT there between the 2 of us) started to cry...and not ONCE did I make eye contact with her or say a word to her. I just hugged her mom IN front of her and walked away. How freakin selfish is that??? I mean, as if I had NO heart. That still bothers me.
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How did you treat people?
by captain indo you ever feel guilty about the way you pre-judged others when you were a drone?.
i feel guilty about it every day!
people's lives are so complex, we know so little of their personal struggles and "thorns in the flesh" yet we're conditioned to prejudge on a checklist of criteria published by a few men in new york.
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New here...
by hereiam! insorry if this starts off as a kind of a downer.. i am 29, and my husband and i have stopped going to meetings since last october.
we live in mexico and used to attend the english.
long story short, after realizing how many much we've been lied to we stopped going to our meetings, moved out of the territory, switched to spanish, and after a month of attending just vanished.
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babygirl30
WELCOME! Remeber that you ARE 'hormonal' in a sense - being pregnant and all. SO your emotions are probably stronger then normal.
On the other hand, I can relate to the ANGER at learning that all you were taught is NOT true and that admitting you don't believe anymore can and will alienate you from your entire family. It's scarey, it's frustrating, and it would make anyone angry. It's NORMAL!
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My brothers wedding...
by IronHill in...is today.
he stated to me that he really wanted me to attend the ceremony, so me and lorijis will be attending the ceremony this evening.
i dont know if we'll be ready for all of the shunning that will occur, but i want to be there and so does he.. the funny thing is we never received an invitation or anything to let us know about the wedding.
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It still amazes me that dubs can shun family yet ask them for financial help.
That sounds JUST like my sister! The girl is mentally ill (besides the point) but she is exactly THAT way! This girl will not even LOOK at me if I run into her in public (she will cover my lil nieces eyes so SHE doesn't see me either) and she has flat out told me that I am DEAD to she and her daughter and that she wants nothign to do with me. But the oddest thing happens when she is in dire straights and needs money and knows my parents will give her a fat NO....all of a sudden she has no problem calling me and NEEDS me. I used to give in and let her have whatever she needed, but anymore - HELL NO!
Basically, although you are doing the noble thing - you are allowing yourself to be used. Do you realize that? I know it's your brother and that's family, but family wouldn't SHUN each other or play emotional games (you're not invited but could you contribute?) and they wouldn't allow men telling them NOT to do something to be their guide in life.
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Y'all made me spit my soda all OVER my computer here at work!!! This 'ish' is hilarious!!!
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Most people who are not JW's live with out moral restrain! All who have left the "Truth" regret it. June 15th WT
by life is to short inin the june 15th wt it says on page 9 i will just write it out as it is to hard and unbelievable to preface this.
so here it is.. "many who today are members of the christian congregation can tell you that before learning of and adopting jehovah's righteous standards, they lived without moral restrain.
yet, they were unsatisfied and unhappy.
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After leaving, I was surprised at the moral restraint of non-JWs. I thought they were accountable to know one so they did whatever. Well, they do have a sense of accountability either to their God or mankind. Overall, they are a good bunch.
So true...so true! That was the first 'surprise' I had when I finally let my guard down, stopped being such a JW snob, and started reaching out and making friends with NON-JWs - they are good people! They may not be witnesses, they may not serve Jehovah, they may not go to Khall, but they ARE clean living, moral, upstanding, tax paying citizens that follow the law and are honest and loyal. I know baptized JWs that can't even say that for themselves! My parents (at will by the religion) taught me that 'worldly' people are out there running wild with no direction and no sense of responsibility. So I was afraid of how they would act if I ever got too close. UGH!!! Now I see the real deal, and to be honest, ALL of my friends (unconditional non-JW ones of course) AND my boyfriend are better then 80% of the JWs I've ever known.
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So your telling me you can be an a**hole until you get bapitized, and other tales...
by Confuzzled inwithout launching into my saga, of which many of you already know, i have a jw baby daddy who besides being a jw is an emotional midget w/women issues....i continue to come here for support and info concerning the future of my infant and the quirks of the jw family & belief system at large, and what i will be dealing with in the future, bf or no bf, so this inquiry has nothing to do with my relationship with this person or lack-there-of, i'm just seeking answers to what seems puzzling.
my posts are lacking in any specific detail as to not alert any possible lurking done my boyfriend or his family members, call me paranoid but it sometimes the circumstances, should they be stumbled on, are far to unique for it to be anybody other then this person, or their family.. anyhoo, my non-baptized jw bf is mad at his mother, along with many of his brothers and sisters (he has a huge family).
mama, it turns out was never baptized, even though she has been a jw for as long as my boyfriend has been alive (almost 40 yrs).
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Oh my God. Tales of the JW and Shameless (instead of Rich and Famous)! This whole thing sounds SO terrible that I don't even know what to say. Too many JWs are hypocritical (which I see you are learning in dealing with them)....
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Most people who are not JW's live with out moral restrain! All who have left the "Truth" regret it. June 15th WT
by life is to short inin the june 15th wt it says on page 9 i will just write it out as it is to hard and unbelievable to preface this.
so here it is.. "many who today are members of the christian congregation can tell you that before learning of and adopting jehovah's righteous standards, they lived without moral restrain.
yet, they were unsatisfied and unhappy.
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babygirl30
This kind of teaching reminds me of that movie The Village - where the people were 'scared' repeatedly NOT to leave the 'village' otherwise the NOTHINGS would get them...
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Re-instatement
by hotspur incan anybody show me in any bible that, to be re-instated, i need to humiliate myself for at least 6 months?.
what's that all about?
in fact, that is high my list of 1001 reasons i'd never go back!.
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I'm right there with you!!!! The whole reinstatement process is the #1 gripe I have with this religion...NOWHERE in the Bible does it say 1 word about there being a JC committee of 3 elders, that once DF'd you are to sit quietly and annonymously in the back of the Khall, that your family and friends must SHUN you until the same JC deems you 'approved', that you have to write a letter pleading your case, and that there is a specific 'time' period someone is to sit out to show repentance. King David freakin committed the ultimate of crimes and sins, and HE was never shunned nor kicked off his throne. As I recall, the Bible says that Jehovah SENT the prophet to call David out, which led him to repent, and yeah he had consequences - but they didn't involve shunning and a period of being 'dead' to anyone. Same goes with the prodigal son.
My parents had been up my butt about coming back, and I flat out ASKED them to show me where my being shunned was IN the Bible and that 2 stories in the Bible of 'sinners' have NO corellation with how JWs do things now - none. I refuse to play the game with MEN, write some letter to them begging THEM to forgive me and deem me 'ok'....
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Cheating in the Congregation
by EXMS inhow often does anyone see cheating happening throughout the congregation?.
reason that i ask this is because it happened to me.
in this three years things seemed to go great.
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His EXMS!
Read your story and that is really sad...that 'pioneer' girl was NO example at all! But I have heard PLENTY of stories of bros/sis who are dating one person, mess around with another - then make the CHOICE between the 2. It's pathetic how OPEN a lot of them are about it too.
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Most people who are not JW's live with out moral restrain! All who have left the "Truth" regret it. June 15th WT
by life is to short inin the june 15th wt it says on page 9 i will just write it out as it is to hard and unbelievable to preface this.
so here it is.. "many who today are members of the christian congregation can tell you that before learning of and adopting jehovah's righteous standards, they lived without moral restrain.
yet, they were unsatisfied and unhappy.
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Either this girl in the WT story didn't have the smarts to spend $5 on some freakin birth control, or she had absolutely NO damn common sense! I mean - come on...pregnant AND an abortion? Give me a break! The thing that bothers me most about stories like that in the mags is that they 'demonize' any life outside of the org! Making it seem like EVERY person that walks away is going to be miserable, get knocked up, get AIDS/Hepatitis and Cancer, smoke crack and drink alcohol till vodka sweats out their pores, and nobody is going to love them.
