I can tell you why I am attending. It is definitely to appease the family. We're all going "together" and it'll be at a congregation different from mine (some towns away)... so at least I won't have to deal with the "locals" asking me where I've been! I'll have to see how I feel about it this year. With all the info I've found out, I wonder if I'll be jumping out of my skin or not!
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by Demitrius inwell they are scabbling around to find as many people to attend the memorial again this year.. i walked out 3.5 years ago and have not heard anything since from the elders.
i have one that lives about 50 metres away and he is one that has not even telephoned me in all that time.
.. just the other night he turns up on my door step and hands me the usual invite!
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Wordly people, df'ing, my experience
by flower inthe bryant tragedy has really been stuck in my head and heart this week as i'm sure it has been for all of us.
it occured to me though that there may be some here or lurking that do not understand what made robert do what he did.
there may be some who think that his was an isolated incidence of severe untreated mental illness and have nothing to do with his being disfellowshiped.
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JBean
Flower... Amen to that. I'm glad you are on the road to healing. love and peace to you, Jbean
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Post a message to Sharon Roe(Janet Bryant's sister
by seven006 insharon like her sister janet was also raised a jw.
she left the religion three years ago just about the same time as robert and janet.
her husband is not a jw but did attend the occasional meeting.
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JBean
Sharon,
I'm writing from the East coast, but this story has touched every one of us, no matter how far away from you we live. My thoughts and prayers are with you, in hopes that God may continue to give you strength. Please visit us here on this site when you feel up to chatting and making some new friends! Jbean
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New Jobs
by joelbear injust thought i'd update yall on my job situation.
i have accepted two part time jobs; one with a banking trade association and one with home depot.
i started my training at home depot last night.
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JBean
I "second" those congratulations, Joel! I just LOVE Home Depot... even though I'm a 'she', I just love to walk around and look at all the STUFF! Hey... I bet you look really cute in your orange apron! (bearish men everywhere... ha!) : )
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I'm screwed..........
by butalbee ini went w/ my ex to the hall tonight, don't remember much except walking in, hiding in the bathroom for half hour, and dodging all the schmoozing when trying to exit the building.
i also remember my ex holding my hand and smiling at me.
it was a happy smile, like "i am so glad you're here w/ me", but it hinted of evil intentions.
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JBean
Goodmornin', MavMan... I just want to say that was EXCELLENT advice. Truly. I should've been more simplistic myself, but I'm just too close to this type of situation right now. : )
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Hey, I'm new here
by Disposable Hero ini have frequented this site quite a bit, but i now have finally joined.
since i seen many other people's posts i will tell.
i grew up with my mother in the "truth" but my father was not.
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JBean
Welcome, DH! I'm impressed... finding out the truth about the "truth" so young!!! May I ask how old you and your sister are now? Looking forward to your posts! Jbean
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Arrested for going kingdumb and dumber hall!
by D wiltshire inarrested for going kingdumb hall!.
last night (3/21) the mountain view (ca) police arrested me.. this happened as i was attending the sunnyvale congregation service meeting.. i was dfd last july and was told by the elders the conditions for reinstatement were meeting attendance, repentance along with not speaking to anyone or anyone speaking to me (shunning at its finest).
(btw, i was dfd for apostasy).
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JBean
Shrieked really loud!!!!! AHAHAH... Good one! I hope that this isn't going to stay on your permanent record or anything... but I bet the cops thought the JW's were totally off their rockers!!! ; )
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I'm screwed..........
by butalbee ini went w/ my ex to the hall tonight, don't remember much except walking in, hiding in the bathroom for half hour, and dodging all the schmoozing when trying to exit the building.
i also remember my ex holding my hand and smiling at me.
it was a happy smile, like "i am so glad you're here w/ me", but it hinted of evil intentions.
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JBean
OK NOW BEE! Listen UP!!!! I just HAVE to post this before I finish reading the rest of the comments because I'm so anxious to tell you to NOTTTTTT go back to the K. Hall with your ex. Don't misunderstand me... have a relationship with him if you love each other, but DO NOT let him drag you into the JW's. You need to hear my story: I am still technically a JW but haven't been to a meeting in months and months and months (a year? wow, maybe...) anyhow... I have been seriously involved with my boyfriend for about 2 years now (still keeping it hidden from my JW family 'cos I don't want the grief... yeah, I know, I'm a wimp) BUT... and here's the clincher-- up until about a year ago, I was trying at EVERY TURN to get my bfriend to study... to a meeting, etc. I tried EVERY line of sneaky reasoning I could... but to no avail (thank God for that now...). What was it that made me WAKE UP and see the "light"? HIS ACTIONS (they DO speak louder than words, ya know!) : ) He is a very spiritual person (tho' not religious). He always refuted my scriptural (cough, cough) arguments about how true the "Truth" was with common sense and love. He basically believes that everyone can have a one-on-one relationship with the creator, and if there is a judgement day down the road, each individual will be judged according to how they've lived their lives and how they've loved others. Period. He actually LIVES this!!! After a while, his love and kindness towards everyone totally overshadowed what ANY witness personality or action. It took a looooonnnnngggg time, believe me, but I'm so glad he didn't "cave" and start into the JW lifestyle just for me. So... what's my point? Well, I'm living proof that time and patience and LOVE can work if you put yourself into it. Never give up but DO NOT let him even think for a SECOND that you'll convert into the JW's. That's just prolonging misery, in my opinion. You will find out soon enuf if he REALLY loves you. If he gives up on YOU, then you know he's not the one. So please try to live your life, especially when it comes to conversations and time spent with him, the best you possibly can. Focus on YOUR spirituality (everyone has some of it, ya know) and make him see that THIS is how to truly live. Hope this helps and doesn't hinder! : ) Best of luck to you!
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Shunning is the big story
by joelbear ini just read the story about the family in oregon, gone forever, because of the pressure of shunning.. in my opinion, shunning is the big story about jehovah's witnesses.
shunning and the fear of shunning is what enables the control of victims of child abuse.
shunning is what destroys families.
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JBean
Interesting thread... I've really enjoyed Mav's comments here. Note to Discuss: I think DFing only teaches folks to be more careful not to get caught the next go-round! Seriously... if someone is going to commit adultury or fornicate, they're NOT going to stop for any length of time just because of DFing. As LDH said, they won't do it out of love and commitment... not because they'll get punished. People get reinstated all the time and yet they really haven't "learned" anything.
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Meet my Lil Man:)
by mommy inhey all.
i just got home from the hospital earlier this evening, but i wanted to post a few pics of my lil man for you.
i can't believe he is finally here!
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JBean
Those pics brought tears to my eyes! Congratulations to you and your family! Rest up now! : )