i just wanted to let you know of something that has liberated me recently.
i decorated my office with hearts for valentine's day this year.
my family has known for over ten years that i do not want to practice the jw faith, although i am not df'd or da'd.
Yeah it sucks that we didn't get to meet up for drinks when I was in your town. I'm not sure when my next visit will be. My offer to come to Florida is still open but it's fricking freezing here! lol.
I totally think you should that story up. Might be good for you and I'm sure it'd be interesting to many others.
i just wanted to let you know of something that has liberated me recently.
i decorated my office with hearts for valentine's day this year.
my family has known for over ten years that i do not want to practice the jw faith, although i am not df'd or da'd.
Not me that's for sure! Did I ever tell you that the assembly you *didn't* get baptized at was the first huge stumbling block for me? The way that whole thing went down planted the first major seed of doubt in my mind.
i just wanted to let you know of something that has liberated me recently.
i decorated my office with hearts for valentine's day this year.
my family has known for over ten years that i do not want to practice the jw faith, although i am not df'd or da'd.
Woot! Sounds liberating! I love your outlook and am so pleased you shared this!
i am such a placid person.
i will always turn the other cheek.
i will always be the one to yeild.
Oz
That truly is NOT acceptable. What are her "reasons" for not wanting you to spend more time with the kids? Is it truly just because you are df'd and she makes up the other stuff for the court? Here in the US the judges are not going to say that someone can't teach the kids a particular religion either. Here you have to prove that the religion is detrimental to the relationship with the parent. In Florida, (where I'm at) that is the main concern. Being that I am now df'd having my kids (6 & 8) go to meetings at all IS teaching them that I am "bad" as you all know. I too am so scared of them getting baptized and my ex also will not agree to wait until the turn 18. So my one hope here is that I can prove to a judge that this "religion" is detrimental to my relationship as a mother with my children. I found this one website (there are many others) http://www.jehovahswitnessesexperts.com/Experience/experience.html I have no idea what the cost is or if they have contacts in Australia but I do think the website is worth checking out AND they do free telephone consultations. They may be able to help or give you names of people closer to you. The good thing about JWs is that it's universal so while all of our local laws are different the religion is always the same.
My plan is that if I fail to prove to the judge that he should instruct my ex to NOT teach the kids anything about the religion (this actually has happened in quite a few cases) I'd like to change our custody schedule so that they miss more of the meetings. We split the time 50/50 but my ex has the girls on all the meeting times. We also do every other weekend and on my Sunday he comes to pick them up for the meeting. It's awful but it was the only way I could get divorced at the time. I too was weak and scared but am finally ready to fight back.
Here in Florida we have to meet with a "Parenting Coordinator" she's kinda like a counselor. She meets with us individually and then together and tries to facilitate negotiations and teach us ways to communicate better. This is a fruitless step and a waste of my money as we know there is no reasoning with hardcore JWs. After that we go to mediation. After THAT trial before a judge. It's a long expensive process and it's miserable.
I feel for you and all of us going through this. I will NOT lose my kids. I refuse. The borg can not take that from me too.
Feel free to PM me anytime if you want to vent or scream and cuss.
i am such a placid person.
i will always turn the other cheek.
i will always be the one to yeild.
Hi! I'm in a very similar position with my ex. When we divorced the only way he would agree to every other weekend was if I agreed to let him take the girls to the meetings on MY Sundays. I agreed because at that point I just wanted to be divorced. NOW I am trying to keep the girls home on my Sundays and he won't agree. I filed a court action here to have the judge hear it and he called Child Protective Services on me. In fact, I'm meeting with them tonight.
I want so bad to get my kids out as well but what I really want is the next 11 years to FLY by so that I don't have to deal with my loser asshole fuck face ex husband ever again.
I really feel for you. I hope your situation works out soon!
again...please do not request a pdf scan these are interbranch copies not the same ones sent to the congregations.
jwf.. january 21, 2010 .
to all bodies of elders .
Thanks again for posting these! I must remember not to read them while eating. I'm so disgusted.
well for those of you who many not know i gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on the 31st jan, however our joy soon turned to concern when it was discovered our son had breathing problems.
this concern later turned to fear as we learned that he had a congenital diaphragmatic hernia (cdh) and that he would need an operation asap.. basically our baby had a hole in his diaphragm and most of his digestive system now resided in his left chest cavity compressing his heart and lungs into the remain space in the right cavity.
this is a very serious condition and much of the information we were given made very bleak reading.
That is such great news about your son! I'm so happy for you and your family. I'm also glad you were treated respectfully by the hospital. I hear so many stories of moms being treated horribly by the staff.
I'm glad you weren't put off by my concern. It is genuine but I know it can hard to accept from unknown people. If you ever wanna chat baby stuff feel free to PM me anytime! I can talk it for hours and do so regularly on my other boards. lol.
well for those of you who many not know i gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on the 31st jan, however our joy soon turned to concern when it was discovered our son had breathing problems.
this concern later turned to fear as we learned that he had a congenital diaphragmatic hernia (cdh) and that he would need an operation asap.. basically our baby had a hole in his diaphragm and most of his digestive system now resided in his left chest cavity compressing his heart and lungs into the remain space in the right cavity.
this is a very serious condition and much of the information we were given made very bleak reading.
Congrats on the birth of your son! I'm sorry to hear of his need for surgery! How is he doing now? Is he "cured" or will he need further treatment/surgery?? I hope you and he are recooperating well. I know this must be just awful for you.
I have totally experienced and noticed that lack of concern from JWs. It's very hurtful. Especially when it comes from someone that has been a friend for years. It's devastating that they can't even show some human decency. I'm sorry you were treated this way.
Michelle
PS. I guess I should mention I am a strong childbirth advocate and have a huge interest in all things related to moms/babies/pregnancy/childcare. Sorry if you find my questions too forward and feel free to disregard.
inside germany's catholic sexual abuse scandal.
.. as shocking as the revelations were, they are merely "the tip of the iceberg," says the current director of canisius college, father klaus mertes, who made public the sexual abuse of students.. for decades, german bishops tried to look the other way when their pastors engaged in sexual abuse, as well as to downplay the problem by characterizing it as isolated incidents.
now they are finally revealing their own figures, though hesitantly.
Wow. That is such a sad article. I feel for all those victims. It's just awful how there is a policy to cover up such heinous acts.
i just realized we can change our avatar at gravatar.com duh!
i am happy now!.
Doh! There it is! That's a pic of me and my girls from our first xmas this past December!
