Posts by kat7302

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Calling all UK people, especially near CARDIFF

by kat7302 in

hiya.

id love to catch up with anyone near cardiff or within that circuit.

i used to be in barry congregtion but my parents were so well known and 'in' it, we went to tons of different congregations around there.

kat7302

Surely there must be more of you out there??????????

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British XJW's! Please say hello!!

by Fe2O3Girl in

i live in northwest england, i have been out of th borg for 8 years.

give me a wave, let me know i am not the only xjw in britain!

cheers!

kat7302

Hey there

You're not alone. I was in Barry congregation..near Cardiff!

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One more lost soul-boring story,dnt bother reading

by kat7302 in

i was raised a witness and spent 15 years of my life trying to make my parents proud of me.

i was baptised at 11, aux pioneered, was on assemblies etc etc and i succeeded in being the spiritual daughter they wanted.

i left at 15 and this meant leaving home too.

Thank you all so much for your responses. I apologise for my delay in getting back to you but for some reason, my password mysteriously changed????? I have no idea how I did that but there we go! I did try to reply several times. I was SO moved by all of your time and efforts in talking to me. In particular, the poem that was posted on here was very moving, Thank you for that.

Im still extremely confused. I dont seem to have any control over what I think or feel. It really feels Ive been this way forever but I promise I am working on it! I have good days. I suppose the thing is that noone ever really knows when Im having a bad day. I hide behind humour and laughter which may be a good thing or maybe not. Sometimes I think Im really on the mend then the next morning...bang-its back! The main point is that I try. Im learning that I cant change the past and go on blaming, Im just gonna try to be me. I really am working on that!!!!!

Now Ive figured out what the problem is I will definately keep up to date with everything.

Thank you all again, so much. Im really lost for words (give yourselves a round of applause for that!) so I will leave it as a simple thank you and let your own imaginations run wild!

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One more lost soul-boring story,dnt bother reading

by kat7302 in

i was raised a witness and spent 15 years of my life trying to make my parents proud of me.

i was baptised at 11, aux pioneered, was on assemblies etc etc and i succeeded in being the spiritual daughter they wanted.

i left at 15 and this meant leaving home too.

kat7302

wow

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The mystery of the parting sea

by kat7302 in

jw
friends

can someone please answer me why when thousands and millions of eygptians were covered when the seas rejoined following moses's triumphant journey through, have there never been any artifacts or things recovered from the sea?

i havent researched fully into this but i have asked my parents about it and i believe they looked it up and couldnt find any archealogical evidence to support the 'story'!

surely if all these people died, with all their spears,chariots etc etc......something would have been found?

kat7302

Can someone please answer me why when thousands and millions of Eygptians were covered when the seas rejoined following Moses's triumphant journey through, have there never been any artifacts or things recovered from the sea? I havent researched fully into this but I have asked my parents about it and I believe they looked it up and couldnt find any archealogical evidence to support the 'story'! Surely if all these people died, with all their spears,chariots etc etc......something would have been found?

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One more lost soul-boring story,dnt bother reading

by kat7302 in

i was raised a witness and spent 15 years of my life trying to make my parents proud of me.

i was baptised at 11, aux pioneered, was on assemblies etc etc and i succeeded in being the spiritual daughter they wanted.

i left at 15 and this meant leaving home too.

kat7302

I was raised a witness and spent 15 years of my life trying to make my parents proud of me. I was baptised at 11, aux pioneered, was on assemblies etc etc and I succeeded in being the spiritual daughter they wanted. I left at 15 and this meant leaving home too. I guess it all began when several members of the congregation came forward regarding my uncle (the wolf) and made sexual allegations ranging from child abuse to rape. He was of course diso'd to protect god's fold but was reinstated not long after. I couldnt understand the hypocrisy shown by the elders and myself and my older sister(one of the children abused)decided to leave.We werent prepared for the real world in any way, I trusted everyone just as I had always been taught to do and this led to me being abused myself and a year later...raped. When I went to my parents, they didnt believe me and i went through it alone..in fact,the first time my father came to see me after Id told him about it, he brought an elder with him and a clipboard with a series of questions to catch me out. Only recently have we sat down and discussed it..a full 8 years later....and one of the things they admitted was that they did 'sell us out' because of the name they had within the congregation. Dad is very prominent and well known so I sort of understand that the reflections of our actions would have no doubt been used against him but it has left me not knowing where I belong in this world. I know I will never be a JW again but I dont seem to be able to find a place in the world either. I spent so long being what my pareents wanted me to be, then someone who other people in the world wanted me to be.....I dont know who I am anymore. I dont think Ive ever known. I guess I just want someone to tell me its okay to be who I am,whatever that is. That i deserve to be loved and I havent spent my whole life being a disappointment to everyone who knows me. I just want to be happy. People say this to me all the time but I cant believe them. I dont think i deserve to be loved. People criticise me for being open about sex but thats all I know. Having a judicial comittee and feeling forced to tell all leaves you without dignity and the one area of your life that maybe should be private, is the one area I have no problem in discussing. Im not a slag, i dont sleep around, the opposite in fact, maybe I just feel that thats all I can offer people and thats all they ever seem to want from me anyway. God knows what Im trying to say here, it just gets a little lonely sometimes when you feel your the only one in the world as screwed up as me. Thanks for listening....you can WAKE UP now!

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Just got this email from Dateline

by dmouse in

jw
friends

dateline nbc.

tonight on dateline tuesday:.

their church was their whole world.

kat7302

I wonder if dateline are aware that elders at least in the UK were authorised to reopen all cases of child abuse and such, to ensure that they were dealt with properly? I know of one instance where the sister contacted had brought the case up 15 years or so previously! Seems an awful lot of trouble to go to doesnt it, if they had nothing to hide that is. My gut instinct on this is that the GB were well aware of what opening up the organisation could lead to and wanted to cover up as much as possible before it hit the limelight.

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Mixed thoughts re: Silentlambs group

by Pathofthorns in

a person has to be a bit nieve to think that if the wt suddenly gave into all of the demands of silentlambs that silentlambs would somehow cease to exist and or let up their pressure on the society.. i think there is a broader agenda here, one that includes a measure of revenge against the wt and one that won't stop until they are out of business.

no child is truely protected or safe when they are raised in a cult.

a logical extention of silentlambs would be expanding their agenda to include the blood issue and children.. it is this obvious broader agenda the silentlambs group has that invites criticism from active witnesses.

kat7302

im afraid I tend to agree here. Whilst I would not say im an apostate as I still respect the deciaions people make in their own lives, I have felt that this site is manipulated in some way. I only joined up a couple of days ago so am relatively new to all the terms and phraseology on here but already I have felt undermined. I believed that this was a site for ex-jw's to feel free to air their opinions and ask valid questions regarding the religion and its effects. Whilst I have many issues regarding my upbringing, my main topic on here is sex..not for any perverse reason but simply that Ive felt I have been affected sexually by the way I was raised. I wouldnt expect 'worldy' people to fully understand so felt that asking my questions on here would hopefully gain me some advice and suggestions from people of the same background who already understand where I am coming from. I was very shocked to find when I cam on earlier hat two of the topics I raised have been blocked!!! the only response as to why so far has been something to do with a 'dateline' programme which I have heard nothing about and therefore do not understand. I havent had anything explained to me as regards why my topics were closed and feel almost like there is a 'governing body' at work on this site also. Surely the point was to get away from all that and have freedom of speech? As regards the Silentlambs..I also sense a strong undercurrent of revenge and whilst this revenge would indeed be sweet and well placed, I feel these ones will unfortunatley face more bitter disappointment as not all will be achieved. I can only wish them the best (i have my own silent lamb story so am not speaking from on outsiders point of view here) adn hope that the aims which they outwardly strive for, are met.

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I CAN'T TAKE THIS ANYMORE!!!

by DazedAndConfused in

while i was sexually abused as a child, 4 years old,...all of this has almost driven me over the top!.

no...it has driven me over the top!!!.

please, please, stop this insanity...

kat7302

what has driven you over the top?

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An Un-Invitation Card

by ozziepost in

"do witnesses break up families?

" has been a common topic over the years.

this topic has been brought home to mrs ozzie and i by the following 'un-invitation card'.

kat7302

as tempting as it may be to just go anyway, I think you guys have to respect their decision and not go. I agree completley with some of the earlier comments to send them a card (Not a pressie tho!maintian some dignity here!) and they will be the ones feeling badly then. I do kinda know how you feel, when my nan died, Id just had my first child and myself and my older sister were diso'd. Not ONE person spoke to me at the funeral and afterwards my dad told us one of the elders requested that me and my sis not go back to the community hall where the 'wake' was because some brothers had mentioned they would be stumbled. We had to go back alone to our parents house while people who were not even related to her were allowed to be part of the grieving process. I feel for you guys, dont let it get you too down, you're better than that.