My hubby is still stuck in the 80's as far as loving the music,,,,,hehe.
I was a teen in the 80's ,, I had Pat Benatar hair, pastel clothes, big button earrings, loved rollerskating, and lots of eyeshadow.
Looking back the 80's were not so bad.
LyinEyes
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Children of the 80's!
by MelbaToast inalright, i admit, i was a child of the 80s (or what i can remember) but the real reason for this thread is i have noticed that there is quite a few of people on this site that are close to me in age or just a little bit younger or older.
i will be 28 in june.
i think that this period in my life is a deep questioning period, because at younger ages i didnt give a flip about anything jw or ex-jw for that matter.
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I need to vent
by swiftbreeze ini called my sister yesterday.
she is not a jw although she has studied off and on throughout the years and attends the meeting from time to time.
she knows i don't go to the kh anymore.
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LyinEyes
(((((Swiftbreeze))))) don't count your sister out . When my elder hubby told me all the things he was reading on apostate sites,,,,,, I BLEW UP!
I screamed,,,,,,,hollered (southern expression) , told him he was bringing demons in our house,,,,,,it was crazy.
After a day or so,,,,,, of serious thinking of what in the world was wrong with my hubby, I had to stop and think he wouldn't have told me unless he was very sure. Knowing that about him, I knew he had studied it and cross referenced etc . I knew he wouldn't say these things unless he was sure he had doubts.
I am so thankful that I finally did listen to him.
My hubby was patient with me and that helped, so be patient with your sister when she comes around, and plant a seed of doubt. I hope it turns out well for you.
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Now Elders Are Making Elderly & Infirm Feel Guilty For "Being Hooked Up"!
by minimus inmy mom as well as a few others are "hooked up by phone" to the meetings.
lately, the elders are saying in their talks that if a brother or sister could be at the meetings but instead are "hooked up", then they are hurting jehovah by not having regular association with the "friends" at the kingdom hall.
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LyinEyes
Blondie quoted this:
In some areas, great efforts have to be made to attend Christian meetings. A 70-year-old woman regularly walks about six miles (10 km) to get to the weekly meetings. On the way, she wades through one of Kenya?s biggest rivers, even though crocodiles are lurking nearby. At times the current becomes so strong that it almost sweeps her away. Yet, she considers the spiritual feast well worth the effort. What an outstanding example of zeal!
I seem to remember this very example, thinking they would even praise her more if she was eaten by the crocs or drowned due to her zeal. They would say she died faithful, I can just imagine them saying this at her funeral.
I remember there were some very sweet , older sisters , no they were very elderly,,,,,,in my old hall and they didnt miss meetings and risked their health and safety and the elders, usually very fit men,, didnt do a darn thing to make it easier for them. Sorry on the men, "brother " bashing , don't mean it to be that way, but there were some like that in my hall. It is just that our congregation had a great abundance of little sweet old sisters. They did the bulk of everything in our hall.
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The killing of Job's family...
by Hecklerboy ini'm having a conversation with a couple of people in my office as i type this.
i'm asking the question "why did god allow satan to kill job's family?
" i told them that to say he did it to prove job's faithfullness and that he got even more in return for his faithfulness is not a good enough answer.
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LyinEyes
Feel free to slam god, or at least stupid ideas about god.
Hehe , that if hiliarious!!
LOL @ Sith , signing up for double sheep......whooohooo!!
I never got this story either. I remember looking at the pictures in the publications of Job after he was restored with even more things than he had before and being just a weeeeeee bit pissed at him.
How dare he sit there smiling holding those new babies when his other children were killed for no reason , and that God didnt stop it.
I can see being tempted with sores, with a nagging wife, with losing his herds, money etc. but allowing his beloved children to be murdered just to prove he was faithful was wrong.
These were the things that I had to pray about, asking forgiveness for not understanding God's purpose and second guessing it.
I am glad I am free of the guilt about thinking this way and can now feel the way my heart truly feels about it.
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My wife was scheduled to be perfect by now.
by garybuss inand i was scheduled to be either dead or petting lions.
something's messed up .
this message brought to you by the year 1957 and the word "maybe".
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I want my teenage body back..it was pretty close to normal.
UMMMMMmm hummmmm , I hear ya sister. Compared to what I am now,,,,, I was darn near perfect back when!!! Crap!!!
I too, was supposed to never worry about a gray hair or two, no wrinkles , no weight gain, none of that!!
Now I know for a freakin' fact that I will have the joy of menopause in the near future years.
I wanted to swim with the dolphins, and live next door to Elvis!!!
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Dead Relative Due To Blood Policy?
by AlanF in.
i'd like to hear comments from anyone who had a relative die because of the watchtower society's misguided policy on blood transfusions.. alanf
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(((( Balsaam, Rabbit, Joy, & all of you)))))))
Balsaam , I cried reading what you wrote. I am soooooo sorry for your loss. There just is no words to say, because it is so hard to find justice . Telling your son's story will honor him , and I know if there is a heaven he is there and must be so glad that you found your way outof that religion. Balsaam , my mother committed suicide and I still hold hatred in my heart towards the WTBS for the way she was treated,,,,,her medical problems that lead up to her death and there is just nothing I can feel , as I know you know ,,that can make it better. Like I said the only peace I have is that there is a heaven and that she already knows all the things I am still searching for and I have to think she is with me smiling because I found my way out of the borg. I hope I didnt say too much, but I just can tell by your writing how heartbroken you are. You are in a place of support and love here. Hugs to you, Dede
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the reasons why we leave makes a difference...
by littletree ini have a dilemma (did i spell dilemma correctly?
): i am the only person i know, of any of my former witness associates, who left because i started doubting/stopped believing the teachings.
i did research on the internet, read books, talked to people from different religions, etc.
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I left for not believing in the JW way any more. Even when I saw the truth of the "truth", I then had to emotionally break from it. I would have been d/f ,,,,,,,,because I was turned in for smoking by one of the ones who lived his own way , smoking right with me, but not a disbeliever as I was. So before I got d/f , I d/a myself making it clear as to the reason why, not believing it to be the only truth.
I know for a fact that there are many inactive ones, ( some are even family) other d/f ones who look down on me,,,,,,,I am in such sad shape you know being "apostate" and all. They feel pity for me, yet I feel pity for them, at least I am not on the fence, living one way and then feeling so full of guilt for it. But what can ya do? You can try to help them, most likely you will plant a seed of doubt, and hopefully one day , their own doubts will make them look further into why you left.
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is this a good idea?
by tsunami_rid3r ini need to get these professional prom pictures to the girl i took to prom and i'd like to leave some kind of impression like "it was a fun night" since we don't really talk much..being she has a boyfriend now.
i still have our tickets....should i staple one to the envelope and just hand all of it to her at lunch?
orrrr...should i hand it to her while she's walking with her boyfriend?
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I agree with Sweet Tee. If I ever get my scanner working I will post a pic of my son and his now ex g/f 's prom pictures. They were only going as friends but they did look nice.
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What would happen if...
by Raoul ini drive by a kh every morning after i drop my son off at his baby sitter.
the thought enters my mind ever day to actually stop in just before the meeting started.
not to disrupt things, mind you.
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LyinEyes
I drive by my old Hall almost every other day, and I look for a moment and turn my head away. I won't even allow myself to feel longings for that place anymore.... although it is a battle because I am the type of person to remember the good times , and miss them and forget the evil done to me. Don't worry thou,,,,, I am getting better at that.....hehe.
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How I healed the psychological injuries from my abuse in a cult
by Dogpatch inhow i healed the psychological injuries from my abuse in a cult.
by lawrence wollersheim.
i am the co-founder of www.factnet.org the oldest and largest internet .
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Deep spiritual
betrayal is among the hardest of the betrayals to overcomeThis is what I had the most trouble with .
I still mourn losing my religion,,,,,even thou it was a lie, it still hurts. It is hard to let go of the dream of what the JW's promised us. Life everlasting with our families, being even closer to God, never fearing death again.
I now in time, I may have a new belief system, maybe even some form of "religion", but I don't see it any time soon.
I do try to take things one step at a time, day to day,,,,,,,but there is that void that I am trying so hard to fill when things get crazy in life as they do. Learning to cope with real life, loss, etc. was so easy when you could just put real emotions off by saying,,,,,,,, " I will deal with this later", "wait on Jehovah", and thinking that death really never touched us because we KNEW for a fact that our loved ones would be resurrected.
Well, I can say the positive thing that came out of that is that I don't take forgranted each day with my family, but the fear of facing loss in the non JW way is very spooky to me.