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  Employee of the Year

  by Bendrr in

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  no, not me this year.

  i won last year.

  i just wanted to talk about this year, it's bothering me.

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  Mum

  Too bad, Bendrr.

  This politics nonsense is not confined to auto repair shops by any means. I do office work, and I see this stuff happening all the time. Now I work for a government agency where "incentives" have been set up in such a way that the guys (and some gals) at the top are eligible for huge bonuses every year, but the average worker gets the shaft. I am blessed with one of the best bosses in the system, but even she has her favorites, and it does not take a great deal of perceptiion to figure out who they are. I just go to work, do my job, and go home. In the past, I was always willing to go the extra mile, but I wised up when I learned the score.

  Regards,

  SandraC, who is a bit jaded
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  Opinions/Advice needed

  by joannadandy in

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  ok here is my deal.... for those of you who don't know already i have never been df'd or da'd.

  i just quit going, and was never baptized.

  (that will become relevant later).

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  Mum

  Ask yourself how you'll feel about it next week or next year if you go (or don't go).

  Who is giving the shower? Have you or your mother been in touch with that person/those people? They might be able to clarify exactly who was invited.

  If you decide to go, why not take a video camera, or at least a recording device and offer to make a copy of the tape a gift of the new mom. Then review the tape later after your feelings are neutralized.

  Also if you go, it would be best to go in your own car so you can leave early if you feel the need. I hope you're not the sort to break down crying when you're being treated badly.
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  Don't Accept Witness Rudeness!

  by metatron in

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  a lot of what elders ( and others) ask is just plain rude and you should tell.

  i've informed elders that 'inquisitions and interrogations are unchristian.

  and rude'.. imagine people showing up uninvited at your home, asking questions about your private.

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  Mum

  You're right as usual, metatron. However, as much as I would have liked to tell the elders where to put it, there was a time when someone very precious to me was still on the inside. So I was polite but noncommital, which seemed to give them the impression that I was still not entirely deprogrammed. It's very difficult in that situation.
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  Jack Handey

  by meadow77 in

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  for those of you familiar with snl, you will remember a great philosopher named jack handey.

  here are my three favorites deep thoughts of all time.

  share yours.

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  Mum

  Hi, meadow. I like Dr. Laura's advice, which goes something like this:

  When you bury your head in the sand, don't forget that the other end is sticking right up in the air.

  Ever in search of wisdom,

  SandraC
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  Ok who of you knows?

  by bigfloppydog in

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  i thought it would be cute to ask of any of you who could list the names of the santa's reindeer.

  in light of the fact that christmas is soon approaching.

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  Mum

  Excellent list, Scully. However, I think "Donner" (remember the California cannibals?) should actually be "Donder.

  Ever the perfectionist and winner of every spelling bee,

  SandraC of the unpopular but excellent spelling class
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  Consider my 'heart condition'? Is kidding who?

  by Xander in

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  another post i just made got me thinking on this..... how many knew jws who 'went through the motions', as it were.

  they might think the elders and the org itself was wrong in many areas, but still kept going to meetings, out in service, etc.. the thinking, of course, is that, when 'the big a' comes, god will look at their 'heart condition' and allow them to pass.. my thought on this is..... but why is that a good thing?

  their heart condition is wicked if they have doubts, right?

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  Mum

  I've entertained that same thought, Xander. They seem to think they're "puttin' one ovah on Jehovah" as if the omniscient One can't figure out what they're doing.
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  Do all witnesses shun you?

  by JH in

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  there are always a few tender hearted, who know that shunning is stupid and keep on talking to df'd people, when no one is looking.

  are there still a few who keep on talking to you, even if you are df'd?

  i'm sure that elders wouldn't shun you if you talk to them, so why do others have to shun you?

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  Mum

  No. Years ago when I first went inactive, I was shunned by an individual who is very friendly to me now when she sees me. This person married into my family in a sense, so I do see her from time to time, although she lives on the other end of the US.

  I was shunned about 3 years ago at my grandmother's funeral by an individual who subsequently became warm and friendly. After this particular episode, I said to my non-JW niece in front of my JW mom that that person's heart must be so full of Jesus that she went mute. My sarcasm seems to have had a good result, although I don't feel proud of it.

  My JW mother died on Dec. 7, so I traveled the 2,000+ miles to her funeral. The JW's were kind and supportive. My non-JW (never was a JW) sister-in-law said they were much more cordial to her as well. I did get a couple of those "we all have a decision to make if we ever want to see her again" speechlets. I'm glad I don't live near any JW's who ever knew me when I was inside.

  Once when my daughter and I lived in Indiana, a nice JW sister knocked on our door. My daughter answered the door, listened to her little sermonette, and said, "Oh, I've already been a Jehovah's witness." Did this scare away the poor sister? No. In fact, she came back, seeming curious about why we had left. But we never had a discussion with her because we were on our way someplace and subsequently moved to another state.

  When JW's knock on my door now, my roommate will answer and (a) pretend not to speak English or (b) tell them exactly what she thinks about people who protect pedophiles, even in her own church (Roman Catholic).

  I don't think JW's are clear about what the WTS' policy is on inactive vs. DF'd vs. DA'd vs. "marked" and the zillions of other slots they have placed us in.
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  what happens now?

  by Tyler_Durden in

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  hey folks.

  just bumped into my father & mother in-law, cool as cucumbers they ask if i'm screwing around behind their daughter's back (we've been apart 8 months), yes i am says me, i we go our seperate ways!!.

  a visit from the elders?

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  Mum

  Tyler,

  Welcome to the forum. Maybe what you can expect is that your wish will come true. Why not write a letter of confession and ask to be DF'd? They love those meetings because they want you to tell them titillating tales of trysts with wicked, wild, forbidden women. Don't give them the satisfaction. If they start hounding you, tell them to go rent a porn video instead.
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  Ex Elders Aren't The Only Jerks With Attitudes

  by minimus in

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  a lot of people that weren't elders show why they became witnesses in the first place.

  they complain about the attitude of former elders but they never look at their own crappy attitudes.

  maybe, it's because being a jerk has nothing necessarily to do with being a former elder.

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  Mum

  Wow, orangefatcat! Your story hit home with me. I remember when I started asking myself questions that I dared not express out loud. I did notice the lack of support for people in times of sorrow. But if there were a court case involving a congregation or something else to do with the image or "unity" of the borg, everybody had d*** well better show up!

  Regards,

  SandraC, who has straightened out her priorities
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  What is the best thing .............

  by freedom96 in

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  what is the best thing that has happened to you, from being on this or other ex-jw sites?.

  mine is meeting my wonderful bride.

  it was another site, and i was just looking around.

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  Mum

  I went to New York and participated in the Silentlambs march. I took my daughter with me as a birthday present for her. We had a wonderful time. It was the first time I had been to New York since 1971. I had been to New York for an assembly in 1963 and to visit Bethel in 1971. So every visit I've made to that great city is dub or ex-dub related. New York deserves better. So I'm going back in March for fun.

  From there I'm going to London for the Silentlambs march. It will be my first trip to the other side of "the pond."