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  Smoking

  by FL_Panthers in

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  i heard that the witnesses used to smoke back in the day.

  is this true?

  if so, what was the reasoning behind this?.

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  I believe the ban on smoking came about, as hoser said, for purposes of the public image of JW's. As a non-smoker, I can tell you that smokers can smell bad and have disgusting breath! I once had a job helping people look up information, and sometimes had to stand pretty close to help them interpret civi engineering drawings. Sometimes I almost gagged when standing next to a heavy smoker. Being clean, beardless, presentable and not smelly makes a "good" JW.
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  I met two Mormons today

  by Quarterback in

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  2. friends

  while going on my walk this morning, i saw two female members of the mormon faith coming towards me.

  as they got closer they initiated the conversation.. i stopped getting into arguments a long time ago with people about beleifs, so we just had a friendly chat, in the end of our conversation, they gave me a card.

  do you know what that card was about?.

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  Quarterback: You should see the old episode of South Park in which one of the kids is converted to Mormonism by his school chum. His biggest desire is to have "family home evening" like his friend. The guys who write South Park are ex-Mormons. I'm going to see their play, "The Book of Mormon" in July.
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  A serving elder's take on the new "tithing" arrangement

  by TTATTelder in

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  2. beliefs

  the gb can kiss my ass.. i'm writing "0" on the little slip of paper they pass out.. hey here's a thought:.

  you know that "widow's might" stuff they're always talking about?

  well i'm pretty dang sure that the lady was giving from the heart not because she filled out some dumba$$ piece of paper pledging two small coins several months previous!.

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  Mum

  I don't think it's good to have anything like a pledge to donate money in writing. I don't know if they would resort to a lawsuit, but they're FULL iof surprises. Even if they didn't file a lawsuit, they could call you into their kangaroo court and brand you a liar, say you breached your contract, or something similar. They're covering their butts somehow or other, or they wouldn't ask for a WRITTEN pledge. More oppresseive changes to come, I'm sure!
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  What do you do when your job makes you wanna puke your face off?

  by Julia Orwell in

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  2. friends

  i'm talking like makes you physically sick and emotionally frazzled just thinking about it.

  i'm talking like you hate it to the point you'd rather go without than work at it just for the money.

  you'd live on cheap korean packet noodles for the next year instead of exchanging your labor for this job's money.. well, this is how i feel about teaching and tutoring.

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  If you have clerical skills, you might be able to work for a temp agency. There are many such agencies in the U.S., and I have worked for them many times when I was between jobs. You could also make up business cards with a list of your skills and distribute them. Is there a state employment agency where you live? They sometimes have networking meetings, at least here in the U.S. We also have networking clubs. If you have enough money, doing temporary work might give you enough to tide you over until it's tourist season again.

  Do you live near a college? If so, you might take some classes to learn a new skill. They might also be able to administer vocational interest tests to determine what type of employment you are suited for.

  I hope these suggestions can get you started toward something you really like.

  Best wishes!
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  DF'ed and Confused...

  by Stumbeline in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  so i think the title pretty much says it all.

  i have a tendancy to be long winded about things, so i'll just give a general introduction and maybe tell things as i go along.

  i don't even really know what i want from this site (ironically i remember jehovahs-witness.net mentioned from the platform as a site not to go to).

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  Mum

  Relax and enjoy being free. I left the borg long before the internet, and it was a lot tougher back then. I'm glad you're moving out of state and starting over. That should make it easier for you. It's what I did as well.

  It took me two years to be mentally free after I left. So be patient with yourself. Take baby steps if necessary, but find out who you really are underneath all of those high-control motivated things you've been told.

  I recommend reading Dr. Wayne Dyer's Your Erroneous Zones. That book helped me change the way I look at things and to let go of guilt and anger.

  Give yourself permission to explore your options and become the person you want to be, not a person controlled by others.

  Best wishes for a happy future!
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  What is your favorite gospel music?

  by Zoos in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  my taste in music is pretty eclectic.

  i was listening to some andrea bocelli this afternoon and found this on youtube.. .

  oh my god!!!.

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  There isn't so much gospel music anymore. It has been replaced by those insipid "praise songs." I was taken to the Holiness Church when I was small. I love the songs we used to sing then, such as "The Old Rigged Cross," "Victory in Jesus," "I'll be a List'nin' for my Name," and "When the Roll is Called up Yonder," to name a few.
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  Appeal Against Elders Decision... Can Anyone Advise..

  by Almond in

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  2. relationships

  i meet a 6 years baptised jw girl.

  we planned to marry here in philippines ( no divorce here }.

  judge told me he can do the marriage so we livived together to be married.

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  Almond, my friend, I don't know if you are a JW, or if only your wife is. Your post seems to indicate that only she is. If so, explain to her the benefits of being disfellowshipped! She is free to read, do, think, exercise free will, and just to live as a human being, without having to have permission. She is trying to be a "good girl," and needs to be reminded that she is not a child.

  I agree with Honesty and others here who have told you that you do not owe the JW elders ANYTHING! They have set themselves up as "they who give or take away god's favor." It's just their imagination! Get over it!

  Now, you and your wife go and enjoy the benefits of marriage, and be the only two in your marriage. Throw everyone else out, especially JW elders. Enjoy!
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  17 April 1907

  by compound complex in

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  busiest day at ellis island: 11,747 immigrants processed.. did any of your great grandparents pass through those portals?.

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  Mum

  Not mine. On my mom's side, they came from Germany or Switzerland in 1727. On my dad's side, they came from the Scottish Isle of Jura in 1739. We Appalachian Americans did not come through Ellis Island.

  If I remember my American history correctly, American factories needed lots of workers at the turn of the 20th century, so they started allowing lots of southern and eastern Europeans in to do those dirty jobs. Now we need workers to pick fruit, and they come from Mexico for the most part. They are treated badly, but, thankfully, keep coming.

  To me, there are no "illegal aliens." I'm pretty sure my ancestors were not invited, but they were allowed to live and accepted as Americans.
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  loesch likes C of C

  by bigmac in

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  Mum

  It was very decent and open-minded of him to give the book some free publicity!
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  Life after meetings

  by GoUnion in

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  2. experiences

  what are the positives in your life since leaving jws?

  mine would be a healthier lifestyle mentally and physically.

  i'm free to do what i want and can make my own decisions, is this good for me will it help me or could it hurt someone else?

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  I have been out since 1979. I got a B.A. degree, traveled without having to attend an assembly, got my daughter un-indoctrinated. She has a degree in chemistry and a wonderful husband. My granddaughter and great granddaughter have had NO exposure to the JW's except that my granddaughter attended a couple of meetings when visiting her grandfather (from whom I have been divorced since 1981). My granddaughter, after attending a meeting, said, "They're insane!" Bright girl!

  I have read many self-help books and got a handle on my feelings and priorities. I had a lot of jobs, one of which is providing me with a good retirement income. I do what I like, and like what I do.

  Leaving my first husband and the JW's was the scariest thing I ever did. I almost didn't survive emotionally, and my daughter was used as a pawn to control me. But I can say the outcome was all worth it.

  Congratulations on a new and better life!