If that was taking place in a family relationship that would be called domestic abuse which is a criminal offence in many countries and yet JWs view is as spiritual instruction .
And yet while you are experiencing such behaviour constantly you don't notice it even though you feel something it's right , but until you admit to yourself that the king had no clothes ,it's only then you start to see how you were manipulated and controled and start the waking up process.
Abuse of this kind is a learned behaviour ,we probably all did it with our family and people we tried to preach to in the field service , thankfully we can and do unlearn this abusive behaviour and become better people for doing so.