Posts by SophieG

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The relief at leaving is greater today than when I first left.

by LouBelle in

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i am still so very grateful that sheez - 9 years ago i woke up.

i woke up to ttatt.

that i got free, that i am a normal, well adjusted human that has her ups and downs like everyone else.

The relief at leaving is greater today than when I first left.

by LouBelle in

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i am still so very grateful that sheez - 9 years ago i woke up.

i woke up to ttatt.

that i got free, that i am a normal, well adjusted human that has her ups and downs like everyone else.

When we die...

by Finallyfree12 in

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do you beleive our spirit lives on in other dimensions or are we really just dead?

?.

SophieG

When I first heard this:

We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

...my brain popped open!

Energy doesnt die it changes. Our physical bodies die. Our energy does not. It just changes. To what? Guess we will have to die to find out! ROFL!

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Yoga

by FL_Panthers in

one elder in my cong told me that this is a df offense?

is this true?

can yoga be practised?.

Yoga along with its meditations and chantimg opens your mind! The meditative part requires you to still your mind and empty your thoughts and be STILL! So no! The WTBS doesn't want you to do that, in fact they've always told us to "meditate on the things learned" which fills your mind with constant THOUGHT!

A still mind also allows you to hear that inner voice and whatever questions you may have. You start to have questions you start to get answers. They don't want you to get answers as they tap into your true spirituality, who you really are!

I love yoga and meditation, it's a daily practice for me. There are so many good results in it for your over all health and well being. You're more peaceful, calm and happier. You have a deeper connection to whatever IT is out there, hence you don't need the middle man.

so heck no they don't want you to go there.

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

SophieG

Hang in there! I used to feel so tired too... But it really gets better! Now I don't feel tired! I feel ALIVE! Much love to you!!!!

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how long before you felt refreshed and new?

by losingit in

waking up from jw-land is an extremely exhausting process.

about 3 years ago, i attended a month-long institute for grad school students.

during this time, i was surrounded by people from all over the united states and had active, deep conversations with so many about personal topics, such as religion and divorce.

SophieG

It's all part of the process of shedding a lot of the negativity of living under control. We lose it when the leave that Thing. Then other areas in our lives pop up that we THINK we can't control. Our reality is really based on how we think.

That's why I suggest therapy and if necessary meds to help stabilize you so you can think a bit more clearly. A good therapist especially one who understands our background can help one think differently about things. I talked my butt off in therapy and I got to HEAR how I thought about things, which helped me change how I DID things. I also learned the only control I have is of myself, my thoughts actions and emotions.

But the main thing that propelled me is DESIRE to live the best life I can. It forced me to ask myself how would I go about it. Then answers came over time!

It's a process Losingit, just remember that. There is light at the end of the tunnel. If you keep in mind you're making progress to that light each day, you'll be surprised to see in a years time that you'll be in a different place.

Take it from me. Abused JW spouse, clinically depressed, medicated, suicidal, exhausted to now FREE, content and happy, no meds and a zest for life!

It will happen. Just keep pushing for the best life you can imagine!

*no longer fading. Living out loud*

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what to do when you have a crazy friend?

by losingit in

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it's hard for me to start this topic bc i feel like i'm being judgmental, a quality i don't like in others and one i try to stay away from as much as possible.

i really do try to be an understanding, caring person.

i essentially believe that all people are good and i am shocked to my core when i am betrayed.

SophieG

"I do think she does like the drama, lives off the highs and the lows that it provides. It seems to function almost like an intoxicating drug for her."

Losingit I think you've discovered the true nature of your friend right there.
Like attracts like and you both had some commonalities. But the lesson is YOU are working towards a healthy life and she is not. She is here to remind you to stay on task and keep your boundaries up against all the negativity and irresponsible behavior she is displaying.

I had a good friend. JW on the edge. We shared the same DV history, and saw the org in the same way. However I moved past my situation and kept trying to help her to make to steps to peace and freedom. She had left him several times. Instead she served divorce papers on her abusing JW spouse, then allowed him to convince her to go to the same counseling which he had vehemently refused to do for years. In a session she admitted to coming close to committing adultery, ended up before the same elders who she had issues with and got herself DFd. Difellowshipping was something she adamantly had issues with. Then she turns around and goes back to abusive mate.

This is where I cold cut her off, not because I do not care for her and that she won't listen to me, but because I'm not going to stand by and watch within under a year the drama starts up with a vengeance, because I know this guy will use her indiscretions to beat her down. He will not change.

Some people are damaged and afraid to take the steps to heal and live. Some women are afraid of being alone. They stay in drama at times because it may be the only thing they know. These people are energy vampires. Cut the cord. You've learned your lesson. Time will teach them theirs.

Also pay close attention early on to people who come into your life. The minute it smells bad it probably is!

Wishing you the very best!

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Memorial Attendance: The Single Most Impactful TTATT "Witness" to Family and Friends

by AMNESIANO in

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anyone who has awakened to ttatt and conscientiously left the organization--especially a once-prominent individual from a prominent multi-generational tribe of jws-- after decades of devout, high-profile "serve-us," who continues to put in an annual appearance at the memorial thoroughly subverts and undermines, by this one act, any hope s/he may entertain that his/her departure will stir family or former friends to question the whole watchtower bamboozle.

by this one concession s/he assigns him-/herself by every single jw to their handy and dimissive purgatory: the "spiritually-weak.".

nothing blasts a louder, clearer, and more deliberate message to the jws who personally knew you and those familiar with your jw bona fides that you are not merely "not making the meetings" or "spiritually-weak" but that there is a conscientious reason you have rejected the entire watchtower society life than choosing to forego what they know you know to be their one-and-only holy and sacred event of the year, the lord's evening meal.

SophieG

...and THAT is why I will NOT attend!

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Reunion- Stepping Back to a Time Before All the JW Stuff Started

by OnTheWayOut in

although i was exposed to the jw's as a child as the only religion i knew, i was not a jw until i got out of the navy as a conscientious objector.

so i was typical "worldly" when i hit 18 out of high school and i got to see the world before personal catastrophy involving heavy drinking made me turn to the lies that i thought were "the truth.

" so just over 30 years ago, i got the special privilege of serving as the original crew of a brand new ship with a crew slightly over 200. i served 5 years on the "uss worldly" and then left to become a jw.. when you are the first crew, you learn together how to use that ship, how to run things smoothly.

SophieG

OTWO thanks for posting this.

i too have 4 years of worldly life in my late teens and looking back I had some great memories! I made such wonderful friends. But after those 4 years in a vulnerable state in ran back to the org and cut ties with all those people.

After spending 20 years in that prison I somehow broke free.

It was absolutely AMAZING to see over the last few years every single one of those people came into my life without any real effort. It's like something made them all reappear. Despite me cutting them out of my life they never stopped loving me and was so happy I was free and back to being ME!

i look back and it seems like I was on a path as if these specific people are a part of a bigger story of my life! It's been beautiful rekindling these friendships...and reuniting by 'fate' with the man I fell wholeheartedly in love with at 19!!!

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New Prince album quite interesting for JWs

by JimmyPage in

you've probably already heard that prince is calling his new album "follow the slave".

but a closer look at the track list raises even more eyebrows.

check out these song titles: "100 invisible years".

SophieG

Lol. His GF that became Jw married someone else.