LHG,
From the author David Ignatius:
”Often, the biggest decisions we make in life aren’t really decisions at all. They are the product of habit and momentum - things that have been going on for long enough that that have built up their own speed and force, and have become difficult to stop or deflect.
So you let them happen.
A lot of marriages are like that, and career choices and decisions about where to go to college, or whether to have children, or where to live. We call them decisions, but they really aren’t.They come to us pre-made, the sum of so many previous events and determinations that they have have a weight which feels like a layer of time”.
In short, we are not as free to make our own choices as some may have us believe!