Dear Simon, I have read your entire story segments, and I so honor you for being able to get the closure you needed and to move on in life. While taking your journey, you certainly have opened up a world of communication to those who felt so unloved, abandoned, unworthy, doomed to die, and out of sinc with reality.
In life we sometimes make wrong turns and wrong choices. Early in life, it is our upbringing that stages how we will "act out our part". Some are born into a certain belief system and others make a choice along the way. The thing is, when we figure out for ourselves that we can't go to sleep at night and live with "someone elses choice" of who we should be, then it's time to really dig down and take a look at our life on our terms. The cost will be worth the choice we make; it is something we must do.
You have done this. You and your wife have been able to do this together, and now you can reap the benefits of your decision with your children, who won't have to grow up under such a cult system. You give them a good start, and then later they make their own free choices. This is how life is. We can't control other people, and we shouldn't. This is what JW's try to do to families, and it only ends up splitting people apart and ruining relationships. Your love for beginning this forum when you did, and continuing it as long as you have, has helped so many people on here. We so needed this place. But, I do understand your need at some point, to put "this" behind you as well.
Some things will continue to haunt us forever if we allow it to do so. I too have seen many on the forum who cannot seem to break free from wanting revenge. That is so sad. Thank you for your love and compassion!! I do hope your plans work out to get to Canada. I'm sure they will. You're on the right track now for sure, and there is a reason why Canada is calling you back home.
Love,
Karen