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  I am a voice from the past - My poem for the MARCH

  by Lady Lee in

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  i am a voice from the past .

  i am a voice from the past .

  abandoned, rejected - an outcast .

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  xenawarrior

  ((((((((((((((((((((((Lee)))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  Excellent poem!!!! Tipping my hat to you again for all of the work you do for this cause. Thinking about you today and hoping this day finds for you some more peace. YOU RAWK!

  XW
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  Just curious

  by xenawarrior in

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  why aren't the jw's evangelizing on television and radio?

  it certainly seems to work for many groups and brings in a great deal of money.

  just wondering..... xw

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  xenawarrior

  Why aren't the JW's evangelizing on television and radio? It certainly seems to work for many groups and brings in a great deal of money.

  just wondering....

  XW
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  Huge Catalogue of Field Service Supplies!

  by expatbrit in

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  roll up and get everything from service bags to dog dazers!

  http://www.stoopsmfg.com/catalog/jpg/page1.html

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  Okay, where is the Popeil Pocket Fisherman??? And what? No Ginsu Knives? They don't even have any of those vegamatic thingees!!! What the heck kind of catalog is this?

  Nice briefcases though. Bookbags. I can't believe they actually say that. Another little "sublimal" way to control. Silly Rabbit, bookbags are for kids!

  I would like one of those coin pouches though. Looks sturdy enough for stash!

  XW
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  Visialization

  by Granny Linda in

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  2. friends

  ok. i'm not so sure i'll convey my thoughts in a conherent manner, but here goes.... tonight my daugher-in-law told me that i'm the most positive people she knows.

  that my husband and i not only think about what we want, but we get it.

  the only thing i could think to mention was "visialization.

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  visualization is a very powerful tool to use in your life. You can master it for your own purposes. If you can visualize yourself being successful at something very specific over a period of time- actually see the pictures in your head- your body and the rest of you will go along with making it happen. Athletes use visualization all the time. "Be the ball Danny"

  I read "Creative Visualization" by Shakti Gawain, many years ago and discovered that I had already been doing it, and learned how to fine tune it.

  an excerpt from her book with regard to "healing":

  "One of the basic principles of holistic health is that we cannot separate our physical health from our emotional, mental and spiritual states of being. All levels are interconnected and a state of "dise-ease" in the body is always a reflection of conflict, tension, anxiety, or disharmony on other levels of being as well."

  It's a good book to glean theory from. I don't get into the affirmations thing myself-too hookey for me but I understand the message and can apply it.

  xw- of the "usually overly optimitistic class"
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  Any Writers out There?

  by Sirona in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  who of you are writers out there?.

  since being a child, people have responded positively to my writing.

  i've written countless items of poetry, but never let them out into the public domain.

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  Sirona:

  How do you know what you write is any good?

  You've been hearing the answer to that all your life. BELIEVE IT. Hone those skills.

  Pick up the latest copy of "The Writer's Market"- It lists all of the publications that accept work from writers and what their specifications are etc. A real valuable resource. And start submitting your stuff. It take so little- just some stamps and envelopes and paper. Oh, and some thick skin. You'll get letters back saying "No thanks". Don't take it personally, go on to the next thing and re-submit to them again later.

  And keep writing. ((((Sirona))))

  XW
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  CC? How's Tink?

  by DJ in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  cc and tink?

  has anyone heard how the surgery went?

  is she home yet?

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  xenawarrior

  Lots of love coming your way!!!!!

  Get better girlie- we have some partying to do!!!

  XW
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  Ignoring trauma may be healthier

  by MegaDude in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  interesting article on yahoo news today that suggests repressing your emotions may be healthier than venting them.

  i have my doubts about this, but here's the article below that i found at: http://news.yahoo.com/news?tmpl=story2&cid=570&ncid=753&e=1&u=/nm/20020924/sc_nm/health_stress_dc

  stressed out?

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  Interesting topic.

  I don't think it's a black and white issue. That one is either totally ignoring their trauma or reliving it over and over again. I think there is a lot of gray area there and our own defense mechanisms kick in to help with that.

  The article said:

  "The findings of this study suggest that a repressive coping style may promote adjustment to traumatic stress, both in the short and longer term,"

  One of the ways people cope with trauma and it's affects on them is a general numbing of their self. They lose the ability to feel in the same way others would. In situations of repeated trauma or trauma that is prolonged over time, the person may become acclimated to the trauma and then become numb. This may mean they don't react to stress the same way others do but they also may not be able to experience joy in the way others might. Hardly a good trade off IMO.

  People who tended to repress their anxiety had the lowest levels of PTSD, the researchers reported

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  If this study was done in Tel Aviv- as Lady Lee said- they have been at war in some fashion forever. PTSD happens when there is trauma that goes beyond the mind's ability to cope, thus changes things inside for that person. If someone is brought up in an environment where there is constant war or there is constant dysfunction or continual abuse, that is reality to them. For them, their mind does have the ability to cope with these types of situations- what is going on around them isn't something extraordinary- in fact it's quite the opposite. For me, what they are living through is traumatic. For them it's another day.

  There are many people who are oblivious to how trauma has affected them. They don't see it. That may be a way of ignoring it but is it healthy? Depends. Are the manifestations of their trauma causing problems for them in their life and their relationships and their choices and their health? If not, perhaps they are coping just fine. Those situations are fewer than the ones where there is actual damage and it's evident to either the person traumatized or those around them. They may feel fine but act their "stuff" out on others and create havoc along the way.

  The addage- "You can pay me now or pay me later" rings true in so many cases. And unfortunately, the person traumatized isn't the only one paying for it later on.

  I think the saddest part of ignoring it all-truly being in denial about the affects trauma has had; is that for those who may never face it- they may be stuffing the ability to feel the pain, but along with it goes the ability to experience all the wonderful things in life to their fullest.

  I'll post the link to this article again. It is really a good one about how our memory files all of this stuff away- the good the bad and the ugly.

  Emotional memory management

  http://www.drjoecarver.com/memory.html

  The words of Viktor Frankl:

  "What man actually needs is not a tensionless state but rather the striving and struggling for some goal worthy of him. What he needs is not the discharge of tension at any cost, but the call of a potential meaning waiting to be fulfilled by him."

  XW
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  planning a "tropical vacation".....

  by scootergirl in

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  "filthy" (a.k.a.

  husband, jim) and i are planning on getting away to some sort of tropical island soon and i am getting overwhelmed with all the different places to go!

  i am in charge of planning, he is in charge of just showing up!

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  Sandals Resort in Ocho Rios Jamaica. Very romantic and lots of fun. All inclusive.

  XW
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  I am Back

  by Robdar in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i finally got my head out of my ass, got some things done, and most importantly i am no longer suffering withdrawal from the vicodin that i took for 3 months before and after my surgery.

  golly, that stuff is not good for you.

  causes depression, crying jags, bad tempers, etc.

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  (((((((((((((((((((((((((Robyn))))))))))))))))))))))))))

  Welcome back. Missed ya!!! - And I know what you mean about weaning away from pain meds- been through it myself. Glad you are feeling better.

  XW
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  Please Accept My Most Heartfelt..........

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  recently, i have had a few occasions when it's been neccessary - no, essential - that i say sorry to someone for something that i have said or done, in order that someone's hurt feelings are healed.. it doesn't make me feel demeaned at all when i say sorry, i don't feel any less of a person because i have apologised, although i am aware that some people find it almost impossible to apologise.. what do you think?

  is it a sign of weakness to apologise?

  is apologising a desirable thing?

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  I think sincere apologies show character. They're not easy for humans to do and they indicate a person has class.

  Very well said!!!! And if one won't apologize I think it shows a lack of both.

  Hey, cool bear Star!!!!!

  XW