After 4 years, it is strange that they want to act now. Two elders came after me a year after I'd left and when I threatened to speak to a lawyer they backed off. My threat was empty but it worked. I agree with the others that it would be strange for your family to look more kindly upon your disassociation than disfellowshipping. I suggest you stall them, and in the final event, don't meet them.
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Feral elders
by SixofNine incame to my door this morning.
seems they want to clean up the books or somesuch.
they said that they had some serious "accusations" against me, and would be having an elders meeting (...."uh..uh...it's a judicial meeting" ) this wednesday evening.
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i thought beards were allowed in brittain
by in a new york bethel minute inwhenever people bug me about my facial hair (just a goatie, kept really neat and clean) i always say, "what's the difference whether im here or in england... mind your own business.
" the reason i say that is because i was always told that it's okay to have a beard in england.
brothers dont get their balls busted for facial hair there.
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scotsman
It varies from congregation to congregation. And they weren't permitted on the Dublin Bethel construction site.
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What have you been reading lately?
by Preston inblood meridian by cormac mccarthy.
i am legend by richard matheson.
my work is not yet done by thomas ligotti.
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scotsman
Al Qaeda & What it Means to be Modern - John Gray
War & Peace - Leo Tolstoy
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muslim coworker faces off with my pakistan peer
by the mole inthe last discussion was intense and good.
the info provided was outstanding.
just to add and get some good comments from this.
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scotsman
I don't think the Indian shop owners like it when they have "paki go home" sprayed on their shutters, and in the main 'paki' isn't the nicest way to refer to Pakistani's. Bit like Chink and Jock. Call me a facist but I'd rather be called a Scot than a Jock.
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Could someone search the internet and trace your name back to this site?
by Netty inhow would that work?
i know that if they typed in jehovahs witness or whatever, and this site came up then they could surf the site and may happen to stumble on your posts and find you.
but what i dont know is, say your name is jane doe, they type jane doe in google, or whatever they use to search, and jane doe comes up with posts you have made to this site.
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scotsman
If you type in "netty jehovah" JWD is the second entry. Hope this isn't too alarming!
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why take the time to "fade"?
by doogie inhey guys,.
i'm perplexed by something and i don't know how well it will be received on this board but i'm really curious.
why did you take the time to fade away vs. just daing yourself?.
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scotsman
I'm not dfed or daed just stopped going to meetings and it still resulted in some of my family shunning me. I didn't go through some long fade, and I feel sad for those who do and the end result is the same as if they'd been dfed. Doing the fade is like a cancer to some relationships, as opposed to the cardiac arrest of a dfing. I much prefered the Witnesses who cut me off rather than those that have slowly shut me out.
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Question... Do JWs shun Family?
by Sassy ini had a disagreement with xq in chat today, because he was trying to say that jws for the most part disobey the wts and still treat family like family even if they are dfd or quit being witnesses.. i don't feel that is true.
i think that the majority of us on here who no longer are jws have family members who no longer have anything to do with us and shun us.... so i said it would be interesting to take a poll and see how many here are treated just like all the rest of your 'loving family' who is a jw still.......are you treated the same?.
does family shun you for being df'd, da'd or no longer participating?or do they hide and talk to you but only when other active jws can't see?
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scotsman
I'm not dfed but have been out for over 3 years. One brother shuns me, the other doesn't. The latter is an elder. We like to paint them as the Stepford Witnesses but they're individuals and they apply the WT principles in varying degrees.
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Did You Stay as a Witness Because You Needed a Social Life & "Friends"?
by minimus inrecently onacruse made a comment regarding why many jws remain jws.
a lot of people look at religion as a way to get together and be social with one another.
let's face it, people need "friends".
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scotsman
Yes, that is probably why I remained a Witness. I had a great social life with a lot of friends. I knew the friendship was conditional so although it was unpleasant when 99% of them dumped me, it wasn't a shock. It sounds like I was all the things everyone else here despised, upper crust, spiritual aristocracy and the fun ms/elder. When I left I got a lot of calls from friends, letters, visits etc trying to persuade me to stay but personal honesty finally became more important than family and friends.
Of course, I still have a great social life and good friends albeit on a smaller scale, and I still have some fantastic friends who are JWs despite our very different viewpoints. Seems I've been pretty lucky.
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Any Morrissey Fans out there??
by Eyebrow2 ini recently bought his new cd "you are the quarry".
i was a bit disapointed that there was no case with it...just in card board sleeve...i guess he is cheap in his old age hahah.. it is a pretty decent album...he sounds the same as he did when i first started listening to him in the early 90s....i saw his video for "irish blood, english heart" and was shocked...he has aged!!!
how dare he look his age..he looks good, still handsome...but not the hottie he was when i was 20....sigh.
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scotsman
He is begining to look like someone's dad. I've seen him a few times in concert, even been involved in a fight for his sweat soaked top that he threw into the audience, so yes ladies and gentlemen, I have tasted Mozzer's sweat, and it was good!
I found it a bit embarressing when he was interviewed both by Jonathan Twat Ross and Jools Holland. I like him to sing and be enigmatic, not a middle aged teenager.
Favourite on this album... Hector's damned catchy.
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Rumors started about you since you left.........
by avishai ini've supposedly been.... gay.
dead.
a satan worshipper.
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scotsman
I forgot this one
That I am disfellowshipped.
I'm not. That was just wishful thinking on some people's part.