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  How Do You Measure Your Self Worth?

  by minimus in

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  how do you feel about yourself?

  do you struggle with what kind of person that you are?

  do you feel happy, empty, or are are you apathetic?

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  I also measure my self worth by what I do for others. Usually it's the little things, I smile at everyone, I compliment people whenever I can, I donate blood, those are the things that make me feel I am "good". However, I also have doubts as to whether what I am doing is what "God" wants me to do. I am uncertain what comes after this life, so there is always a certain fear, if you will, about my path. Also, I recognize that I am imperfect, and have faults and make mistakes, and sometimes wonder if those mistakes are going to cost me the good part of the hereafter.

  While I am uncertain, I do my best, and I think about how to better myself, and that, I believe, is a good way to become a good person.
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  JWs at my door

  by larc in

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  about two months ago, two witnesses showed up at my door - the first visit in over 10 years.

  they were nicely dressed in suits - two men in their mid to late 30's.

  the one doing the talking presented the magazines.

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  Sometimes I wish I could pose as an "interested one" and ask some tough questions that might get their minds working. However, since I live in the same neighborhood I grew up in, most of the dubs around here know me, and so I couldn't pull it off. Good luck to you, though, and have fun!!
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  Fellow Posters ........And What They Accomplish

  by minimus in

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  have you ever wondered why a person posts the subjects that they do?

  in getting to know you, here, on this forum, i've come to appreciate certain things.

  each individual contributes to the makeup of this board.

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  Good question, what makes a person post? I lurked here for months before I finally posted, and my reason for finally doing so was because I wanted to really be part of the group. I probably haven't posted enough to be recognisable, but hopefully that will change with time.
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  Not intrested in Christmas

  by sleepy in

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  i'm just not interested in celebriating christmas.maybe the witnesses had that one right.. if i had children i would probably give presents , just so they don't feel left out , thought not having them myself did me no harm , maybe it made me stronger.but christmas is just one big fake pushed by big businessess, i am not their pawn to be played with.. ok you can have a good laught a few drinks and all that but all the while we are being taken advantage of by the comercial world .imagine the money they would lose if their was no christmas.. can't wait for that big turkey tomorrow though.

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  I like the holidays. Having the internal strength to leave the organisation means I also have the strength to make holidays into what I want them to be. I like "rituals" which include decorating the house, singing holiday songs, and spending family time together. I also decided a long time ago that I would not let commercialism invade the holidays, so my son only gets two gifts from Mommy and Daddy. That way, we can focus on what's more important. As for "political" or "obligation" gifts, yes, I buy them for my mother in law, but I also buy her birthday gifts and such, so it's not just because of Christmas. We also celebrate Kwanzaa, which includes giving gifts that you have made yourself, which further discourages a materialistic bent. I understand why someone would think Christmas has been commercialized, but I think that's only if you let it. Life is always what you make of it.
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  What WAS The New Light on 1914?

  by Francois in

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  ok. i admit i'm clueless, but i haven't been involved with the jws for years.

  and i've not heard here what that new light is supposed to be.

  i've been very busy living a jw-free life and enjoying it very much.. could someone please tell me exactly what the lastest flip flop on the 1914 generation is?.

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  I asked one of my sisters ("fleshly") to explain this to me, and she could not. She hemmed and hawed, and finally told me I should talk to her husband, who is an elder. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but if I am spending my life in a group, at the very least shouldn't I understand what I allegedly believe????? I wanted to use that as a starting point for further discussion, but she would have none of it, and changed the subject.
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  The truth about the first year of marriage

  by meadow77 in

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  the guests have gone home.

  you've opened all the gifts.

  what surprised you the most about your first year of marriage?.

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  My first year of marriage was ok, but I certainly realized some truths about my husband. We were together three years before we got married, and all that time he espoused thoughts about men sharing in household chores if the woman also had a full time job. Well, it was certainly a good thought, but actions told an entirely different story. He rarely does housework or cooking, and then only if I really ask him to. He works weekends, which means he has two days during the week at home alone (our son is at daycare) where he could vacuum, do dishes, etc. Instead, he chooses to work on music and watch TV dating shows. I am not the type of person who likes to argue, so I don't bring it up very often, but it really pisses me off to come home from work and find the house not clean, and no dinner being made when he's been home all day. He is a really nice person, but he thinks normal rules don't apply to him, and that sharing in keeping the house clean is no big deal. We've been through some tough things together, including the death of our first born daughter, so it's really hard to picture leaving him, but honestly, I sometimes really want to. I think marriages would be happier if the spouses didn't live together.
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  Songs stuck in the head

  by whyhideit in

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  you ever get a weird song stuck in your head.

  this one always comes out from time to time, and i have no clue why.

  why would my witness parents play this song and allow it into the minds of their children.

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  Hey, Meadow77

  I don't remember the name of the song, but it's by Michael Jackson, and it's awesome!!!!!
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  Songs stuck in the head

  by whyhideit in

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  you ever get a weird song stuck in your head.

  this one always comes out from time to time, and i have no clue why.

  why would my witness parents play this song and allow it into the minds of their children.

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  Ok, stupid song that has been stuck in my head for years. It's by the comedianne Julie Brown

  "'Cause I'm A Blonde"

  Because I'm blonde I don't hafta think

  I talk like a baby and I never pay for drinks

  Don't have to worry about gettin' a man

  If I keep this blonde, and I keep this tan

  'Cause I'm a blonde, yeah yeah yeah

  And no, I am not blonde! Also, on the same tape, "The Homecoming Queen Has a Gun" but that song is no longer politically correct (even though it was funnier than all get out, and so was the video).
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  Change your world...

  by VeniceIT in

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  i know there are soo many new people on this board in the past year or so, and i haven't been posting a whole lot lately i've been busy with school and what not, but i did want to kind of give a bit of an update and hopefully some encouragement for those that are in the process of leaving the borg, and have left friends and family behind.

  in the summer of 2000 my entire world shattered around me.

  for more details you can click here.

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  Thanks, Venice, for a great post. I wish I could somehow get my family to see the "truth". I admire you for standing up for your real beliefs, and I hope that someday you will get to hug and kiss your niece, sister, and brother in law.

  Happy Holidays!!

  Happyout
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  Thank God no one was watching.....................

  by Jesika in

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  i was putting clothes in the dryer the other day and went to turn it on and it wouldn't start.

  i couldn't figure out what was wrong since i had just taken some clothes out of the same dryer.

  i looked down and noticed i hadn't closed the dryer door .

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  Too bad I can't post anonymously here. Ok, one day driving home from work I started looking in my purse for my house keys. I totally freaked out because I couldn't find them, got off the freeway, and almost got all the way back to my office before I remembered my house keys are on the same ring as my car keys. Yep, I'm an idiot.