Posts by mamashel

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Tearing me to shreds

by Mimilly in

things have been going great for me as of late.

i should've known - should've been wary.

good things don't happen to me without a price.

mamashel

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((((mim))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

I feel your pain sweetheart. Been there done that. And i dont say that lightly like everything is just ok in a day. It is a very painful thing to love someone so much, and also hate them too. You are hurting right now, and the best thing you can do is to let yourself feel your pain. Dont try to push it away, just take it one day at a time. I had to learn to love myself first and tell myself that I will be ok with, or without this man in my life that i felt like i could'nt even breathe without in my life. I acted so ugly, i litterly pushed him out the door. We did end up in the end getting back together, but it was a long long road, and still is.

I hope things work out well for you, but as i said before, take one day at a time, and get to know yourself, and what really makes you happy, and then look for someone or something else to make you happy. You never know, he may get out there and relize what he is missing, and you may be the one to tell him it's too late. I hope you feel better soon hon.

love

mamashel

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What are your thoughts on writing DA letters?

by mamashel in

as most of you know, i have been inactive for about 2 1/2 yrs and completely out for about 7 months.

i am debating on wether or not to write a letter of da to the org or not.

in some ways i just want closure, and on the other hand i dont want to play by their rules.

mamashel

As most of you know, i have been inactive for about 2 1/2 yrs and completely out for about 7 months. I am debating on wether or not to write a letter of DA to the org or not. In some ways i just want closure, and on the other hand i dont want to play by their rules.

My husband is inactive, and just doesnt want to go any more. Says he wasnt cut out to be a JW. But there is still a part of him that believes it's true because he was raised as a jw. He says if i want to write the letter he wont be upset, but i really dont know what to do. His family is ALL still in and i dont want them trying to make him misserable talking about me to him about it. He doesnt have much contact with them though.

Just wondering what your thoughts were.

thanks

mamashel

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What can a mother do??

by Tish in

i have just had a conversation with my son who is 8 years old and don't know what to do.

i'll start from the beginning so you understand.. as some may know my hubbie left me when i was still a witness for not believing the truth and also went off with another woman.

i then after a few months met a man i fell in love with instantly.

mamashel

First of all you sound like a really good mommy!

I remember when my youngest son was about 5 or 6 yrs old, and i could not believe how much they actually learn and retain, but he looked up at me on a Sunday morning in my bedroom with tear filled eyes, and said "mommy i dont want to die in armegeddan." I thought my heart stopped. I had never felt pain like that before. I honestly felt pain in my heart. My husband and I just looked at each other, and didnt even know what to say. I just pulled back the covers and let him jump in the bed with us and held him as tight as i could. I later took him aside and explained to him the best way that i could that mommy and daddy's make mistakes sometimes. I relized at that time that FEAR is the biggest thing that the organization uses to keep you in, and even my baby was afraid. I told him that we thought that we were doing the right thing at the time, but we were given bad and wrong information, and try to put those things out of your head. I know it will only be with time that these things will really be able to diminish out of their heads, and there is still alot of confusion for them (we have 6 children), but the thing we have done for them is to get them very involved in activities. They recently have been playing football, and they love it. They are also into swimming and karate. I try to keep them as busy as possible.. It has been really really good for them. As a matter of fact, one of my sons that was very shy and quiet, has so much more self esteam now, he really feels good about himself.

I feel so bad sometimes for what i put them through over the last 10 years of being in the org, but just pray that one day soon, i will find out the truth about God and Jesus Christ and know it in my heart.

I hope all is well with you and your son. God Bless

Shellley (mamashel)

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Hi

by trybalance in

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i'm a first time poster.

i'm not a jw.

my wife has been a jw for 5 years now.

mamashel

Welcome. I like your name, that's very creative. I agree with you about alot of anger being on this board. The thing is as most everyone else has said is that alot of people have been hurt over the years by the organization. My biggest hurt was not some type of abuse to my family, like some here, even though my daughter got pregnant by a baptized "brother" and nothing was done in any way shape or form to him in the way of diciplinary actions that they follow, but my daughter, who was not baptized and only 17, lost every and all privilages she had, including commenting and field service. She was shunned so terribly that she wanted to give up on life and on God. But that wasnt the hardest part for me. The hardest part for me was to find out after 10 years if total dedication, everything i believed in, I came to find out after much study and much information, that it was all a lie.

Now dont get me wrong, some of their teachings are biblical, but others are just based on what they want to make rules for. Example: men are not aloud to wear beards - can you find anywhere in the bible that says this is some kind of sin and why it should not be? No, i searched it for years.

I wish you well in your marriage, but i truely believe its only a matter of time before they start talking about her and shunning you both if you have not converted to their way of believing. But i will say, i have the utmost respect for you in loving your wife enough to do this for her. That is exactly what i did with my husband. I went because he wanted to go, but inside i knew that it was not for me. We have been out for about 7 months now, but were in and out for about 3 years.

Again, welcome and i wish you well.

Shelley

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SALVATION?? What is it really?

by mamashel in

just wondering what some of your thoughts were on this topic of salvation.

i've heard alot about it and really want to believe it, but i am having such a hard time understanding about god and jesus christ since leaving the org.

i am fed up with organized religion and am afraid to go to chuch.

mamashel

PB, thank you so much, i would love to hear your testimony. Wht you wrote here is exactly what i have felt for so many years. The fear of doing the wrong thing or making the wrong decision, i just completely gave up. But there is still a tug at my heart to search for God and the truth about God and his son Christ Jesus.

Thank you so much, and also to those who responded.

mamashel

You can email me if you like PB at [email protected]

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Boundaries For Nice People

by xenawarrior in

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here is a link to a really good article on boundaries: .

http://www.phenomenalwomen.com/cbd/art/11.htm.

part 2 is here: .

mamashel

Nice articles xenaw, thanks. How are you doing by the way. I've missed you in chat. Just wanted to say hi. Hey btw, i remember when i first came here you were one of the first ones that i talked to in the chat room, and you were have a slumber party for abuch of girls. Send me a good vibe, because i am having a huge party for my son and daughter for their birthdays this weekend, probbly about 27-30 kids. We're havin a bonfire.

Nice to here from ya xw, take care.

mamashel

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Hope I don't get into trouble with this one!

by Lin in

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how to ruin a romantic evening!

simon, please don't kill me!

mamashel

Lin, that is hillarious. That would deffinately mess things up a little.

mamashel

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I quit smoking!

by 4christ in

i have smoked cigarettes since i was 12 years old, a pack a day for 16 years.

i have not had a cigarette since friday night and it is monday!

i am craving a smoke but i am not going to have one because i don"t smoke anymore!

mamashel

YOU GO GIRL!

THAT IS GOOD NEWS. I QUIT ABOUT 4 YEARS AGO, SMOKED OFF AND ON FOR ABOUT 20 YRS..

THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS DRINK TONS AND TONS OF WATER. THIS WILL HELP FLUSH YOUR SYSTEM OUT, BECAUSE AS LONG AS THERE IS NICOTINE IN YOUR SYSTEM, YOUR BODY WILL CRAVE IT. THAT'S WHAT MY DOC HAD ME DO ANYWAY FOR THE FIRST WEEK OR TWO.

GOOD LUCK AND STAY STRONG

MAMASHEL

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SALVATION?? What is it really?

by mamashel in

just wondering what some of your thoughts were on this topic of salvation.

i've heard alot about it and really want to believe it, but i am having such a hard time understanding about god and jesus christ since leaving the org.

i am fed up with organized religion and am afraid to go to chuch.

mamashel

Just wondering what some of your thoughts were on this topic of Salvation. I've heard alot about it and really want to believe it, but I am having such a hard time understanding about God and Jesus Christ since leaving the org. I am fed up with organized religion and am afraid to go to chuch. Can anyone help me with some information or scriptures or something. I just dont know if salvation is what i am suppose to be looking for, and how could we have missed that in the bible as a jw if it was there all the time. I mean i understand how the jw's twisted the bible and all, but I get so tired of trying to pick the bible apart looking for the answers.

Anyone?

Shelley (mamashel)

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Tomorrow is my daughters Birthday

by mamashel in

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yep, believe it or not, my sons b-day is oct 9, and my daughters is october 11. they are 2 years and 2 days apart, and the really wierd thing is they are 2 hrs,and 26 minutes birth time apart.

thank you all so much for my sons birthday wishes, he got such a kick out of them.

my daughters name is brittany and she will be the big 13. this is her first b-day celebration since leaving the hall too.

mamashel

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY GIRL!

A Daughter's Gift by Robert Sexton When I imagine
the life you will live,
I think of the pleasure
your presence will give.

I see the joy your smile will light
and the wonders you'll weave
when your dreams take flight.

I feel the hope
that will grow with your grace
and the difference you'll make
to each heart you embrace.

I imagine your life
as I know it will be;
for, my daughter, you've given all this to me.