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  Goodbye and thank you.

  by wallievase in

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  it's come time for me to leave.

  i honestly feel at this point continuing to visit this site and others like it is starting to hinder me from moving on by keeping all the feelings of pain, resentment, regret, etc fresh.. i haven't posted a lot since i have been on here but to those of you that replied when i did, i appreciate it very much.

  you helped me through a very rough time that is affecting me to this day.

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  Advice Needed...Again

  by wallievase in

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  current update- the wife and i are separated.

  i dont go to the meetings or in service but im not df, or da.

  she is not budging.. problem- my wife has made it clear that she doesnt want me back unless i do all the witness stuff, i have even offered to attend meetings but not participate in commenting or go in service and this is not good enough.

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  FuGK This Religion- Stop Ruining My Life!!!

  by wallievase in

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  i am sorry for the title but today just took the cake.

  after not going to the meetings since august and trying to sort through this with my family, my wife today told me she wants to separate because of our differences over being a witness or not.. this is ridiculous.

  so i said- how can you separate from me when the religion you whole heartedly believe says you can only separate for 3 reasons- abuse, willful non-support, or stopping her from her meeting attendance, etc.

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  Why are you treated as mentally ill if you try to leave?

  by wallievase in

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  i would just like to know why people are always treated like you have to be depressed or have some type of serious mental issue if you try to leave?

  you cant just leave because its not for you?.

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  The Givers

  by wallievase in

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  i saw the film the giver tonight.

  all i could think about through the whole movie was the organization.

  any thoughts?.

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  3rd Update on Fading

  by wallievase in

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  ok well i have updated you about the dilemma about my wife and family and more recently about the elders trying to schedule a shepherding call.. on our way back from th international convention she basically told me if i were to leave that we should go our seperate ways.. so i took a few days and thought about it.

  it seems she was more mad about my waffling back and forth and going to the hall sometimes and just not making up my mind.. today i gave her a proposal- i will stop going all together unless it it an assembly or convention or memorial for her.. we will not discuss religious topics, as this is where most of our arguments have been centered around, at all.. we will support all of each others endeavors besides religious intrests.

  i will talk to my family and let them know my intentions without getting into an details next month because my mother keeps calling me about it.

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  Update on Fading Question

  by wallievase in

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  the other day i posted my delimma about dealing with family and leaving.. update: my wife came home from the hall sunday (i have now missed about 3 weeks in a row) and the elders now want to schedule a sheperding call.. should i just blow them off, or when they come over (because im sure my wife will have them over even if i decline) just tell them i cant do it right now?.

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  Advice on fading needed

  by wallievase in

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  these 2 options are before me right now-.

  1. write a letter to the elders and my family, not da myself but basically saying i have too much going on in my life and am confused, so that they will stop bothering my wife and stop asking me questions all the time.

  after i write the letter continue to go to the hall less and less.... 2. appease my wife.

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  How do you mentally switch off

  by joe134cd in

  1. watchtower
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  when i was first introducing myself to apostasy, i sincerley believed i could play both worlds.

  at the time i wasn't happy been a witness, and i didn't like the people in my congregation, but i thought i could just stumble along.

  with in 18 months of visiting my first apostate site, i had walked out of the kh.. what i have a hard time getting my head around are these people who can successfully play both worlds.

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  Better than God?

  by wallievase in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i still go to the hall for my wife's sake.

  so i was reading the weekly bible reading and came across the great example of abraham.. abraham was always questioning jehovah/god- will you destroy the city if it has this many faithful ones... and this week in genesis 15- he asks what are you going to give me for an inheritance and later- how do i know these things are going to happen... i bring up this up to say- if the almighty god of the universe doesnt expect unquestioning obedience and blind faith, how does the gb or elders?

  are they thinking they are above questions when god doesnt consider himself above questioning?

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