Remember the straining gnats and swallowing camels thing? Well, I see that in this context. So, the JW god is concerned about what we do with our weenies & coochies (straining gnats), yet for millions of years he has allowed extreme horror, misery, suffering, brutality, torture, etc. to exist among his sentient creation (swallowing camels)? Human history is filled with thousands of years of such and animal history is filled with millions of years of it.
I have seen sheer horror in my life; and what I've seen is not even like a single molecule on the tip of a massive iceberg. Try to imagine all that humans have suffered over thousands of years - especially in the past before even things like aspirin existed. Think of the tortures, the horrific injuries, the festering infections, the toothaches, the diseases. Think of what animals have suffered for millions of years. They have been eaten alive, suffered horrible diseases, suffered horrific injuries, been burned alive in natural fires, frozen, starved, thirsted, been tormented by parasites*, etc. Fix all that; then, we can talk about sex rules & etiquette. Stop swallowing the camels; then we can concern ourselves with the gnats.
*I recently read about some moose in the U.S. who are so infested with ticks (as many as 90,000 each) that they are called "ghost moose" because they lose their hair and appear gray or whitish. 90% of their calves die because they just can't stand the misery that they are born into. I've had one tick bite make me miserable; I cannot conceive of the sheer 24hr per day misery those moose endure. They are in misery right this minute, and JWs are worried about bedroom rules.