Posts by Netty

Yes, unfortunately, I looked down on others. But I tell myself not to feel too bad about it, because that is what I was TAUGHT to do. When you are raised from a small child to do this, its hard to tell that it is wrong until you get older and figure it out for yourself. Some who are still in the truth never will figure it out. Recently I told my mother that we were taught to do this as witnesses, not only to others in the truth but "worldy" people also. She had a conniption, she was so appalled at me for suggestions such a thing...

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Boy dies of Leukemia, others live

by M.J. in

here's a touching story about a boy who recently lost a battle to leukemia due to not finding a match for a bone marrow transplant.

yet, through special blood and bone marrow drives set up for him in the community, more than 25 people who attended have so far gone on to donate bone marrow, with most saving lives.

through this, nearly 4,000 people have registered into the national bone marrow registry as potential donors who could one day save lives around the world.. it is fortunate that since 1984, the watchtower society has made acceptance of bone marrow, the source of blood, a conscience matter.. http://www.dailystar.com/dailystar/dailystar/33473.php

Netty

Hi MJ

I live here in Tucson, and have followed this little boys story on the news for about two years now. I cried last night as I watched the 10:00 news, and they announced he, Carlos Valenica, had passed away not even one hour ago. Poor precious boy. He was such a brave boy, with a very positive outlook on things. Different times he was interviewed he would say he knew he was going to beat the leukemia, he just had such a bright outlook. It is outstanding that he was albe to help so many others. I know what you mean also, some JW's would allow their children to die, rather than receive a life saving bone marrow transplant. So sad.

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Ok. To all the women (mothers) posters

by sunshineToo in

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what did you do when you were 35-week pregnant.

i'm so tired.

Netty

Hi Sunshine,

Congratulations!! I say SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP. Go ahead, you are allowed. Do you work, or have other children, if not, go for it. If you work, could you ask to begin your maternity leave now, or start a part time schedule until you deliver? You may want to have the doctor check your iron to make sure you dont need a supplement. But if that is not the case, then this is a normal part of the process. I remember being way tired the first few months up until 3 months. The 2nd trimester of pregnancy is a breeze, your energy is back you feel great, people start feeling your tummy, all that is fun. The third trimester gets hard again especially down towards the end. You are almost there now and your body is getting ready for the big day. So rest up all you can, and dont feel bad or guilty about sleeping, because you need it. Sleep now while you can, all that changes after the baby is here. I feel for you, and understand how you feel. Just think, in just a few weeks you will be holding your baby in your arms, and look back on this and know just how worth it it all is.

Congratulations again, motherhood is such a beautiful thing!

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My experience with a group like the JWs

by JBB in

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hi everyone, i would like to share some information about a support group that has not quite gotten over the jw mindset yet.

i tried to close this issue, but a member of this group launched a campaign against me.

if they want to do that i will just post what they say.

Netty

Is there a way that you can clear this up a little, I live in Tucson and am on the verge of attending an ex-jw support group here that I found on Yahoo. Now I am really concerned, this is all very weird.

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Shooting at the park

by Netty in

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well, i know i dont post often, but still am very active reading all your posts for the last several months.

i had an incident happen yesterday that i just want to share, it scares me to death thinking about it.

i took my two year, my six year old, and a nine year old neighbor boy that my son had been playing with, to the park right down the street to play.

Netty

liolaia- as we were running down the street we heard sirens, thats how fast the cops got there. The police came to my house, (my husband is a deputy, heard it all on the radio, and asked his deputy friends to bring my childrens bike/scooter home as we had left it all there in the panic, part of my sons panic, wha was going to happen to his scooter?) my neighbor gave the description of the vehicle and people she saw, which makes me wonder where in the world my head was, because I had absolutly no description of anything. The deputy said her description fit what others at the park had seen. Per my husband, as of last night, they had not found anyone, people or vehicle, fitting the description.

thank you sf, Liolaia and pinned! and too funny about west side story. It always gets me how witnesses they have these stories to tell about how a MURDERERS rage turns off as soon as the name of "Jehovah" is mentioned...

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Shooting at the park

by Netty in

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well, i know i dont post often, but still am very active reading all your posts for the last several months.

i had an incident happen yesterday that i just want to share, it scares me to death thinking about it.

i took my two year, my six year old, and a nine year old neighbor boy that my son had been playing with, to the park right down the street to play.

Netty

Well, I know I dont post often, but still am very active reading all your posts for the last several months. I had an incident happen yesterday that I just want to share, it scares me to death thinking about it. I took my two year, my six year old, and a nine year old neighbor boy that my son had been playing with, to the park right down the street to play. I had been sitting on the bench, talking to my neighbor who was there with her 4 kids (all aged 5 and under) then I got up and went over to the big slide to watch my baby girl (who should have been ont the baby slide but she is very risky/acrobatic/fearless). The next thing I know here comes the neighbor lady all 4 kids in tow running and telling me to hurry up and get my kids and get out of there. She said something was happening, there was a fight going on. There had been a birthday party going on, and it seemed all the parents at the party were young parents, 18-20 ish. And sure thing I looked over and saw about 20 people from the party, gathered around in a cirlce yelling. The neighbor asked if I thought she was over reacting, I said absolutley not I agree lets round up the kids and get out of here, I tried to get my daughter to come down, she wouldnt, so I had to climb up the jungle gym to go get her, rounded up my son and the neighbor boy, went back to the bench to grab my keys, while the neighbor waited with my kids. As soon as I ran back to them I heard BANG BANG BANG, (from not even 20 feet away).

This part is the hardest, I just felt like I was frozen, I couldnt move fast enough, everything was happening in slow motion. The neighbor and I tried to decide where to run to, between us 7 children to protect. First we went to a trash barrell, everyone wasnt protected there, then behind a tree, and then finally we spotted a concrete table. We threw the children under the table (My knees are so scarred up, because I went down to my knees to hover over the kids). Then, I am not sure what our reasoning was from here, now I look back and am sure we were in a panic, we dont even live one block from the park, so we decided to run home.

The rest is a blur, we made it home and everyone is ok. But the part of this right now that just haunts me is how my six year old reacted. After we heard the shots, he started screaming at the top of his lungs "theyre trying to kill us, were going to die", and hyperventillating. My heart is just so broken right now, and I know I should forget it and not think about it, but that is just the worst thing I have ever had to deal with as a mother, to hear my baby panicking and screaming for (what he thought was) his life. He did this as we ran home, and for at least a two hours after we got home. I kept telling him everything was ok, and reassuring him, but its hard when your only training in life is to say "lets pray to Jehovah" or "things like this wont happen in the new system". I just didnt know exactly what to say to make him feel better.

I debated whether to call my own mother (looking for reassurance, yet knowing she would easily make this a way to be about "come back to Jehovah") I went ahead and called her, and I just dont feel better (I knew it) She told me a story of how they were at the hospital when my brother had his motorcyle accident (refused blood, went into comas, was close to being pronounced dead a few times) and there had been a gang shooting, both victims were at the same hospital. The gangs came into retaliate, and a gang member who obviously had a gun, started "questioning" my father to determine if he was a relative of the rival gang member who had been shot. So of course, my father started witnessing to him about why they were there. And all of a sudden where the gang member had been so enraged, kept his hand by his pocket like he was ready to shoot, his demeanor changed, he calmed down, and told my dad that his mother had studied and went to meetings for two years, those had been the happiest years of his life, and he left my parents alone. RIGHT! give me a break

sorry to rant.

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You Reap what you SOW??!!

by Netty in

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i am so bummed right now.

my sister, who is df'd, has so many medical conditions, she suffers alot.

she has recently been dignosed with fibromyalgia, and is in such extreme pain, she had to have cortisone injections into various trigger points into her neck and spine.

Netty

Also, she shared with him that I was reading "ex jw" info on the internet. He told her to stay away from me and not listen to anything I have to say about it. How dare him tell her to stay away from information that could release her from her bondage (and in turn most likely health problems too) as it is releasing me.

What flabergasts me about him saying this is the fact that he is NOT a witness, hasn't been for many many years, was df'd twice married a non believer, celebrates all holidays... Its a very sad thing that those who are still actively involved in being witnesses can say and do such awful things to their family members who chose not to be. But, someome who is not a witness, and has also suffered injustices in his life at the hands of the witness rules. I guess he still has the brainwashing and mind control, way way deeply driven into him.

I want to say something to him, wondered what you all might think about that? Guess I just feel so protective of her with all the humiliation and mistreatment she has suffered at the hands of my family, because she is df'd.

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JW Prep Schools?!

by imallgrowedup in

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i was just reading another thread that mentioned something that knocked me over!

this thread mentions the existence of jw prep schools!

can anyone enlighten me on this topic?

Netty

p.s. it was not a "home school" we also went to a real location, this was in the 70's.