What's the best way to let someone down gently? (page 5)

luna2

Good for you, ballistic. I think you did it just right. I can imagine how you feel, though. Never feels nice to end something (well, unless you ride it to the bitter end or something).

I've just come out of a 20 minute heavy msn conversation... She did not want to take no for an answer but I think I was patient and kind. I let her get the last word in that it was my loss. I'm now mentally exhausted. I'm going out to buy a bottle of wine... and I'll be back to post some pure un-adulterated fluff.

looking_glass

B-man, you are a good man. Take comfort in that. I look forward to your fluff post when you return from the bottle shop.

ballistic

Sorry, the msn fired back up again... I know I shouldn't post personal stuff on here, but this is the kind of message I'm dealing with at the moment...

i was with my ex for 7 yrs. he was possessive, wouldn't give me any money, let me work, have any friends, he had to know where i was and what i was doin. when i tried to leave him he committed suicide in front of me and my kids. so i know what its like to b hurt

looking_glass

YIKES!!!! WTF!!!!!

Okay. Well she needs to deal with some problems there. Just because you break up with her does not mean that she gets to pull out the ex who killed himself card. That is unnecessary and mean spirited. The only thing I can think to say is that you ended it the proper way and you ended it soon enough that you would not have to deal with more of this stuff.

Stick to your original plan. Go to the bottle shop, get some vino and enjoy your day. No more of this nonsense!

daystar

Hey ballsy. After getting something like that, I think I would turn on my ignore switch.

WildHorses

Ball, she's just trying to make you feel sorry for her is all. Or, she could be telling you this as a way of explaining why she didn't have sex with you. After going though something like that, it makes one a bit gun shy if you know what I mean/

I'm just glad you two didn't sleep together. This way, it will be easier for her to get over and move on.

ballistic

I know, I feel sorry for her. I told her I'm here to listen so I'm not about to block her on msn. It's awful to say this, but I guess I did the right thing. It was just a few dates at the end of the day.

luna2

Dang...at some point you'll probably have to turn msn off if she keeps on like that. I can just see you listening to all her angst and being all sweet and kind only to have her pity party turn to anger when she realizes you aren't going to be coaxed back.

ballistic

No - all is quiet for now. But I'm subdued, someone else is going to have to start that fluff thread for me. There's weird twists and turns in life. One time I fell in love with a girl on this board but I couldn't post about the breakup because it wouldn't have been right. I felt so alone. This occasion I was breaking up with a girl rather than the other way round and it really helped to get it out in the open. I have tried my best to do the right thing and I think it helped to talk about it.

What's the best way to let someone down gently?

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