What's the best way to let someone down gently?

by ballistic 97 Replies latest jw friends

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  looking_glass

  Dido- I remember which one you are referring to but I did not take it he was "keen" on her. I thought he was just making a statement of how it is difficult to meet people and when you do sometimes they live far away which can add to the difficulties.

  P.S. I posted the fluff thread for you B-man. It consists of short clips of famous movies reenacted by Bunnies. I think it is hysterical. I love the one on the Big Chill. But Brokeback Mountain is pretty good too. Check it out. I think you will get a chuckle out of it.
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  MissBehave

  sorry you're going through this ballistic. Dating and relationship stuff can sometimes be very difficult. But you handled this situation the best possible way. Just don't allow yourself to be manipulated into feeling any guilt. At the end of the day, the one person you're responsible for taking care of is you. And you always must do what's best for you when it comes to dating even if it means the other persons feelings get hurt. Sounds harsh I know....but that's the way it is.

  Lots of hugs to you!!!!!
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  dido

  All right guys, i was teasing!! Don`t hang me!
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  KW13

  alright but only this once
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  looking_glass

  sorry dido. feel free to send B-man an e-mail telling him, he lead you on and you expect a marriage proposal shortly otherwise you are going to the elders. obviously I am dazed and confused here. what were we talking about again.
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  dido

  I can`t remember LG, i think i accepted and he dumped me the next day, it`s a habit he`s got!
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  Brigid

  I think she is a vulnerable girl. We've only dated a few times, but I'm noticing the less and less interest I show, the more she is contacting me.

  Dear Ballistic,

  I do not know how I can top the advice already given but I agree with just a cutoff approach. Ultimately, she is responsible for her situation, her feelings and reactions to all of the aforementioned---NOT YOU. I realize you feel that she is vulnerable but this is hers to own. She may be looking to you to "right" her situation, to fill the void that "he" left, that has always been with her and always shall be until she fills it herSelf. This is not your job.

  As far as the "less interested you are, the more she is" lol!!, I have a term for this; the power of the least interested. Drives we humans crazy when someone simply is not interested in us and we obsessively seek that energy that we percieve as being deserved and subsequently witheld. Just walk away, my friend, what she seeks cannot be found in another and she could turn into an inadvertant psychic vampire.

  ~Brigid
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  james_woods

  Football couch told me to just give her a little slap on the buttocks and say "Good hustle, babe - now you go get em next time..."
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  ballistic

  Hey Brigid, thanks for your coments but I'm glad I'm not dating you... you have pet names for the various stages of dating???
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  Honesty

  Just be honest. Honesty is the best policy....it may hurt for awhile, but it goes away, and she'll find someone else to date.

  Don't be dragging me into this mess, delilah. What makes you think I want his problem?