I guess some might consider it sick, JT...I know you meant it as a compliment. Just fits...
It's the pattern of abuse...denial...denial...denial
Even if the elders believed you, what can they do? If they speak out as an individual or an elder body, they will be in the same boat. That would be quite a sacrifice (see Silentlambs). I remember in the past hearing of a congregation that passed around a petition regarding a change they felt was needed and sent it to the Society...the congregation was disbanded and the ringleaders tossed.
The view is if the GB/FDS needs correction, it must come from a higher source...of course, the example of Abigail, Nabal, and David is ignored, or the case of the little captive girl and Naaman, or even Sarah and Abraham, listen to your wife.
So, Badwillie, I think you lucked out by only be publicly reproved...so many would have been disfellowshipped. It will be painful, but at least you will find out who your "real" friends are.