my back is up against the wall guys..............so this may be my first desperate bump..........oomps
the high cost of divorcing a JW............
by oompa 89 Replies latest social relationships
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Satanus
'so women are tougher? ......show me some proof........i know i must be a wuss..........'
It's hard to prove. It's based on my experience. Women are in their emotions more than men are. It's much more a part of their life, and so they have learned how to ride out emotional things. Men don't deal in emotions so much, so when they are hit w it, unavoidably, it's harder for them to cope. Does that make sense?
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redredrose
Oompa,
I am so sorry you're going thru this. It must be absolutely agonizing, whatever decision you make you stand to lose alot.
Not having ever been where you are, I don't have any good advice for you other than the predictable: take your time with this decision, make sure you know what you want.
From what you've said about your wife it doesn't sound likely that she would ever be willing to compromise with you, this has to be a factor in any decision you make. You have to decide what you want your life to be, what you are willing to live with.
PM me or call if you want to talk. I truly feel for you.
Love ya, Rose
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Homerovah the Almighty
Its strange is not how we put labels on to are selfs and others in determining who are the good and who are the bad.
The JWS of course say that non-JWS are bad and evil and it is wise not to associate with these people.
The reality of it is there are good responsible people every where, in all of are social interactions with people,
just as there are good and bad in the JWS community.
You therefore have to assert yourself to meet the right people once you climb out
the JWS box in a effort to make better friends and associations and this will help you maintain a long term inner happiness..
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purplesofa
I don't think you really want a divorce.
People that divorce are sure that is what they want
and everything else in their life is secondary.
It eventually all falls into place.
Divorce sucks for all people that made a commitment with their heart.
Never discount what wordly people lose and their pain is just as real as a JW.
You don't have it any worse or better.
Try to keep the drama down.
Either you are in or you are out.
Get off the fence.
Whatever you do, you will survive.
purps
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oompa
Try to keep the drama down.
Either you are in or you are out.
Get off the fence.
Whatever you do, you will survive.
purps
purps.....i luv ya.....but also tried to kill myself two years ago..........from this wakeup........the fence is keepin me alive........oompa]
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oompa
Try to keep the drama down.
Either you are in or you are out.
Get off the fence.
Whatever you do, you will survive.
purps
purps.....i luv ya.....but also tried to kill myself two years ago..........from this wakeup........the fence is keepin me alive........oompa]
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Satanus
'but also tried to kill myself two years ago'
Besides marriage counseling, you need psychological therapy. Although, since it was a failure, it was probably a call for help/attention. If i tried it, i doubt that i would fail.
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purplesofa
purps.....i luv ya.....but also tried to kill myself two years ago..........from this wakeup........the fence is keepin me alive........oompa]
I guess I don't understand, and anything said by me on a thread at JWD is to simple to help such a complicated problem.
Sounds like you are overwhelmed with too many issues.
I can't imagine when I was divorcing, playing around online, flirting with hot exJW babes(by your own admission) and just some of this nonsense you display,
I simply can't imagine doing any of that. It was a very serious time, alot was at stake, as with any marriage that comes to an end.
purps
edited to add: that is why I don't think you really want to divorce.
Either that or your just a real asshole, and I am trying not to go that way with you.
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OUTLAW
I can't imagine when I was divorcing, playing around online, flirting with hot exJW babes(by your own admission) and just some of this nonsense you display,
I simply can't imagine doing any of that. It was a very serious time, alot was at stake, as with any marriage that comes to an end......
edited to add: that is why I don't think you really want to divorce.
Either that or your just a real asshole, and I am trying not to go that way with you.....purps
...............I`m sitting here laughing my ass off..LOL!!.........................Oompa..You know she`s right!..You can`t carry on the way you do..........Your going to have to Man-Up!!.........................................
...OUTLAW
...OUTLAW