by brotherdan 388 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
I actually lied about the 8 beers thing. I just had 2.
ah-HA! I wondered about that. Your spelling and typing was much too good for 8 beers but I didn't want to cast aspersions on you at your darkest hour. Hell, I probably couldn't even find the keyboard after 8 beers.
wondered how you managed to down 8 beers so quick - I was thinking they must be bottles of weak beer cos that guy can still type ok. I've only been back to work after having five pints and I had trouble reaching for the switch on the computer without hitting my head on the table.
Dan, your wife doesn't deserve you. Good to be angry.
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I don't remember saying the thing about 2 years not getting along. It's been about 2 years since I stopped believing in this religion. And that was the first time that there was a real issue in our marriage. But besides that things were always really good.
This is about power. Your wife's reaction is indicitive that she knows how much you love her. She knows you adore her. She is using those truths, to get HER WAY, you restoring her status quo--you going back to KH. She has some kind of resentment towards you, she is punishing you.
My advice would be to stop begging. Take some of the power away. She will retreat. #1, once she realizes that it is illegal to take the kids from you, that would be kidnapping if you file a seperation. Get a parental cooperation order in place right away. My guess is that she will be back home very fast.
No friend wants a grown woman and two needy kids (cute I am sure, but kids are kids...) living at her house. Does your wife have skills, a job?
I would go on your computer and try and see what she is looking at online. Just saying...do some investigative research. Check her phone and text messages.
I am so sorry you are hurting. My heart breaks for you. This is temporary pain and is horrible I am sure, but it will get better. She cannot keep this up without softening at some point.
Why is she out of love??? Has she withdrawn, do you really believe that?
She is being a martyr right now, this will wear off. Hang in there, be strong, and take away some of the power.
I see the power play too. But she is also repeating what the cult has told her to repeat. She told me "That is why the society tells us not to look at that crap! I've seen it affect you and take you right out of the truth."
So I gave her this illustration:
What if the company that I work for was doing some shady business under the table. They didn't want anyone to know about it, especially their employees. Wouldn't they say, "Don't listen to any of the bad rumors. They are all untrue. If you even listen to them you may start doubting the company." So they control the information. Isn't that what the WT has done?
She said, "If you look for dirt in your business, you probably will find it."
I said, "True, but my company does not claim that it is from God. But the WT says that if I don't believe them, then God is going to kill me." And if they have something to hide, OF COURSE they are going to say, "Don't look at anything negative about us. It's all lies."
Crap, I just got to page 9 - I've got Dan's cell phone # - but he says his wife snatched it.
I don't know whether to post the # or not - pm me?? ONLY RESPONSIBLE BOARD MEMBERS WILL BE GIVEN #!!!
Zid
BD..
OK..The post is no longer there..
And..
You know better than I how your life is..
Maybe I misunderstood..
I just have to ask though..
How does 2 beer turn into 8 beer?..
Why exagerate the amount of alcohol consumed?..
To people you know,are concerned about you..
And..Your drinking at work..Where there is a Mormon boss..
And..Drinking at work is normal there..???????
It would seem you are pushing the envelope,for Believability..
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...OUTLAW
I got my phone back. She told me yesterday, "Your girlfriend from (the place Zid lives) called."
I laughed.
OOOO - kay, never mind, I see that Dan is still with us...
Dan, darn you, you scared us!!!
The boss is out of town. I don't know why I said 8 beers. It seemed funny to say at the time. Sorry.
But yeah, drinking at lunch is the norm here. The mormon boss has no idea. He is usually too busy to notice much anyway. We are a small office, but our main office is in California. Every friday they have a beer cart come in during lunch where they can sample different beers. It's bizarre, but it's true. The bosses aren't mormons there though.
