I HATE this religion (page 24)

GLTirebiter

Dan, one more thing before calling it a night...

It looks like you're heading for a custody hearing. Your behavior and "fitness as a parent" will be questioned. I understand how what happened this last week and especially today makes you want to drown your sorrows in a pitcher of beer, but you can't afford to lose control of yourself. She (and her lawyer) will paint everything you do or say with the worst possible light. Imagine she knows everything you do and say, then act accordingly. It's not fun, it's not fair, it's just the way hardball tactics go.

braveheart

Dan...I hope you can feel the Prayers of hundreds of Your friends.

You need a Band of Brothers to prepare for Battle...

Whatever it takes...count me in...ie: meetup, legal defense etc.

You will prevail. Peace and Strength. -BH

Hadit

We are all here for you. You can do this. Your kids need their father. Breathe. Every day is a different day - it will not stay like this forever.

Take a look at how many lives you've touched and how many people care and are behind you!!! WE ALL CARE!

I've never met you yet I've been worried about you ALL DAY as many others have too!

You will get through this. It will not be easy but you can do it. You DO have the strength.

Aussie Oz

keep checking in Brother dan

and check your PMs...

a lot of people are thinking of you right now.

oz

garyneal

I wish you the best Dan. It appears that those who are saying that your wife is acting this way has nothing to do with religion are probably closest to the truth. Your wife went out drinking with a worldly friend before dropping this bomb on you. In my mind, Occams Razor comes to mind. This religion does not really mean THAT much to her if she is acting the way she is acting. She is just using your 'apostacy' as a convenient excuse to check out of the marriage, cloaking herself in her own religious self righteousness to ease her mind and calm her conscious because she knows deep down she is committing a terrible act against you and her children.

The best practical advise I have seen came from cognizant dissident. Follow it...

All the best to you, my thoughts and prayers are with you my friend.

Quando

(((Hugs))) DAN

This thread reminds me of my daily clientele and her actions (getting drunk, breaking up fam) is crystal clear she has serious hormonal problems and it makes her do "Manic" things.

You can't change her, you can only change yourself and it starts with you stopping drinking, don't look at it as a forever thing some people it may be a forever thing others handle alcohol in a normal fashion after they conquered their evil within. Alcohol simply makes you forget your problems, but in reality they will ONLY get worse!

Get a clear head and gut first so you can "See" clearly!

Libelle

As a few of the others have said, it's likely that PPD is playing a part in this - some of the most ridiculous things are magnified into "too big to stick it through" for a woman with PPD. It's amazing how profound it can be. But I also agree that it sounds as if she's been planning this for a while. I disagree that there may be a third party involved, not every woman leaves a good man for another wo/man, plenty of women just want their own space. We'll never know her particular feelings on this, and I don't think the speculation is helping Dan any.

Dan, you're hurting right now. I believe it's ok to be hurting and to let yourself feel the hurt, but you will also need to be able to set it aside at times to protect your kids and yourself. I hope you made it home safely last night, make sure you are very careful with the beer for a while. CD has given you good advice as well...

Finally, we're all thinking of you. You'll pull through this, one way or another and come out all the stronger for it.

wasblind

Libelle,

Third party doesn't always mean another man or woman,

there could be well intended people gettin' involved. If you read

all of my post you would have known that there was no specifics in exactly

who or what the third party could be. This woman does not work.

trust, there is a third party involved.

wasblind

and another thang,

all of the possibilies of why this marriage is crumbling

need to be laid out on the table, you just can't pull one

probably cause off the table, cause he won't be able to take it.

he needs to know exactly what he is up against, this ain't no

time to protect him from hurt feelin's , he's in a fight for his family

ziddina

".... "Daddy why don't you go to the meetings anymore?" Although she denied it, I have a feeling it came from her. I just told him, "I have some work to do today, buddy." He then said, "But why won't you go to meetings when you don't have work?" I didn't know what to say...My wife gave me the "You disgust me!" look and walked away.

What do I say to a 5 year old about why daddy isn't going to meetings anymore? ..."

And then Six of Nine said:

"Tell him why you don't go to meetings anymore. ..."

O - kay, now keep in mind this comment is coming from the board's she-devil... And may be a REALLY bad idea...

BUT.... When I read of your wife's behavior - getting drunk with "worldly" friends, instead of staying with her chidren [!!!!!!!!!], and then that she had the unmitigated GALL to treat YOU like YOU were the one in the "wrong"...!!!!!!!

I'd say to my son, "Well, Timmy, Daddy doesn't go to meetings anymore because he's been stumbled by Mommy's flagrant disregard for "Jehovah's" way of life, her BRAZEN mis-conduct and her arrogant hypocrisy...!!!"

If you decide to "go back in" temporarily, I'd use that as an excuse to the elders, too - and I'd make things as difficult for the nutso wife as possible - get evidence of her mis-behavior and then drag HER in front of a judicial committee...

Let her get a dose of reality when she sees how they turn on her, after she's put on public reproof or disfellowshipped...

But, that's just the ol' devil in me, talkin'...

Zid

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