by wannabefree 146 Replies latest members private
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I think people don't have much control over panic. Do you OODAD?
Oh, I think I'll panic, that might work better than cool.
It's a joke.
wannabefree: I will ignore [the voicemail], just like I ignored the last couple of text messages asking for my "time".
Fortunately being inactive is not a disfellowshipping offense. It's time to just fade away ...
But don't ignore it. It's still a good idea to talk to the wife and kiddies as I suggested above and do some pre-emptive strategizing.
00DAD's right, this calls for a family summit meeting. Explain the situation, and how you being unjustly disfellowshipped simply for disagreeing with the Governing Body would NOT be a good thing for any of you. Go through the consequences in detail. Make sure you're all on the same page, and get your family working FOR you. Ignore the voicemail, but prepare yourself for a phonecall. When the phonecall comes, say something like "To be honest brother XXX, you are welcome to come round for a coffee socially by yourself, but I really don't want to attend any meetings with elders - there is really nothing to discuss. You should take that as my final word on the matter." If he presses you on the issue.... "Listen brother XXX, I've tried to be kind, but you seem to be very insistent. I have nothing against you personally, but I am not happy about how the body of elders keeps pressuring me and my family and usurping my headship. Please refrain from doing that and leave me be. I wish you all the very best, and I'll leave it there." Phone down.
Cedars
To JW Elders..
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...OUTLAW
I want to 2nd everything Cedars wrote. I'd like to emphasize the Headship card. Play it and play it hard!
We have to use any and every tool in our toolbox to fight for our selves and our family. This is something that the elders will understand and that you can use against them.
They want me to meet with them at the hall.
I'm with Cedars on this, this sounds like a JC. Ask your wife if she said anything to the elders about your view of wts. Problem is, if she said you're no longer believing they can df you if you don't show up. As long as they have two witnesses to her telling them maybe what you told her about your view of wts. Talk to her and ask her. that might help
Blow them off, and say you were too depressed. And don't bother asking them why they want to meet, they will lie to you without batting an eye.
JK
Cedars has offered some excellent advice.
