Can you be in Love with two persons? My Dilemma... (page 5)

SixofNine

You should first and formost resolve to be happy and a great father even if all of this ends up so that you don't "get" either girl. Life is not a 2 hour movie afterall.

Intel

"Life is not a 2 hour movie afterall."

Sometimes it feels like a movie, though...

Adiva

It's time for you to fall in love . . . with you. Fall in love with your child, too.

Adiva

Wow! You all are being relly nice to this guy. All I see is a dead beat dad who'd rather have a 24 year old piece of ass than trying to make his relationship with his wife work for the sake of his child. I don't see a problem here. Any half decent human being would jump at the oppurtunity to have their child back in their life. Unforunately you're not a good person and an even worst father. Hopefully your wife can find a real man to father your child so they can at least have a chance at having a good future rather than going doing a bad path as most fatherless kids do. Pieces of sh!t like you is why we have so many troubled youth in the world. I hope you enjoy that 24 year old's pu#$y, it's only costing your child's future.

Think About It

Daumn.....somebody gets grumpy when they don't have their porn. Or did you fall off the wagon?

Think About It

3rdgen

I have a question: Has your ex wife found it hard to find suitable men in the Borg who are also interested in HER? Is she finding it hard to make it on her own financially? Those would be strong motivation for her to pursue you again. She might possibly be toying with leaving the Borg simply to tell you what you want to hear or to have a bigger pool of men to date. How does she act when she doesn't get her own way? Selfish people make lousy spouses.

Intel

@Philadelphia Ponos:

I don't expect everybody to cheer and aplaud what I am doing. And yes, I feel like a lousy fahter, I already said so in one of my posts. But it amazes me that someone like you, 25 years old, without any ties to the Borg that was trying to go back for no reason at all, that has never dated, married, has no children, who considers himself "immune" to the most vile porn that exists comes here to lecture me on human relationships!

I am not badmouthing you, you know, my feelings for the persons in my Life are sincere and deep, otherwise I wouldn't be considering all these things. I would just go merrily about my "24 year olds ass" without considering Lifes greater questions and seeking answers.

As for "trying to make his relationship with his wife work": it shows me that you are an immature, kid that has no idea about relationships and Life in general. No my friend, those big boobed girls you watched on your screen are not real. You know that, don't you? I have tried to make my relationship work for over ten bloody years, so don't come here talking about things you don't have any idea of.

By the way, have you been trying to "make your relationship with Jehober work" as well? See? I don't even know if you have the capacity to understand what I tried to tell you. I hope that you can overcome the abusive treatment you had in your youth.

Nothing to add here, I personally wish you the Best for your Life. No anger, no resentments from my side.

Intel

Hi 3rdgen,

I have a question: Has your ex wife found it hard to find suitable men in the Borg who are also interested in HER?

I really don't know how things are now, but in the past quite a few Bethelites had romantic interests in her. She is outgoing, talkative, dresses well...I don't think she would have any problems getting a new partner.

Is she finding it hard to make it on her own financially? Those would be strong motivation for her to pursue you again.

Nope. She is doing better now than she was with me. She lives with her Witness parents, they have their own house. She is making her own money (whilst with me she was at home, pioneering, nothing else, my business was weak). Now she has her own income, has more money than I have (I kept all the debt that we incurred together and let her go with a clean, new credit score - "Free Pass" for her. I did it because of the child, so that she didn't had to restart with a financial burden). She is still entitled to half of my business though.

She might possibly be toying with leaving the Borg simply to tell you what you want to hear or to have a bigger pool of men to date. How does she act when she doesn't get her own way? Selfish people make lousy spouses.

She NEVER took advice, pleadings very easily. Very strong character. If I wanted to do something (like going on vacations to a different place than her folks) than I had to talk to her for days upon days and she would be offended for days,"making faces", making me "pay" with other things. I often had to give up on stuff (hobbies, friends, etc.) because of her. I could bare the tension, so for "peaces sake" I would give in and do things, go places, hang around people that I didn't want.

Intel

Thanks adiva, that is something that I have yet to learn. All of this is getting to me, because of many, many years of "self-sacrifice" - doing this, doing that to have everybody around me happy and clapping (for my mother, for my sisters, for my ex, for her parents). I was empty and didn't even knew who I was. Very hard to give up on yourself for so many years. Too many years. I still have that urge to try "make everybody happy" without thinking about myself. It is self-destructive behaviour.

Philadelphia Ponos

You say you "feel" like a losuy father? You "are" a lousy a father, and I'm sure everyone on this board agrees. And trying to change the subject to me looking at porn is just ridiculous, as if somehow a single male looking at point is comparable to a 40 year old who doesn't see his own child. I would much rather view porn than be a low life good for nothing father. At least at age of 25 I'm able to take care of my responsibilities, while you after failing at marriage are now failing at being a parent.

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