I don't dislike Paul at all. I feel for him. We have no idea what people asked him, what they were e x pecting of him, or how many different ways he might have tried to e x plain the same point. We have a glimpse of him from his letters but we don't know what he was like in person. We know only that he was loved.
Plus, Paul had just come out of a strict pharisiacal view, and was now embracing that which he had spent how long condemning? Who knows how many hang-ups he had to work through in the beginning? Things like the rules and the law over mercy and love? He got it, obviously... because most of his letters place emphasis on love, hope and faith. Just the first couple to be more 'rule' based.
Peace,
Tammy