new chapter you have good points i will def look into this and get with you. i def understand why you feel as you do! but yeah i will look at everything that was.brought up.thanks for the breakdown
That's great. I'll be looking forward to what you come up with. I remember when I believed, these things used to really bother me. The way I dealt with them is I tried not to dwell on them. But it didn't make them go away. They were always there, and something to make my stomach tighten up when they came up. I would also jump an any explanation, it didn't matter, to make it better. It was as though the explanation innoculated me from the full force of the account. But you know what? When I started to break down the explanations and excuses, I realized they simply distracted me. They gave me a way to say, "Oh, I see". And yet the explanations themselves were lacking.
For instance. I was once told that Lot offering his daughters to a violent crowd was better in God's eyes because the sex would be more 'natural'. That didn't sit well. I was also told that the custom of hospitality meant that you protected your guest to your own injury. Okayeeee. This crowd wanted sex with men. Why didn't Lot offer himself instead of his young daughters? But it eased things, or distracted things for the moment, but then I started doing Point-of-View exercises. I called this meditation. I would recreate the scene from the viewpoint of the different characters, imagine the details, the sounds, the smells. I'm a writer, so I do this a lot anyway, but I started to do it in a more focused way with the bible. WTF? I imagined my father offering me to a violent mob. I imagined my home, friends, land being destroyed. I imagined my god turning my mother into salt for looking back. And then I thought, would my reaction to this really be to get my father drunk and have sex with him? Really? Even taking away the fact that he was my father, this man had just offered me to a crowd to 'do with as they pleased!" I had just lost my mother.
No. This didn't happen, and a truly sick mind made it up. And it takes an enforced sickness on the mind to accept it.
I thought about being a young woman captured by the Israelites. These people had just killed my parents, my friends, my siblings, aunts, uncles. Took my land, and then took me. Then I'm supposed to marry one of these monsters? People told me it was loving and merciful and a protection for these young women, because where would they go? And they were to be treated as wives, not slaves! But again, distraction tactic. They were to trim their nails and hair and were allowed one month to grieve the loss of everything and everyone. Where could they go? Nowhere. So perhaps these marriage arrangements didn't involve violence. Perhaps they came with perks. But there was no choice and I can see it as nothing more than serial rape. The Israelites had taken everything from these women, and we are told today to see it as merciful. I'd rather have died in the battle than live the rest of my life on these terms. That would have been merciful.
There are some Christians that are not literal bible believers. They handle it by simply dismissing it. For those that are literal bible believers, we almost always see subjugation of women, because this god was all about that. That's just the women issues. Dont' get me started on the rest.