Should I just DA or get DFD? (page 4)

ABibleStudent

Hi Julia Orwell, Why are you thinking like a JW and playing by the WTBTS's rules?

Since your husband appears to love you more than the WTBTS, why not focus and plan to rekindle the passion in your marriage (i.e., forget about conditional JW friends and worrying about the elders)? Being happy and having fun with your bearded husband will be the best way of stating that you are not a JW and that life is better without the WTBTS and by saying nothing that the elders can use against you.

Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,

Robert

NewYork44M

I like your comment -so why worry

Everyone has their own "stinkin problems." You are only a very minor player in the lives of your watchtower friends. Within a few months you will be long forgotten.

While sad, what I stated is a pretty close to the fact. Family relationships create additional variables so I am not discounting this element.

In any event, take a deep breath and focus on the future, not the past. The future can be as wonderful as you can imagine.

In the words of John Lennon - "every day in every way is getting better and better."

BTW, I have no idea if I was ever disfellowshipped. That piece of information has no value in my life.

fresh prince of ohio

I da'd (in 2002, when they still announced it as such) in somewhat spectacular fashion by first emailing like 100 JWs I knew with a link to freeminds.org as the subject and no body, followed by a one-sentence letter to the cong I had been attending. I've had mixed feelings about it in recent years. I feel like it would have been way cooler to pull off a fade, and I was in the perfect position to do it. But at the same time, there's the whole aspect of seeing them out in public and having to deal with that. Some of us just need a clean break. I wish you the best, whatever you decide.

flipper

Neither. Why play by their rules ? Make your OWN rules. No need to acknowledge any control or influence over your life by going along with their classifications of you. Just my 2 cents. I've been faded into inactivity for almost 10 years now- they never bother me . Peace out, mr. Flipper

Crazyguy

Since you really don't have any family or true friends in the ORG i would DA myself. Better to get it over with and be done then drag it out for your own health. Not to mention you do not want to give the elders power over you and going to a JC meeting and explaining yourself will most likely not wake up any elder so why bother. I would DA myself in a second, right know if it were not for my kids.

ÁrbolesdeArabia

Hi Julia,

What was the final straw that made you feel you don't give a dam if they DF you? The sheer volume of hatred I have seen in this fake Christian Organization has been the weights that I can no longer lift or allow to push against my chest.

There is no freedom of thought or allowing of people to study the deep thoughts without Big Brother examining and micromanaging our lives. I don't know why but I am starting to hate the Organization because it strangles basic freedoms and teaches it offers things it does not. I am at the point I do not care if I ever speak to any JW again, I still have family but my patience is running thin these days. The crooks and theives I know who were elders, the men who committed adultery while counseling other kids on teenage sex or heavy petting is outrageous! What is your story Julia?

Julia Orwell

The final straw was my best friend of 14 years (since I first became a publisher) coming to my house at the behest of the CO and giving me hell. I wrote another thread about it. It really hurt me, and my dad told me these people are just not worth it.

Glander

http://youtu.be/298nld4Yfds

whathappened

I would just tell them all to get out of your life. They do not deserve an explanation from you. They do not deserve anymore of your time and attention. There love and friendship is all conditional on you obeying the governing bodiy. Do not give them the respect of a reply and refuse to discuss anything further with them. What you do is absolutely none of their briskness.

EmptyInside

People can only have as much control and power over our lives, as we let them. I would just put them on ignore,that's what I am doing right now.

Should I just DA or get DFD?

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