Tonus -Both god and the serpent even use the same phrasing, that she would 'become like god.' As an allegory, it isn't perfect, but it works well enough-- Eve is tempted by the possibility of being able to direct her own life, independent of god's rules. (The fact that this idea is so obviously flawed is simply a reflection of the people and culture that produced it, IMO.
Yes. To someone like me, this is the heart of the matter. The failure to recognize one's limited position before God.
The all-or-nothing approach (obey or die) is extreme in any context, much less one where god is meant to be a kind and loving father who is pained by our failures. It is impossible to square the ideal person of god with the person who sets Adam and Eve up for a fall, then is merciless in his method of resolution. If this was the best outcome one could have hoped for, then god is not the person that the NT makes him out to be.
It's impossible to square the 'ideal' person of God with anything when it is WE that determine what is ideal.
However, God himself reveals exactly who he is. And altho the scriptures repeatedly demonstrate his consideration and affection for his creation, many simply cannot accept that he also has the final say.