My dub mom wants to remarry

unbeliever

Before she can though she needs my dad to admit to adultary. They've been divorced for years but he has never remarried and has no plans too.

She says she's in love with a widowed brother but before they go any further she wants to be scriptually free. She called my dad and asked him if he would help her out and he laughed and hung up the phone. She called me today on the phone crying telling me because of my dad she will spend the rest of her life alone and if I would talk him into admitting adultary. She asked him sometime back about this but this was before she started "dating" this brother. She says they go out in FS and sit together at meetings. How romantic. They have discussed wanting a relationship and eventually getting married.

The brother she wants to marry is an asshole. He's an elder. Enough said. His adult children are assholes as well.

She has a hell of a lot of nerve coming to me for this. For one its not my place to ask my dad such questions and 2 I owe that woman nothing and neither does my dad.

I was talking with him earlier and he wonders what lengths she will go to to prove that he has been with other women. My dad is a very private person and does not share a lot about his love life with his kids which I am very grateful for. lol Currently he is not involved with anyone. It should get interesting.

I told her if she was a worldly heathen like the rest of us she would not be encountering such problems now. I don't know how anybody in their right mind could follow those stupid damn rules.

Mulan

If during the years they've been apart, he has done something to free her, he should tell her. Why make her be alone? It's their rules, for sure, but she is a person who could have a life with someone she loves, so I would encourage your father to tell her she is free. Why not?

Stephanus

Maybe she should take responsibility for her own life and get down to it. There's one main course of action she can take. She can leave the Borg and marry someone else not in it and have a normal happy life. It is ridiculous for an adult to be living in a state of limbo due to the fact that someone else, both former husband and Borg, hold the reins to her future happiness.

IMO the father is doing the right thing; if he's left then he probably has no time for Brooklyn's idiotic rules and breaches of his treasured privacy. It's no-one else's business what he now does. If the mother wants to dance to Bethel's tune, then this is the price she pays.

simplesally

And if he has not set her free by committing adultery, then she is encouraging him to commit a sin against God, himself and her ..... according to the WT rules, she would not be lookin' good!

unbeliever

Mulan,

She has made my dads life hell and has done some very hurtful things to my siblings and I all in the name of her religion. I know I must sound heartless by not wanting to help her out but I just don't have it in me. I truly feel I owe her nothing. It's not me or dad that is keeping her from being "free" its her religion.

Did I forget to mention that he was never a witness....? Just an opposer. Mom left him because he was a "danger" to her spiritually.

If the mother wants to dance to Bethel's tune, then this is the price she pays.

I agree.

JT

just a little exp of what i did- a very good friend of Lady "C" and i was dfed for apostasy, in fact she is the person who introduced me to my wife when i was a young 23yr old bethelite- bless here heart it is the only good thing i got out of wt my wife

well that for another day

anyway her husband WAS AN ELDER - :)

they divorced by not on wt grounds so when he met this sister he called up her and asked her to ADMIT to addulty- SHE GOT PISSED OFF and he kept on hounding her to admit it so she could marry

he even wrote a letter to her pastor and asked him to tell her to come clean so he could remarry- so she called me up and asked James what should i do- well you know me --the "Society Man" himself

so i asked her do you have a lawyer and she said yes - i told her --now you MUST SAY EXACTLY WHAT I TELL YOU TO SAY IN ORDER FOR THIS TO WORK

WHAT WE Are going to do is get your lawyer to write one of those "We are going to take out a CAN OF WHIPA$$ on you"

but this letter will not be to your husband or the elders - instead it will be directly to the legal desk at Patterson-

and it is to say basically the following:

we are going to sue you becasue this man is a direct representive of YOURS AS AN ELDER- ON TOP OF THAT he is carrying out your decree of seeking an ADMISSION OF SEXUAL GUILT ON THE PART OF MY CLIENT

which is causing great mental stress and deress- in order to get an admission of guilt that according to your rules/teachings is required for him to remarry - he has gone so far as to have written a letter to her spiritual advisor The Most Right Rev Chicken Lips Leroy Jones of the Holy Temple Greater Mt Sinai Congregation-

now if he does not cease and discess we are going to sue the Sh!t out you

your most truly

1st cousin of Johnny Cochran

SO I had her attorney mail the letter to Legal instead of the Service dept so that more folks would get involved

so when it hit the legal desk being addressed from a law firm- they knew they were in trouble for included in the letter was a copy of the letter that THEIR APPOINTED ELDER had sent to her pastor- smile

so now LEGAL has to contact the Service desk to track down what congo this FOOL is in

so legal has to send a letter to the attorney and the service dept has to send a letter to the CO and Congo service comiittee

in about 2 weeks the her lawyer got a letter begging for forgiveness PLZ DON'T SUE US PLZ PLZ

AND the elders and CO got a letter telling them to take care of this DUMB ASS-

and yes he got his little EDLERSHJP REMOVED

HE SAW HER in the grocery store one day and just walked up to her and asked

"How could you do me this way"

as they say Success is the best REVENGE

wednesday

lol JT

bet they soiled their pants.

Mulan

Okay, so maybe she's a real jerk.

Let it go, and you will be happier. Let her get on with her life.

All I say is, if she is free, according to their definition, tell her. What difference does it make?

Are you going to make her pay for what she did forever?

Sure, it's a lousy religion, but she chooses to be there. You don't. Move on.

freedom96

My witch of an ex wife just invented a story that I had done something, and the elders said ok. No big meeting, which suprised me.

In the hall I attended for most of my life, there had better be two witnesses to the fact that the other person cheated. Just one person saying so wasn't good enough.

So, my ex declared herself free, though I never said anything.

Of course, after she re-married, I did tell her as a straight face as I could, "Thank you for giving me my freedom." Who knows if she ever bought it. But she was always one of those persons who could convince themselves of anything. In this case, she wanted her freedom, and then convinced herself that I had given it to her.

Sassy

I'm sorry your mother has brought anxiety into your life. I understand your feelings of anger. I agree with SimpleSally that if she is encouraging you to encourage your dad to commit adultry, she is very wrong. If one did believe this was the true religion, I would think it is close to commiting the sin herself, since it is in her heart to want him to do so. But that is just my opinion of course. If he has given her reason for a scriptural divorce, it might be easier to just let her know and get her off his back..HOWEVER.. I also can relate to not wanting to help her either if she has been so difficult. I know I was in a situation where my soon to be exhusband would never commit adultry but he was a fraud.. and liar and a million other a$#hole things and I left the JWs and am living with someone. I will admit that I have not run down his door to let him know he can keep his head high at the KH and is free to ruin some other woman's life. But that is the bitter me talking because I really hate him, something I never thought I'd feel.

Any way... I think it sucks what she asked of you. You should not be put in the middle.

My dub mom wants to remarry

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