My dub mom wants to remarry (page 2)

Odrade

If they are already divorced, it is not adultery, no matter who the father sleeps with. Plus it's none of her business. She lost the right to know any of his private matters when she left him. I don't really see not telling the mother as revenge, but as an unwillingness to allow her and her JW rules to cast any of the ex-husband's private matters in a bad light.

Besides, if SHE hadn't divorced HIM for "spiritual endangerment" in the first place, she wouldn't have her hoohoo in the vice right now. Heard this same sorry story one too many times. (((Unbeliever and Father))) you don't owe her and her rules anything.

My $.02.

Odrade

**edited 'cause it sounded really dumb. HA!**

avishai

Mom left him because he was a "danger" to her spiritually

Bitch.

You don't owe her a Damn thing. She married him for better or worse, & then left him because of that? It's her damn fault, & even if you and her got along peachy-keen, you still would'nt owe her jack. She's a big girl, she made her bed, now she can lie in it.

wednesday

agree with sns, if your dad wanted to/or had anything to tell her, that is his business. She is very wrong encourging him to commit adultry and she should be told so.Personally, i would tell her that this is so highly personal i did not wish to get involved. If she can get a confession out of him,(if there is one to get) that is one thing, but to ask u-wrong.

Sassy

If they are already divorced, it is not adultery, no matter who the father sleeps with.

actually that is not true. If they get divorced, she does not have scriptural freedom until he has sex (or pornea) with another or even marries another. When that happens, then it goes from a legal but unscriptural divorce, to a legal and free to marry divorce. I'm on my second divorce. I left my first husband for him committing adultry and although he admitted it to me, he wouldn't to anyone else.. and at that time I was still blind and playing the JW rules so I wasnt allowed to even "DATE" for two years when finally I was granted that freedom because of acts on my exhusbands part.

I know a lot of JWs who have waited out to be free to marry. The only way to get freedom is for your ex spouse to admit to adultry, or for them to get two witnesses seeing the ex spouse in a vicarious position (like entering a hotel, or a person of the opposite sex's home for the night).. some hire investigators to get proof if they REALLY are needing to know..

avishai

actually that is not true

Yes, actually, it is true. It's just retarded JW laws that disagree. "Scriptural divorce". What a joke.

Odrade

I'm aware of what the JWs teach as adultery, I can explain "scripturally free" chapter and verse. But the father is NOT a JW, therefore not bound by the JW rules and politics.

a·dul·ter·y ( P ) Pronunciation Key (
n. pl. a·dul·ter·ies
Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.

This is the real world definition of adultery. Her ex-husband does not fit this category. So her insisting on an admission of adultery from him is ridiculous from a normal person's standpoint. It is only her religion that refuses to see the marriage as dissolved, yet these are the same ones who allowed it to be terminated for other than "scriptural" reasons.

Double standard?

O

avishai

Amen, Odrade.

FlyingHighNow

Tell mommie dearest to get with widower and hire a private investigator and find out for themselves if they want to know that badly. I'd also tell her that you have seen what has transpired between your father and her and that she is not innocent in this divorce. She needs to get that straight with your dad, you kids and her God. My grown children stand up to their father and to me when they think we are wrong. They don't let us by with anything. Nope, no pussyfooting around for my kids. I respect them for it 100%. Maybe my ex will listen to them one day, too.

Heather

Sassy

he is not but she is.. so to get her freedom she needs evidence...

I am not saying I agree with it.. I don't.. I think it sucks..

and I am not saying he is bound by anything to tell...........he isn't a JW and doesn't have to give a rip about it..

but for her to move on............she has to have evidence or admittance of him doing something..

Stephanus

but for her to move on............she has to have evidence or admittance of him doing something..

Only if she CHOOSES to play their game. She HAS TO do no such thing - it's her choice to limit her freedom according to their rules.

My dub mom wants to remarry

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