Many people do not show affection- why is this? (page 8)

shotgun

Gumby...come on, your old and green and littletoe plays with his fiddle....

I'm a double barrelled love machine with a firm stock and an itchy trigger finger...go back to that horny horse you had posted the other day..

Whether it's family or culture (or a combination)...we all learned our definitions of "acceptable social behavior" from others when we were kids. Some of us have 'relearned' social behavior (become more openly affectionate) later in life.

When I was a little kid I was very affectionate and 'huggy' with everybody. I'll never forget the day I hugged one of my friends goodbye and my mom told me that hugging people like that was inappropriate and embarrassed them. I felt like a rug was pulled out from under me (I was about 5 or 6, but the memory is burned in my mind). I felt so stupid that I had been doing things that embarrassed people and had been too dumb to know it. For about the next 15 or so years I was very, very reserved. I didn't touch or hug my friends. Then I met my husband. Got huggy again (situationally).

Touch is an emotional/physical need...I have a hard time falling asleep now if we're not touching a little. If someone is hurt, or upset, or something is wrong, a good strong hug can really make them relax and feel better. Sometimes, however, that line is difficult to cross.

Some individuals/families/cultures think it's inappropriate to show emotion. Some show lots. I have friends I've never touched. I have other friends who hug all the time and will sit and watch tv (for instance) in a 'puppy pile'.

My dad rarely hugs and also doesn't say "I love you" very often, but it's obvious that he does love us very much. Sometimes the eye contact is all that's necessary to show affection.

gumby

A.D.,

You reminded me when you said some believe it wrong to show affection to some, of how the dubs made us act to DFed ones." No huggy or touchy. Show no affection whether family or friend." It's hard to believe that some of the human race could believe that showing affection to ones you care about is wrong. Who started that hateful idea anyways?

Even animals nuzzle their loved ones daily.

Gumby

Valis

I wish someone would muzzle Gumbeast daily..

gumby

Valhugs ol' bud.....I force my wife to kiss me everyday with a whip......and my boxer doggy gives me all the muzzlin I want!

Gumlovers

asleif_dufansdottir

Even animals nuzzle their loved ones daily.

I meant to say when I posted before, that I think one of the reasons pets are so important is that even people who have been taught not to hug or cuddle other people can hold and pet dogs or cats without feeling embarrassed. Animals are so unashamed at showing physical affection they are a wonderful thing if you feel unable to enjoy affectionate contact with other people. I wonder if the drop in blood pressure that's so often documented when petting a dog or cat, is similar to a drop in blood pressure when hugging another human?

If I'm home I'm almost always in physical contact with at least one cat. Sometimes it's my 18 lb. male (see pic at left) who drapes himself decoratively across my chest and shoulder, when he wants to be hugged. He just loves his mommie.

Rabbit

LittleToe

littletoe plays with his fiddle....

Is that code for summit???

xjw_b12

Gumby ..... I love you

Scully

Y'know.... I've recently started watching A Wedding Story in the afternoons (ya, I know, sappy as hell, eh? LOL) and one thing I noticed was that almost all the couples recite vows to each other that they have written for themselves. They are beautiful, sweet, loving, delightful expressions of love and joy and commitment to each other.

How does the WTS mess this up??

*** w84 4/15 p. 14 Christian Weddings That Bring Joy ***
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Vows are part of most weddings. Those used at some "modern" worldly weddings are concocted from odd poetry, or they voice idiosyncratic views of life. A Time magazine essay on "The Hazards of Homemade Vows" told of a clergyman who asked: "Gina, do you agree to love Peter more than you love chocolate?" Then to Peter: "Do you agree to love Gina more than the morning newspaper?" The article stressed, though, that "a wedding is public business" and should dignify the important social step being taken. At weddings of Jehovah?s Witnesses the vows will conform to the requirements of local law. Where permitted, these vows that honor God, the Source of marriage, are used:
"I ?? take you ?? to be my wedded wife, to love and to cherish in accordance with the divine law as set forth in the Holy Scriptures for Christian husbands, for as long as we both shall live together on earth according to God?s marital arrangement."
"I ?? take you ?? to be my wedded husband, to love and to cherish and deeply respect, in accordance with the divine law as set forth in the Holy Scriptures for Christian wives, for as long as we both shall live together on earth according to God?s marital arrangement."
These vows should not be altered or replaced to suit some whim of the couple.

So beautiful heartfelt expressions of love and affection between a couple who are solemnizing their commitment to each other and starting their life as a family have been reduced by the WTS to "some whim".

Is it possible that the WTS is afraid that a couple might love each other more than either the husband or wife loves ~~the WTS~~ Jehovah?

Those b@$t@rd$!!

Love, Scully

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