My wife is getting baptized on the 19th! (page 8)

jaredg

sounds like a good plan! just make sure she doesn't get baptised next week!!!!!

What planet is this woman from? She will have to shun her children if they get baptiseed and then get disfellowshipped! If they are trying to tell her anything else then they are bare-faced liars. I know! I was baptised and am disfellowshipped and have not had interaction with my family since I was 16 except to be informed of family funerals and when I was trying to get reinstated. Its a fact. She has no idea what an enormous mistake she is making! I will NEVER get over being parted from my parents and my two little sisters who were still at school when I had to leave. It pains me every single day and I often wake up crying because I dream of them. My parents are not allowed to speak to me at all. They wouldnt know me if they passed me in the street.

Sorry I'm ranting - but this upsets me so much - that newcomers are deluded with platitudes and told that the disfellowshipping isnt like it is and it is played down. It is ouright deception and enrages me. It realluy does. Sorry I can't offer amnything more constructive than this, my friend. I wish that you wife would be able to open her mind which sounds as if it has now been indoctrinated so well that it is closed to all other possibilities and cut off her ability to question and think for herself.

Will she read any of the comments on this site perhaps?

My heart goes out to you - I hope that your relationship survives this. It will be so hard on you - her commitment and obedience is first to the organisation now and you as the unbelieving husband will come way down on her list of priorities.

calamityjane

I am willing to go to ALL the meetings until I "make up my mind

If you do this, watch out for the love bombing. They will do everything to make your see through rose coloured glasses that they are the only true religion. Don't let them suck you in.

You have a lot to think about. Your in our thoughts.

cj

Crumpet

Just Tickled Pink - I just wanted to say that your advice is excellent.

JustTickledPink

Hey thanks!

I really believe that a loving husband actually can stand up to the pressure and win out. You are going to have to do more in the romantic department as well. You are going to shower her with compliments, love, go for walks at night after dinner. Spend time alone together, get a babysitter and make sure you continue to solidify the BOND you two share as a couple.

Don't allow the WTS into your marriage and undermine the love you have for each other. Don't allow this to be the topic ALL the time so that you are dealing with a lot of conflinct and not having enough time to be husband and wife. Lots of kisses, lots of sex, lots of intimacy. Cement this relationship as being permanent.

If you allow them to start a rift between you two, they stand a chance. The more you are the model loving husband, the more she will love you and not allow them to come between you two.

I know I love my husband dearly, and would fight for our marriage.

Check_Your_Premises

Good stuff Tickled, thanks!

Crumpet

You can only get the elders to make her wait if there is suspicion she has broken one of the rules - which normally involves "serious" sin of some kind, so that could be upsetting for your wife, espcially if she ever found out it had anything to do with you. If she has engaged in oral sex with her husband, which is strictly prohibited, as is anal sex - that could prove sufficient grounds for them to say she cannot get baptised..

Crumpet

This may help arm you also. This is the book which is issued to all elders called Pay Attention to Yourselves and to the Flock. It is a secret book and the average JW is not allowed to see it. Send an email to [email protected] and they will send you a copy. Here is the link to the site http://quotes.watchtower.ca/pay_attention.htm. If you read this then you will know exactly how the elders are instructed to deal with your wife. It might just help you to be one step ahead. It also has a chapter on disfellowshipping and what crimes merit it.

Crumpet

She would be disfellowshipped if the elders found out that she had authorised a blood transfusion. There is barely a sin against the borg that is considered worse.

Check_Your_Premises

How can they reprint a copyrighted book? How do I know it is not altered in some way?

My wife is getting baptized on the 19th!

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