It all seems to be local elders differing in how to handle things.
Presiding Overseer Says They Will Ask If You Still Want To Be A Jehovah's W
by minimus 103 Replies latest jw friends
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TheListener
googlemagoogle, you don't get df/da for attending weddings/funerals (so long as you don't participate in religious practices) in churches. But you will if you attend services. You know, Babylon the Great and all that.
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xjwms
What would happen if you said that " I'll try to get to a meeting" and, ... then just not go.
How long could I be slippery?
What do you think?
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minimus
You could say you went to a different Hall where no one knew you.
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steve2
How long could I be slippery?
That question lies almost entirely within the hands of your local body of elders. If they are an earnest, busy, interfering-loving, letter-of-the-law, let's-do-everything-we-need-to-do-even-lie breed, you're in a tight lose-lose situation. I suspect, though, that most bodies of elders are more into their own impression management than acutally getting off their butts and pursuing inactive JWs.
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observador
Very good comments, everyone! Nice to see different points of view.
I wanna tell you one thing: I made it clear to my family that I don't want to have anything to do with JWs anymore. It was a powerful statement and had a profound effect: My sister signed up for Regular Pioneer. :( She's clearly trying to make a statement, too; something such as: see? I am spiritually strong...
In the end, I think I made the right decision because she will eventually get tired of it and may see how foolish being a Regular Pioneer is. Time will tell.
I don't think that faking is the right thing to do, but I emphatize with people in situations different than mine.
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Golden Girl
No one called on me after I had wrote a letter of dissasociation. And I still lived in the same place!Funny thing is I had been an active witness before that. just decided I had had enough amd told them what was going on in the congregation!.
And another funny thing is..when hubby and I would visit his JW Mom and Dad in the country..they talked to the Brothers in their congregation..they were told it was OK to associate with me as I wasn't disfellowshipped just dissasociated. Apparently they had called the Brothers at my old KH and talked to them about me.They also told my MIL they were concerned about me. I don't think she liked that..
I remember one time she got mad at me and quit going to the KH for quite a while. Funny thing..as soon as I stopped going she went back. Course I was the third person she stopped going to the KH because of.Boy I wish I could have heard that conversation.
I tried to get a copy of my letter ( I wrote it so long ago I couldn't remember what all I said) but they said it was their property and it was confidential. Remember to make a copy for yourself of any correspondence you send them.
Snoozy..who rejected them!
Snoozy...
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free2beme
They have to find me first, then find me at home and then and this is a big then, I would have to answer the door and they would have to recognize me. After all that, I may ask them what that means and why they asked and if they can not answer me with an answer I can accept ... well, why should I do the same for them?
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steve2
I don't think the BOEs keep tabs on where you live as much as they did in the past. I left over 20 years ago, and have had several changes of addresses since then. My impresion is that, after a while, they don't give a damn where you live, provided you stay out of their way.
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minimus
My mom tells me that the elders are obsessed with bringing up Lev.5:1 about turning in or "reporting" anyone that has committed a sin. It seems like the are trying to get everyone paranoid and guilty so that the "free flow of the holy spirit might not get hindered" because of hiding wrongdoing and wrongdoers.