i'll introduce myself:
i'm a person who'd like to remain anonymous.
i'm 16, and recently confessed to my mother my disbelief in her religion (jehovah's witnesses, obviously so).
Fake it till you make it honey! (till 18 that is)
As an adult you will have the freedom to think and feel as you please, until then, lay low. She doesn't have to know everything, just as you don't know everything about her. Be diplomatic.
Best Wishes to you,
love11
p.s.- stay alive so you can live the life you want!!!! That day will come, even though it's dragging.
.
this just in for your reading displeasure......enjoy
.
I don't know about you guys, but I took notes when I read this one. lol
1. "..not all their children continued to serve Jehovah." "...come back to Jehovah."
I think that is a typo, don't you think what they meant to say was- "...not all their children continued to serve the Watchtower, Bible, and Tract Society." "...come back to this publishing company."
2." ...Christian meetings" "...Christian elders."
????????? Since when did the JW's start associating themselves with Christendom. The word "Christian" was never used when I was a JW. That was like calling them a satanic worshiper. I was born in 1975 and went to the hall from birth till eighteen years old.
3. "...parents move away."
Who do they think they are???????? They should just tell all the JW parents that their children belong to them at birth.
4."...resist the inclination to find fault with the elders."
HAHAHAHA- they actually compare those numbskulls to Moses!!!!!!!! .........actually that shouldn't suprise me, when they also compare a magazine company to Jehovah God!
recently, several members of a local chapter (?
) came to my door.
they offered me information, and asked to come in.
Because they believe that anyone who doesn't follow Jehovah God will go through a genocide at armaggedon. (which they think will happen any day now.) So they try desperately to "make the sale". Good Luck with that.
i think some people actually use part of their real name.
i chose mine because i really feel 'in between', in that space where your not a jw anymore but really haven't figured out where you are in life and what path you want to take.
just thought it would be an interesting topic.
love= the meaning of my real first name, and of course love.
11= the day I was born.
11
the watchtower society is notorious for discouraging the brethren from performing acts of kindness and charity towards people of the world, claiming in their literature it is a waste of time or worse the funds may be absconded.
(see awake of this year "what is happening to charity?
today was 109 degrees in our town.
I donated my mothers genuine saphire and diamond ring, which she gave to me, to a mission for the homeless. My husband donated his electric guitar and amp. We found out later that they donated it to a mission in Africa. We donate to the local human society. I have donated my car, a red saab, to the kidney foundation. I made and delivered flower bouquets for the American Cancer Society. I know there is more I'm forgetting but I can't remember now. I really want to do more though. Hopefully, one day we'll be in a better financial position to help more.
I know what you mean about the witnesses never volunteering to help people. I guess they figure since those people will be in the genocide at armaggedon, why bother?!!!!! Remember them by their fruits. Sad.
yesterday was my birthday - sunday is father's day.
we went out to dinner (my first celebration in over 30 years), my husband gave me a beautiful gift, my kids were great, my sister (who's baptized, but on shaky ground herself) sent me flowers and joined us .
i'm filled with sadness for all the missed years .
It is normal to feel depressed when we are still mourning the loss of a loved one. ( Or several loved ones. ) But if the depression is affecting your ability to live a normal life, then there's no shame in getting a professionals help. Hope everything pans out well for you.
i guess i'm hoping to hear others experiences about their in laws, post being-a-witness.
i was raised a witness, left at 21, my life a bit of a shambles.
my family all turned on me, and i basically had nothing, not even a past, as we were forbidden to have a life outside the witnesses, which included relatives, school people, etc.
H Sunshine-
I went through a similar experience when my new family first started out.
My husband was loved by his family but I was the newcomber and was kept emotionally distant. He also
is a different race/ culture than myself and all of their norms seemed foreign to me. The language barrier
is just that, a barrier. I had to find my own place again in the world to be able to cope. It was very
difficult and trying but in the end you have to do what is best for you. For me that was moving. Moving my
new family brought us closer together because we were all lost together. It sucks being lost and alone.
In the end, my family was better off for it. As a family we moved to a place that was foreign for all of us
and the community became our new extended family. But you have to do what is best for your own situation.
I wish you luck, maybe with time you will 'feel' a part of your wifes family.
ok, here's a hypothetical situation that i find interesting.
now, imagine you are in the house of a lady in her 90's with ailing health.
further suppose that in this house she possesses the mona lisa.
I don't think in a life or death situation, such as that, you would have the time to think about what to do. My first instinct would be to save a woman from a horrible death, not wood with paint on it. Sorry, I love art but I couldn't live with myself knowing I made an educated and contemplative decision about letting someone die.
You cannot "prove" that there is a God, just like you cannot "prove that there isn't one.
There is simply not enough evidence to prove either case. You can however, scientifically prove that the bibles rendition of "creation" is a nice fairy tale. There were tribes of people living all over the globe by the time that Adam and Eve were said to have been the "first" humans. That is a fact!
i have been reading all of the feed back for saddler and the others.
i too have been in a relationship with a jw for a little over a year.
i love her very much but all the abuse i have taken over the pass year from her elders, uncles, grandfather...etc has really taken it's toll on me.
Hi- I am an ex- jw and have been married for nearly twelve years now to my "worldly" boyfriend.
I'm going to be straight up with you; for you two to work out, she has to make drastic changes. She still dreams of having the "perfect" witness wedding, yet she's dating an unbeliever. Her family and community at the hall is so much a part of her life that she lets them interfer, yet she's rebelling by being with you.
She has to make up her mind what kind of life she wants.
And more importantly, you have to pick the girl that "fits" the kind of life you want. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you'll love your life with them.
I wish you the best.
