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  What is the purpose of your life as a human being and what are your plans for the future?

  by Healthworker in

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  thanks!.

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  love healthworker.

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  LisaRose

  My purpose in life? Wow, that is hard to say. I am older and I have been dealing with pain issues the last few years, so sometimes I was doing well just to make it through the day, not a lot of purpose in that. But I am doing better now, so I have started back up with my small business. I fix up and sell furniture and antiques and I find it very creatively fulfilling, but I don't know if that qualifies as my purpose in life. While I was off, I also decided to do something that would give something back to the world. I am volunteering with a program that helps elderly people in the community. I started last month with my first partner. I meet with her once a week in her home to help out with a learning project of her choice. Its kind of like a home bible study, but without religion being involved, LOL. It sort of took me way out of my comfort zone, but I am glad I did it. But it is too soon to say if that is my purpose in life. I am a mom and Grandmother, part of my purpose in life I think. I used to have a corporate kind of career, so its odd to be saying it, but I find purpose just in being a wife. I have a really great husband, who does important work in his career, so I feel I help him do what he does. Its a lot of little things that add up, I guess.
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  Do you consider yourself a DOOR MAT?

  by talesin in

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  you asked for a topic on this , and here it is.. .

  i ask ladylee to please comment on this subject.. .

  when we choose to lead our lives according to what we consider is 'the right thing to do', that could be a good thing.

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  LisaRose

  It's funny, I was just thinking about my own doormat past and how my JW belief, my family history and my own personality converged with the result that I stayed 28 years in a bad marriage. I know that there are JWs who would have gotten out of the marriage somehow, but I felt I didn't deserve anything better because I wasn't a good JW. My own parents bickered, and that made me very uncomfortable. So I maintained peace in my own marriage at all costs. I didn't stick up for myself with the result that my selfish husband did whatever he felt like. The Watchtowers outdated advice that a woman should should be obedient didn't help either. We didn't fight but we didn't have a real marriage either. It wasn't until I was 45 and had a successful career that I started learning to speak my mind and not be a doormat. I left the husband and the religion.

  I sometimes still have trouble sticking up for myself, but I am nobodys doormat mat now I married a wonderful man who respects me. He doesn't even want a doormat. He expects me to tell him if there is a problem. We occasionally have minor spats, but they are quickly resolved and we move on. I would never belong to a
  religion that would expect me to stay in a bad marriage.
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  LIST your 12 FAVORITES!

  by Terry in

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  favorite:.

  1.book: godel,escher,bach: an eternal golden braid [douglas r. hofstadter] .

  2.movie: synechdoche, new york (written and directed by charlie kauffman) .

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  LisaRose

  Book: she's come undone
  Movie:Oh Brother Where Art Thou
  Wine: Edna Valley Chardonnay
  Artist: Jasper Johns
  Opera: La Traviata
  Song: Somebody That I used To Know / Goyte
  Classical Composer:Mozart
  Music: Van Morrison
  Painting: Persistence of Memory / Dali
  Scientist: Einstein
  philosopher:Ralph Waldo Emerson
  Car: PTCruiser.

  Wow, that was tough. In some categories, it was hard to narrow it down to just one (books, movies and songs) . In other categories it was hard to think up any. I have never been to an opera (although its on my bucket list), nor have I listened to it much. La Traviota is the music that appeals to me the most of the few I have heard.
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  Whitney Heichel - first hand account from congregation member on Facebook

  by sir82 in

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  why, he even has gone to some meetings at their kingdom hall!

  someone calls with a large wedding tent that they would like to donate and set up in the kingdom hall parking lot for the public memorial on friday.

  i was amazed how people who came that didnt even know whitney, but simply felt a need to be here and comfort the family.

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  LisaRose

  It was interesting that they said Jehovah must have kept it from raining during the memorial. What? If Jehovah could prevent it from raining, why couldn't he prevent holt from killing Whitney in the first place? Crazy JW thinking. If something bad happens, Satan is testing them. If something good happens, Jehovah is blessing them.
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  About what one thing do you find yourself being a real SNOB?

  by Terry in

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  you know, to fit in....to be a part of our own family or group and not be a total nerd or contrarian.. we hold our tongue.

  we smile and nod.. but, then....there is at least one thing we just can't go along with because it is too important.. why?

  because we are a total snob.

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  LisaRose

  Home decor. I have a small antiques and home decor business. When I see a home that is badly designed, it bugs me, although I try not to show it. My pet peeve is "arrested" furniture placement, you know "up against the wall". All the furniture in the room does not have to pushed up to a wall. Good design does not have to be expensive, it just takes a little time.
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  How to create a new social life

  by Wide Awake! in

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  i grew up as a witness, but it's been a few years since i've been to a meeting.. i'm having trouble being social and making new friends.

  i've moved away from the town that i grew up in (about 45 minutes away) and, although i'm not df'ed, i've lost track of my old friends after they found out i wasn't attending anymore.

  you guys know how it is.. i'm self-employed, extremely introverted, and have kind of isolated myself for a while.

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  LisaRose

  There are as many ways to meet people as there are people. I am somewhat introverted also so I know how that makes it hard to connect. I was in this situation recently, not because I left the JWs, but because I moved to a different state. I have health issues, so I cant work full time and meet people that way. I volunteered for a few things, and I met some people that way. We have a neighborhood pub and so we met quite a few people that way, its a Cheers kind of place, everyone knows your name, and hugs are freely given (and sometimes free drinks!) And I have one good friend I met standing in line at a store.

  The important thing to remember when meeting people is to ask questions. People love to talk about themselves. Just make sure its not too personnel. Before you attend any gathering, practice a few conversation starters, so it feels natural. My husband has a great curiosity about everyone, and we have met many nice people that way. A few people ignore him (which would make me die of embarrassment) but it doesn't seem to bother him. We met a couple at a pub in Cheltenham, England and ended up staying with them for part of the trip. Look for any opportunity to strike up a conversation with anyone. That older woman at the post office could have a drop dead georgeous daughter, you never ono.
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  is there a danger in being financially secure?

  by hoser in

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  this question keeps repeating itself within myself.

  why is the watchtower so hell-bent on keeping jw's undereducated, underemployed and under financed?.

  is it a control issue?.

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  LisaRose

  The Watchtower knows that education helps people develop better critical thinking skills, and they are afraid of that. They know that better educated people are not as easily fooled. How else do you explain The fact that so many of us believed the predictions of a religion that has a 100% failure rate on making predictions.
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  Does This Happen to You? I Need Help :/

  by DarioKehl in

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  hey guys.... i have a few important questions for everyone.

  this applies to doubters, faders, inactive, dfed or seasoned apostates.

  first, let me set it up:.

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  LisaRose

  What you are experiencing is very normal. Although you know this is not "the truth" you are not yet free of the effect of the brainwashing of the WTBTS. It took me years after I left before I could even go on so called "apostate" web sites like this. After living in an area with few JWs, now I am in an area where they come by often. I had no problem telling them that I was a former member who was happy to have left, but I was a little shaky afterword. They obviously thought I was "apostate" which to them means "baby eating pervert". The only good thing is they skip my house now, LOL.

  But yes, it does get better with time. I cant tell you that you will ever feel good about people who will judge you for leaving, but the more friends you make outside of the cult, the less important the judgement of former JW friends will be. And yes, freedom is worth some people judging you. Those people are deceived, brainwashed fools, their judgement means nothing. You have to live your life for you, not other people. For every JW who will judge you, there are a hundred other people who will accept you as you are.
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  Need some help!!!!! ***URGENT***

  by sinis in

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  my wifes mother recently passed away, and it has devastated my wife.

  the family, who are not witnesses, but out of respect for the deceased, and who was a jw, had the ceremony at the kingdum hell, which almost made me throw up... last time i ever step foot in that place.

  i felt like a vampire on the threshold of a church, as i looked into the interior hall feeling my skin burn and start to smoke... anyways, as i have posted on here before a friend of my wife, has in the past, sent her (my wife) emails about going back to the kingdumb hell.

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  LisaRose

  You could block the emails so they go to the junk mail automatically, but really that is not fair to your wife. You should just sit down with her and have a discussion. Ask why she is tempted to go back. Although its understandable you are upset, this is her decision, if she is doing it just for you it wont work.
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  Never, never was 100% in

  by pontoon in

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  over 40 yrs baptized, service, builds, talks and talks and talks that i put countless hours of prep into, elder, meetings, assemblies,----you all know.

  but through it all i never bought the whole truth idea 100%.

  no matter what it was, meeting, service, assemblies, i just couldn't wait for it to end.

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  LisaRose

  I was pretty much the same, meetings bored me, It just seemed like a waste of time. I never liked service, it just wasn't me to go around telling people my religion was better than theirs. I just kept at it, hoping somehow I would be a good JW someday. I thought I was the only one, I felt guilty all the time. In looking back, its amazing I lasted as long as I did. This religion never gives anything back to you, it just takes and takes until there is nothing left.