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  Husbands cousin found dead in Sherman TX

  by megsmomma in

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  she was only 24, and found dead yesterday.

  there has been bad flooding there(people missing and others found dead).....so that may have been a factor, but they are doing an autopsy on her....does that mean there might have been foul play?

  she had a troubled life, so we wouldn't rule out someone hurting her.

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  ex-nj-jw

  I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, please extend my sympathies to your hubby!

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  Sympathy Alert! Sympathy Alert!

  by HadEnuf in

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  our poor little brookie (whyamihere) got her poor little finger slammed in the door by my adorable grandson tonight (accidently of course).

  she had to go to the hospital and get big needles stuck in her finger to releave the pressure and is now enjoying the benefits of pain medication.

  i'm sure she could use some well wishes as fingers are very important and so is my lovely brookie (whyamihere).

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  I once slammed the car door closed on my son's hand , he was about 4 (the oldest), He screamed, my husband almost passed out (big wimp, that he is).

  Anyway, nothing was broken, bleeding or injured in any way, neither of them spoke to me for the rest of the night, dad mad that I "wasn't paying attention" and the kid just because "how could you close the door on my hand". And I felt like S***

  Enjoy the pain pills!!

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  I'm a Grandpa

  by inbyathread in

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  congratulations to me and the wife.

  our first yes our first grandchild was born this evening.

  she has ten toes and ten fingers and she is beautiful.

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  ex-nj-jw

  !!!!

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  How long do you greive?

  by helncon in

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  as i was driving home from work tonight i was feeling uneasy which was unusual for me and then it occured to me that it was a close friends death anniversary(13-06-93), reflecting on my way home i thought of the good times that we had(i had known this person since i was 7 till he died at 16) and for the first time in many years this year i have felt at ease with this as the previous years i have always been a mess.. i still think of others who have died over the years but think of the positive and no longer feel the sad pain anymore.

  have i moved on?.

  so i ask how long does it take to actually get over the pain and hurt from loved ones dieing?.

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  I had a dear friend that passed in 1998, and to this day when 10/11 comes along I get very sad and have memories of things we had once done together.

  I think the pain goes away after awhile, but you will always remember and grieve for that person, especially if he/she was very close to you.

  I don't think you can place a time limit on it, but you can choose to remember the good times not the death or how the death occured.

  I hope that helps some, just in case here is a hug for ya!!!

  I will be going to NJ this weekend for a funeral, my husband's uncle passed away this past Saturday and he was very dear to me, my husband's family never treated me as an "in-law", I am a very lucky women to have married into such a wonderfull family. Too bad my husband can't say the same!!

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  Took to hospital again by ambulance home now tg

  by hambeak in

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  had chest pain again monday the 11th thought it was a heart attack again.

  i told the docs the meds aren't working.

  now after extensive tests, i am told i have mold spores in my lungs.

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  ex-nj-jw

  (((((((((((((((((Hambreak))))))))))))))))))

  Please take care of yourself!!!

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  What do you do when you know you child is getting thier feelings hurt?

  by Heather in

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  we just recently moved and my oldest son (9) is adjusting well, so far.

  there are lots of kids on the street and they are always outside playing soccer and basketball.

  i've noticed that he is having trouble with a couple of the boys....they are all very close in age...9 10 and 11.

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  Do you think if he see's you sad and hurt that it may "rub off on him", I mean your sadness and hurt for him??

  I think kids sometimes pull energy and strength from us as parents. When we are strong and confident I think they naturally draw that from us. Just a thought.

  Don't worry mom, you are doing everything right, give him lots of hugs and I love you's, before you know it you will be nothing more than a taxi cab that has the ability to provide food and drinks to his friends when needed, oh then you become a yard stick to see how much taller they are getting, then you become the light of their lives (as far as boys go).

  When he gets older, as mine are (17 & 19) I get unexpected gifts, flowers and text messages saying hey mom, what you doing?, I love you!!

  All the love and support you give now will not be forgotten when he gets older!!!

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  What do you do when you know you child is getting thier feelings hurt?

  by Heather in

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  we just recently moved and my oldest son (9) is adjusting well, so far.

  there are lots of kids on the street and they are always outside playing soccer and basketball.

  i've noticed that he is having trouble with a couple of the boys....they are all very close in age...9 10 and 11.

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  ex-nj-jw

  This probably has nothing to do with your current problem, but..

  My middle son has big ears, they stick out like open car doors. He came home very upset once because a boy at school called him big ears, I had him look in the mirror and asked him if he thought he had big ears, he said yes. So I said why do you let them upset you over something you already know? If you look at that boy can you find something wrong with his looks? He said yeah, he has a huge nose (of course I had to keep my laugh in check), so I said see some people even adults find thing to pick on other people about because they are insecure in themselves. The best thing to do is say, yep, i got big ears, just means I can hear you better!!!

  I was trying to get him to realize that people will pick on those whom they feel they can push around, make feel bad or ashamed to make themselves feel better.

  Try to let your son know that he may not be the best kicker, or the most popular person in the group, but he has to be confident in himself for others to see it. Once he gets into sports his confidence will get a huge boost so just get ready to be involved with every kind of sport he can get into!!!

  I hope my little tale did'nt go too far off track. I think with kids it's a matter of building self esteem in the wake of children being children who will pick on the one person that they feel they can get a rouse out of.

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  Are ex-JW still gullible or serpent-like?

  by BEROEAN in

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  just wondering if ex-jws find it hard to trust others since their bad experience or are they still gullble souls?

  just wondering because some of the stories i read about past experiences are off the charts!

  some of you, your childhoods, your parents are seriously jacked up!

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  ex-nj-jw

  Why are you here??? If all the things you say you truely believe and you are such an upstanding JW Elder why are you here posting with us?

  Don't you have a bible study to conduct, family study with those wonderful kids and wife, field service, study for meeting?? Something???

  I think, you think we are stupid and will believe whatever you bring here...NOT

  Go away little troll or add something of substance to the forum! We've all had enough JW BS to last us a lifetime!!

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  DID YOU DEDICATE YOURSELF BEFORE BAPTISM OR DID YOU LIE?

  by free2think in

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  i was just wondering when you where going through the questions for baptism did you know you had to dedicate yourself to jehovah before hand or did you lie?.

  i didn't know i had to so when i went through the questions i had to lie and say i had.

  i always felt bad about it afterwards and quickly did a little prayer that night.

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  ex-nj-jw

  I just posted on another thread - I was 13 (15) don't remember exactly, did it because I had no choice. Dad said "get baptized or get out" so I got dunked!!

  And I was too young to have any idea of the possible consequences!

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  Was there a moment right before.......

  by lavendar in

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  .......you were dunked (baptised), that you thought to yourself, "am i doing the right thing??

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  Yes, but I was told by my elder dad that if I didn't I would have to leave his house - I was only 13 maybe 15, really don't remember exact age but no older than 15.

  I had no choice unless I wanted to be homeless!

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