The way my ex wife social networked and seemingly didn't want me in on the party! I recall this feeling and suppressing it repeatedly in the manner advocated by Bible principles! What kind of fool am I (Danny Williams -lovely song)?
R.Crusoe
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What was the first mean/unjust thing you saw as a JW that affected you?
by Pioneer Spit...oh, i mean Spirit inthink back.
you can list more than one.
.it's ok. how did you rationalize the actions of others?
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Are We Kind Because It's the Right thing to Do/Or Because "God"Tells Us To?
by flipper inin seeing the " debates " the last couple days of religionists debating with atheists i couldn't help but start a thread on what i have noticed since leaving the jehovah's witnesses religion.
personally just to set the record straight on my views personally i consider myself a strong agnostic, perhaps a weak and learning atheist, if that makes any sense .
while in the witnesses, i was always annoyed ( for 44 years i might add) by some who considered themselves very " spiritual " being kind to others in a facade kind of manner.
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Probably my greatest mistake on joining JWs was my blind adherence to scripture and an assumption that everyone was of the mind set I was so keenly developing. And I hadn't developed it fully enough before all sorts of doubts started to set in about others viewpoints and behaviors. I'd already committed and it seriously messed my reasoning up. People should focus less on the scripture and do a whole lot more watching and evaluating the social dynamics and lifestyle and ask themselves if this is how they want to live. No point avidly following a recipe book when others are all leaving out the ingredients.
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Update on laser eye surgery
by Bumble Bee inwell, tuesday was the day for my laser eye surgery.
to be honest - it really wasn't that bad at all!
for all those that commented on my other thread about being chicken - if it's something you are thinking about - i say do it!.
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This was one of my lifes plans. I was intending to store funds for a family member to get this done when the science came up to par. I think there are still certain prescriptions for which it is not effective and I'm not sure it could help even with todays advances. Additionally my circumstances have changed dramatically in the wrong direction. Just one of a long list of good intentions I,FOR ONCE, let myself believe would become a future reality. The best laid plans of mice and men....
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This is absurd!!!!!!!!!!!
by oldflame inthis is so bad people, why are we sitting on our arses and doing nothing about things like this.
this young man gave his life, he will probably never have a wife and family for the rest of his life and this is how they are treated ?
this administration should be ashamed of themselves and i mean down right on their knees ashamed.
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I think this was posted on another thread! He will feel betrayed for life that those he thought he was laying his life down for are now so ambivalent about his future! He will feel he went to the edge for those who wouldn't even look him up!
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Dudes givin a lotta thanks for somethin!
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Which song would you love to hear, but can't find ?
by JH ini remember the song "titanic" by birth control and can't find it on mirc.
any songs you'd love to download but can't find?.
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My love is here at last by Nat Cole! But I misread your post - I'd love to find her then I can hear it and know it's about me!
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Is JWD #1.....My Therapist....his first advice on JW's, me, and divorce
by oompa ini have told my new therapist so much about jwd, some of the insightful comments here, and how much it has helped me and other dubs that we both now wonder if there are other jw help sites.
i really don't know as this was the first and only one i ever found, and it was just what i needed.. he has pegged me well as impatient, and knows i was vocal about my wake-up from jw.
his advice right now is to back off totally on trying to help any others, and i have told him that many here have said no one will wake-up until they want to for some reason.
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R.Crusoe
Divorce maybe the only way forward. It should not be discounted as a realistic option. Communication is paramount in enhancing understanding compassion and love in any relationship. And between some people the chemistry is not there - even morso when your faith prescribes your relationship. If you feel rejected and 'existing' now then maybe that is a sign of things to come. Time will tell but keeping thinking change will come when it has not for years on end is like waiting for the New System! Likely ain't gonna happen! So the possibility needs to be raised as a serious option for future happiness - unless happiness is being disregarded - in which case carry on regardless!
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Are You A More "Moral" Person Now Than When You Were A Witness?
by minimus inif you can be honest, were you more morally upright as a jehovah's witness?
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I was never judge mental in my heart as a JW. It's just that I was uncomfortably trying to adjust my personality to a range of situations that made me feel awkward in view of the belief system I was applying. It was one of psychological conflict and used to make me more nervous and excluded and unhappy than I think anybody realized. Maybe they thought I was self righteous?
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Holidays - How do you feel?
by pratt1 inas holiday time approaches, many of us ex dubs have mixed feeling going on in our head.. are you happy and excited because now you can celebrate the holidays with family (maybe) and friends, or are you depressed or just ambivialent about the whole thing?.
it took my a few years just to feel comfortable wishing someone a happy holiday, and a few more years before i actually celebrated a holiday.. now i celebrate every holiday, and i am always excited about the event, although i don't place any spiritually/religious meaning towards the event and i just enjoy the chance to socialize with family and friends.. what about you?.
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Like I wished I'd never bothered - and that is when I've taken a flight out to sunnier places. I used to love the idea of a holiday that I could finally afford and splash out on family. I was just getting used to making a few plans - to make plans for the future for the first time in my life after being married and under repressive influences at close quarters since my late teens. The feeling was liberating but taking some getting used to until things went downhill again with family rifts etc. My heart hung on whilst on the way down for so very long. My heart couldn't believe the ambivalence of family after I'd hung in there so long and through what could have been much better years for me if I'd jumped ship. So it feels like: I've lost all sense of religious conviction and wasted my life in that general head space; lost all notion of the fact that my family have anything like the feelings for me that I had for them; lost all sense of ambition with respect to any career and job satisfaction; lost all sense of purpose in helping others as is my nature, and most repressing of all had my unconditional love and goodwill devalued into monopoly currency that nobody's interested in being around. The resultant heart condition is one of knowing that many people 'know not what they do' but that it's destroyed me nonetheless! And ??????????
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Goodbye from James Free
by James Free inwhen i joined jwd i still felt the need for a 'support group' and jwd was full of similar people wanting to share their experience.
now the time has come for me to leave - i am now able to put 35 years of jw living completely out of my head.. .
many factors have helped me, and jwd was an important part of that, and i will always be grateful to simon for setting up this forum.. .
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Grasshopper - it is time for you to leave! And never forget to remove your shoes before walking on rice paper! That way you will leave it as untouched as when you first happened to step on it!