Family Man,
I am going to Kingdom Hall with her tonight to keep an I on her and learn more. I feel strong enough in bodymind and spirit to do so.
Any more advise would be helpful in helping me contain myself tonight - I feel like bringin up these points you raise about what WTS becomes after baptism.
Thanks to everyone for your advice. It is hard to do this at home (I don't want to reveal myself yet) and at work.
It would be a good idea to bring a tape recorder, especially when they talk about family, and what they think and say about non JWs. It will show that they think that the whole world is corrupt and under the control of Satan. You'll need them when you get in a custody battle. They will claim freedom of religion and that they teach wholesome values. They even have a booklet to prepare witnesses about what to do in case of a custody battle. If you become a witness and cut off your friends and family, you'll be at the losing end. They will back her up, and you'll have no one on your side. Start documenting everything and taking your children with you to a fun place when she goes to meetings.
There is a poster here named Blondie that posts the following Watchtower meetings with questions to ask. You can ask them since you are only "an interested party".
Judges will back you up when they see that your children are constantly exposed to a fear that their father will die in Armageddon, will become social outcasts, will not be allowed to participate in team sports, the Boy and Girl Scouts, will consume an inorditate time in meetings, will not be allowed to take blood transfusions, their choice in future jobs (they cannot become soldiers, police officers, hold a political job, etc.) and their contacts with non-JW families will be severed, among others.
I was a JW myself, but it was not until after I left that my neighbor told me that my driveway was full of cars while I was at work. I always wondered how a family of four would spend 250 a week on groceries, especially since she, even though did not work, only fed me once a day on weekdays and never on weekends. Even while I was a JW she was sneaking behind my back and feeding the whole crowd! As a male, I would never go into a house if the husband was not there, but women are sneakier.
Don't buy into this morally (meaning sexually) cleaner b*ll sh*t. Whenever my ex used to tell me that, I would shoot back that they don't publish statistics, but judging from her own family and mine, it was not true. My only JW aunt had two daughters. One of them, a married one, was found naked in a motel with three men. She had been disfellowshipped twice before for adultery. She has three brothers. Two of them were JW and one of them was an elder. Both were disfellowshipped for adultery. The elder one with a minor only three years older than his first-born. My JW neighbor was divorced three times because his wives, all "sisters," were unfaithful to him. He only caught them because he secretly taped his phone. She would answer that they are not JWs at the time, but I would tell her that that was no excuse because they did it while they were in the cult, and therefore being in the cult is no garantee of marital fidelity.
On a related area, a year ago my daughter came while I was watching a specil Dateline program about the pedophilia cover-up issue on the JWs. She started to become upset. When I asked her why she told me that her mother had asked her 18 times (yes, I guess she was counting them) if I ever molested her, her own father, but never asked about any of the "brothers". That is how brainwashed these people are. She knows I am always home, never was unfaithful, even to this date I have never been out socially with a woman, to which I have a right since we are divorced. Yet she dared to question my integrity to my daughter but never about a JW!
Pete's advice was great, but I would prepare for the worst. In case it happens, you'll be prepared.