I agreed Devilsnok, I was never encouraged during my school years and college was never even an option. I did terrible in my exams and although I have never been out of work have never had a job I enjoyed and always felt I was not very intelligent. I really hate them for that!!!!! I am now at 32 thinking for the first time, what do I enjoy doing and kind of career would I like to do! It is not right......
milliemootoo
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Consequences of being a JW
by Regretful_J ini've been thinking about what its like to be born and raised as a jw and the mistakes that parents make as an almost direct result of this cult.
for one thing, the children are not allowed to think freely, and if they say or do one little thing their parents disapprove of, they are chastised and basically bullied into abandoning that thought or action.
another thing is that no matter what you do, and no matter how good your reputation is among friends, teachers, administrators, etc if you don't want to go to meetings, and don't believe in this faith, they do what they can to make you feel lower then dirt for this and will often resort to verbal abuse, and sometimes violence to force you to believe in them and conform.
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Young JW's and divorce
by Anator init's an epidemic!
many young jw's are divorcing.
some say you can't talk young ones out of marrying when they get there minds fixed on it....jw's says that the young ones (when i say young i mean in their teens) think they have all the answers as to why they should get married.
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milliemootoo
I have just heard about someone I used to know, they were married in their teens both pioneers, he has suffered with depression and she could not cope so she has divorced him and re-married. Seemingly her Mum (Elders wife) was heard boasting at the assembley how happy her daughter is now, both are still pioneers and attended the assembley???
Baffled!
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Do You Feel Better Because You Post On EXJW Boards?
by minimus inin reality, is it a good thing, in the long run?
should the purpose of a board to be to give the person needed help and then the person should just move on?.
does being on a discussion board like this mean that you aren't really getting on in your life?.
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milliemootoo
Yes, Yes, Yes, Yes......... I am just at the start of my healing but has helped no end!!!
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I'm not good association......
by Switch ini've been away from jwd for a month or so.
i've just been busy in life and am trying to rebuild, or should i say, make new friendships but it is slow-going.
missinglink and i haven't been to any meetings since april and have no plans in going back.
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milliemootoo
I know it is so hard but you have to remember it is not personal and no doubt it is killing your friends too they have to act this way.
Although I have been left 12 years I have only started look into this for myself recently and found this website yesterday but it has helped so much already.
Thinking of you!
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My Wife's In The Hospital
by Yizuman inhello folks, .
long time, no post .
so we checked in the next day and got her in a room.
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milliemootoo
Thoughts and prayers with you xx
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Would You Go Back?
by Dune inyesterday, my aunt was talking to one of my siblings about how things have been changing in our [ex] congregation for the 'better'.. she mentioned how a new circuit overseer has come in and is shaking things up.
the co appointed a ministerial servant (someone, the po & secretary didn't like and i know would never have voluntarily suggested appointment) and some of the 'brothers' that have had no 'responsibility' ever are being given #4 talks.
she also mentioned that the book study will be cancelled and the meetings are being shortened.. a ministerial servant who had a vendetta against some of the elders wants me to talk to a co and basically tell him i left the congregation [and the religion] because of the incompetence of the elders.. i'm not talking to the co and i'm not 'blaming' anyone.
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milliemootoo
No way, not now I have seen the truth!!!!!!!
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The elders came last night and i stood my NEW ground!!! be proud!
by New light for you inso yes, the brothers came for "encouragement" and of course, my husband is out of town on business... so it was me and the kids.. so i did let them in, i like these brothers...these are some things we discussed.... 1. i went over how that stupid "obey" email got all this started, got me to divulge to my girlfriend how i was feeling about the whole religion.
about how at the end of the call she said that she can't associate with me anymore, and then right after that call/ 30seconds later while i'm crying a pioneer called and asked "do you consider yourself one of jeh witnesses anymore??
" and i thought that was crazy for someone to try to trap me when i was sitting crying on the phone, upset with the last call... i told them that for all purposes i am already dfed since noone will talk to me anymore, and only one friend called to see what happened, everyone else just listened to the gossip of whatever spread, and wrote me off even though i'm technically in good standing.
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milliemootoo
Well Done I wish I had, had your courage instead I was forced to DA myself and still now people tell me I was DF'd so maybe it doesn't make any difference they still have a way of belittling you but no more for me. I have decided I can control how I feel about myself I do not need their approval!! My heart feels lighter already
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JW's as a cult
by gloobster inone of the hardest things for me to admit, even more than a decade after having cut off witness ties as much as possible, was the possibility that they might be a cult.. i would always tell people that jw's had messed up ideas, that they screwed up people's families, etc., but a cult?
surely i wasn't born into a cult.
the following is one definition i found on the internet:.
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milliemootoo
I remember laughing with my friends when we were kids when people used to say that jw's are a cult, if I only knew what I have found out in the past couple of days. Why did I not look sooner instead of been afraid for the past 12 years, it is sickening!!!!
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Just got my copy of "Crisis of Conscience"
by JimmyPage inafter finishing "combatting cult mind control" i decided to move on to the next logical book.
i've read the first 100 pages of "crisis of conscience" and it's gone by really fast.
now i know why this book is so important.
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milliemootoo
I have only just heard about this book so I am going to order it too.
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Tattoo
by heybaby inso, i need some opinions.
i have been thinking about getting a tattoo.
something small and classy.
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milliemootoo
It is really funny as just this morning I thought I would like a tattoo, I have always thought they were stupid but I think I would like one for the memory of my Mum.
I thought of a tiny star on the side of my wrist or my ankle.