Welcome! You sound wonderful!
How did your family take your decision? Were you DA then? And does your family try to urge you to come back?
dear all,.
i discovered this site only a couple of weeks ago and i already feel affection for you.. i am a 48-year-old woman and i live in spain, where i was born and raised, so i apologize in advance for my inevitable lack of style and possible grammar mistakes, due to english not being my native tongue.. i grew up in the truth and jehovah and the congregation have filled my whole life.
i've had little contact with the outside world.
Welcome! You sound wonderful!
How did your family take your decision? Were you DA then? And does your family try to urge you to come back?
for those familiar with my postings already know, i am a christian who is married to an active jehovah's witness (though not yet baptized).
we discuss issues concerning the witnesses and their doctrines and have had "bible studies" with one of the elders.
i've asked her about some of these things and i would like to share her responses and see if it lines up with watchtower teachings.. can a police officer become a jehovah's witness?.
For my entire growing up years I was told Jw's could not become policemen, so out the window went my career choice. Only in recent years, maybe even more recent than that, has it been brought out that yes they can, but for the reasons TD mentioned, cannot be given privileges in the KH. One of the reasons my brother faded was because he wanted to be a policeman but was told he couldn't be. He is now a policeman :)
well, i just finished reading marley cole's "jehovah's witnesses - the new world society" book from 1955. i'll provide a few quotes to introduce it in case you aren't familiar with the book.
ray franz in crisis of conscience, p74, 2004 hc edition: cole wrote the book as if he were a non-witness writing an objective account.
the idea was that by having the book published by an outside publishing firm it might reach persons who normally would not take society literature.
If he was a reporter, then it served the WT well to have a recognised name (who was also a witness) write something they knew people would read because he was widely known and respected. I've never heard of him, or seen the book before.
well, i just finished reading marley cole's "jehovah's witnesses - the new world society" book from 1955. i'll provide a few quotes to introduce it in case you aren't familiar with the book.
ray franz in crisis of conscience, p74, 2004 hc edition: cole wrote the book as if he were a non-witness writing an objective account.
the idea was that by having the book published by an outside publishing firm it might reach persons who normally would not take society literature.
Why was he chosen to write the book? Was he already an author?
ive had doubts for years had my mind opened and over the past year have decided enough is enough.
sick of the lies and double standards no longer believing in what ive been told cant even step into a kingdumb hall i just feel like screaming ive decided to d/a, best decision ive ever made a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders no more pretending to others finally free.
the announcement is being made this week.
Welcome!!!!
Can I ask, how did you go about DA? Did you have to telephone an elder? Or meet with them?
i got babtized at the age of 23. i was not a so called born in guy.
i started studying the bible at 20, and before that i never heard of the jw-religion.
so everything was pretty new for me.. to make a long story short: a month or so after baptizm, i felt probably lonley one evenig and got drunk right out of my brains.
Yes, alot of Jw's I know/knew were drunks. Like Shamus says, its the only thing they are allowed to do (drink), though they may get counselled if they become drunk. But so many do it.
did you notice any young jw sisters in the past that did rush to get married too young and to have a baby right away before the end comes?
did you hear any stories of regret?
i was wondering if the watchtower is to blame for?.
I've seen a rush to marry young, purely for sex OR because they don't want to be viewed as 'weird', like ATJ says.
when i left the org.
the blood issue wasn't an issue for me.
my best friend was on the blood committee for years and i could see many cases where either blood wouldn't have saved the person anyways (like when a person is in a serious car accident and their liver is in pieces), or blood actually killed the person and/or hindered recovery.. then my little nephew got leukemia.
Frank mentioned good Jw's not sucking their finger if they pricked it and blood came out..lol, I am one of those. Well, dad told us when we were small we weren't allowed to do it because it was ingesting blood, so we didn't. To this day I can't bring myself to do it...lol
well finallyyy i was able to create an account here after trying several times and being unsuccessful.
thanks to the mods for helping me out.
i have been hanging around this site for several months now.
Welcome!!!!
i was so happy when my best friend {a witness} since childhood tells me he has doubts about the org.
and how brothers are "two faced" and the "false prophecies", and how he "needs a woman soon or he'll visit a brothel".... he had not gone to meetings for months and his mum blamed me although he didn't need much convincing.
well we went to the convention to please family and he enjoyed the lavish attention he got from so many "loving" brothers.
What reasons do you think he's gone back for? Is it purely to get a girlfriend? Or to please his family? Because if he's told you he's had doubts, then he isn't going back for the right reasons. I'd put my money on him wanting to find a girl. And all the inviting out, well, that will wear off. Doesn't he realise that? Silly boy. There will be some genuine people who are happy to see him, but the others, well, they think they're happy he's back - but it's all just part of ingrained behaviour. It's learnt and kind of like autopilot. Just wait and see what happens when the invitations fizzle out. I think you will have your friend back. But do you really want a person in your life who is so fickle?