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  "Yes Man" - a demonstration of mind control?

  by sd-7 in

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  2. friends

  i just watched the film "yes man" not that long ago.

  in it, jim carrey's character attends a conference, was it?

  i couldn't help thinking about the mind control used there, delightfully played by terence stamp.. person is isolated from outsiders, ostracized immediately for having a contrary opinion ("no man!

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  Hmmmm, I'll have to watch that again and see if I notice.

  That girl's quirky songs are my favourite part of the movie.
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  Yet one more thread on the new "generation".... Oh, Joy!

  by undercover in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i know, i know... some of ya'll are gettin' sick of this "generation" thing... .

  but for whatever reason, i had not seen this actual quote from the dc talk (that or had not paid much attention to it until now).

  seeing it in print really brought home how desparate they are to try to hang on to 1914 in whatever way they can.

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  I agree with Soldier, that is truly enlightening what your father said!

  My husband doesn't see what the big deal is about this generation change. I told him how we were taught that those in "this generation of 1914"...meaning those alive around that time, would see the end!!! His brain must have erased all that. For some reason that's one of the main teachings that was drilled into my head growing up. Probably because my great grandma was born in 1915 and we'd use her age as a guage on where we were in the stream of time. Incredible!
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  Need help picking an engagement ring

  by Cagefighter in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  ladies please weigh in.... i am seriously thinking about buying an engagment this summer.

  first, we are both early 30's make about the same roughly (50k) a year.. i am thinking getting a decent quality diamond .90 carat on a platinum ring... seems to be about $3800-4500k price wise.. please be honest..... i saw the ring her x gave her.. it was yellow gold with a white gold top where some side stones were and a .66 to center stone was set that was a "gift".

  granted she picked it out.. 1. my ring must be way better than the one her x gave her.. 2. i won't propose without a ring so taking her to pick on out is not an option.

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  The ring you give her will be special because it's from you.

  I would also suggest going with a white gold band and spend more on a really good quality diamond that is super clear.

  My ring is a simple solitare set into the band so I don't knock it around (cause I'm rough with things). It's beautiful, simple, and unique!
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  My story and help needed.

  by frigginconfused in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i have been posting here and there for a few weeks but never introduced myself.

  i will do that now because i really am in bad shape and in need of someone to listen.. i was raised in new york in the projects during the crack boom in the 80's.

  my dad was an abusive drunk non believer and my mom dragged us to meetings.

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  Please don't give up!

  I question the governing body and why they make certain decisions too. Unfortunately, because the organization is SO controlling, there is no way to promote objections without getting thrown out as an apostate. People are afraid of losing their families, and so most keep silent. Because the followers are so indoctrinated (or brainwashed), they won't listen to opposers and automatically view them as Satan trying to persecute them.

  You've been through a lot in your life. Give yourself permission to take the time to heal and find another group of believers who have similar goals as you. Keep praying to find your spiritual path.

  ((((((hugs))))))
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  Were You A Happy JW or An Unhappy One?

  by mentallyfree31 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  when you were a witness, were you happy or miserable?.

  i feel like i was pretty happy for over 20 of the 25 years.

  only the last 5 years and especially the last 1-2 years did i really burn out and just wasn't that into it.

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  I was unhappy because I felt forced to be friends with people whom I had nothing in common with. My "worldly" friends at school were better Christians than my Witness "friends." The love is lacking in my hall, and has been for 15 years. I questioned how this is the "Truth" if the congregation is missing the identifying mark.

  Now that I realize this isn't "the truth" I feel happy and hopeful. Free to live authentically, and not feeling guilty about not living up to standards set by people who are out of touch with "the real world."
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  Change in distribution of Kool-aid issue of WT, get them like your KMs from your Service Groups Overseer

  by cattails in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  not only is there a change in the way the magazines for field service are distributed to publishers.. there's news of a change in distribution of the study issue of the wt.

  from now on a publisher will.

  get them like they get their kms, that is by having their service groups overseer hand deliver them.. another way to exercise control for control's sake and make the sgos busier and feeling more and.

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  Is this so the service overseer is forced to "take care of" his group and hand deliver the magazines to your home if you aren't at the meetings? Then he can throw in a sheperding visit if he feels like it?

  What I find most annoying is how my SGO will not hand me the KMs, but asks me where my husband is and delivers them to him. Even if my husband is standing right beside me talking to someone else, they will wait until they get my husband's attention and hand them to him. Once I grabbed them from the guys hand and he seemed really annoyed, lol.

  Is there a rule that KMs need to be handed to the head of the house? The magazine guy hands me the magazines.
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  sneaky photo used in the new york magazine story

  by Aussie Oz in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  anybody else notice this?.

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  Anyone else have a ninja JW bible with a Reasoning Book in the back?

  I do Then we had a talk about how it's bad to have the Reasoning book bound with the Bible because people might think we added to the Bible. Oh the irony!
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  Help Please - Wife Misses Friends, Wants to return to KH

  by Mad Sweeney in

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  2. friends

  the topic says it all.

  i am frustrated and dumbfounded.

  i understand that she misses the social activity with her "friends" but we have been "very" busy socially the last several months with new friends and she's been having a great time.

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  I agree with changeling. Empathizing with her and being supportive will show that you are a loving husband, and aren't "bad" or "persecuting" her now that you aren't a JW.

  Hopefully she'll get annoyed when her "friends" keep asking her to go out on field service, or become disheartened when she realizes how fake and gossipy her "friends" really are.

  One of my JW friend lamented how she really wants a job, but she won't get one because the "end is SO near." I would rather have no friends than friends like that.
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  From Pioneer to Professor: My Story

  by laverite in

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  2. friends

  i wanted to say hello.

  i knew i was gay.

  i wanted to study and learn about everything i could.

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  NiceDream

  Your story brought tears to my eyes. I am so happy that you were able to accomplish so much at such a young age, and overcame all obstacles. Truly an inspiration.

  I know a young JW who is gay, and my wish is for him to free himself from this religion so he can be himself because everyone deserves to be happy. So happy you're living your life and have a family of your own!

  Welcome!
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  Anyone get divorced because of differing beliefs?

  by NiceDream in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  lately my husband has been miserable, but isn't talking.

  he is really upset that he is "stuck with me" now that he knows i question my beliefs.

  i thought we could explore the bible together and i hoped he would come to the same conclusion as me, but he won't do that.

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  Thank you for all you posts. I like the idea of still being a "good person" without the society and perhaps winning him over that way.

  We were married young of course (typical of JW kids), and I'm not sure I married for the right reasons. But I will still try and make it work. We have horrible communication, so perhaps counselling would help. We went to a counsellor once and the man said my husband was very closed off and uncommunicative (that's what I think too)! Needless to say, my husband didn't want to go back.