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  Mobile phone apps

  by Little Imp in

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  i have just had a new mobile phone for my birthday (having upgraded from a very old one) and was amazed to find that there is actually a "ministry" app on it for jehovahs witnesses.. i am probably a bit behind the times mentioning this but i hadn't seen any threads on it since i have been on the site and as i say am new to this type of phone with "apps".. my husband could hardly believe it when i showed him.. .

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  Scully

  There's also one for timing your talks on the Theocratic Ministry School™.

  LMAO
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  What The Hell...my JW ex-wife just knocked on my door in field service...

  by unshackled in

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  so get this...this is one strange occurrence that almost ended in awkward disaster.

  so i took the week off from work to do some home reno projects.

  this morning i was doing some yard work and just finished mowing the front yard.

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  I was going to say she probably was checking up on you to see if you were involved with someone else so as to expedite a relationship with another JW... but I guess she already has that covered.
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  Can one be true to oneself and not appear selfish to your love ones?

  by jam in

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  being true to oneself is a skill.

  it might be the single most.

  improtant skill we can acquire.

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  It's taking a long time, but I'm learning to overcome the tendency to be a people pleaser. Often times, I would say "yes" when I really didn't want to do what was asked of me, just to keep the peace. While there was seeming peacefulness, internally I was a mess. I felt resentment over being taken advantage of, because - wonder of wonders - when I asked them to do things for me, they had no problem saying "no". Keeping the peace came at too high a price, considering I was the one burdened with extra things I would rather have not done, and if I balked in the slightest, the accusation of "selfishness" was bandied about too.

  So I started to take a hint from them. Whenever they said "no" to something I asked them, I wondered out loud why it was selfish of me to say "no" to their requests, but not selfish for them to say "no" to my requests. Then I heard the accusations of being manipulative. So I wondered out loud why it was manipulative of me to question their "no" but not manipulative of them to question my "no".

  That stopped the pestering to get me to do things I didn't want to do, temporarily. Slowly, people would start asking me to take on stuff again, and I've become quite good at saying - very pleasantly - "Thank you for thinking of me, but I have enough on my plate for the time being. I hope you find someone to take it on."

  Now, when it comes to JW matters, and pursuing a life path based on evidence you have learned regarding the WTS/JWs etc., sometimes it takes growing a thick skin to deal with the guilt-mongering that JWs use in an attempt to reel you back in. Particularly if you have children whom you are trying to distance from the JWs, or if you have parents or grandparents or other relatives who have passed away.

  Classic lines from JWs involve being responsible for the death of your children at Armageddon™, or what shall we tell Granny when she is Resurrected™ and you aren't there?? I've heard them both.

  The thing is, your decision to fade and my decision to fade are based on facts and evidence. Their decision to stay is based on superstitious fear and unquestioning loyalty/obedience to a Governing Body™ that clearly takes its Theocratic War Strategy™ to the furthest lengths possible by misleading their followers with lies, revisionist history and academic dishonesty in quoting scholarly works. The fact that they are now libellously insinuating that Inactive Persons™ and Apostates™ are contagiously "mentally diseased" reveals the level of fear mongering to which they are willing to stoop. It's no different from the person manipulatively calling you "selfish" in order to get you to do what they want you to do, to your own detriment. Clearly, JWs have learned the skill of guilt-mongering and manipulation from skilled masters of the art.

  The difference between us and them, though, is that we recognize the manipulation for what it is, and they refuse to break the chains that the manipulation keeps them in.
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  Mr. Snowbird and I Are Reconciling

  by snowbird in

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  we've agreed to compromise on our differences and support each other through the years we have left.. i'm seeing a psychiatrist today to deal with my difficulties that stem from a traumatic and tumultuous childhood.. he is willing to yield in his beliefs that a man should control everything and make all the decisions.. being a stubborn jamaican, i realize how hard that is for him.. we're going to renovate the house so that he has his own quarters.. that way, my boisterous g'kids won't work his nerves too badly.. just wanted to put it out there.. syl.

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  Sylvia

  Can I have your chicken salad recipe, please?

  Hope you both find the happiness you deserve.

  As for the loud snoring, I'd suggest a sleep study to find out if he has sleep apnea. A CPAP (Continuous Positive Airway Pressure) machine can help immensely, giving both of you the peaceful nights' sleep you need.
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  Need ideas for a tract for my anti-witnessing campaign

  by serenitynow! in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  so a friend and i are going to visit the dc this sunday.

  my friend has business cards with her exjw facebook and meetup group info.

  the plan is to drop info throughout the convention center.

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  Are there any JWs in the area who are included in local Registered Sex Offenders rosters?

  If you find any, their status as a RSO is public record, and in the interest of public safety (particularly the safety of children) people should be aware of their movements, including attendance at District Conventions. JWs seem to be notoriously and purposefully oblivious to the fact that District Conventions are venues where these unsavory individuals can associate freely, without restrictions.
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  Has there been any recent counsel or articles advising JW's to avoid associating with 'inactives'?

  by nicolaou in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i ask because over the last few weeks i've noticed a marked 'cooling off' from my brother and sisters.

  i don't think i'm being paranoid - has anything specific been printed lately?

  bloody faith!.

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  Scully

  It makes me LMAO actually, to know that my JW relatives freely associate with Worldly™ relatives who drink, smoke, fornicate, have children out of wedlock, have affairs, get divorced, or adult / elderly JWs who are sexually inappropriate with younger JW women and children, etc. than me and my family.

  The hypocrisy, promoted by these idiotic articles, is quite stunning.
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  How can I get past the anger?

  by Rocky_Girl in

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  i have gotten through so much of the anger i felt toward my parents for their part in my screwed up childhood.

  i know they were just doing what they thought was right.

  but now, as i celebrate holy and special days with my children i feel a new anger because i cannot give them the big family celebration they deserve.

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  It's really important to understand that anger isn't a negative emotion that must be avoided at all costs.

  Anger is the catalyst for and provides the energy for many worthwhile endeavours - people take their anger from a particular experience and channel it into something positive. Things like fund-raising organizations for cancer research, as a tribute to loved ones lost to the disease, for example.

  For a long time, I sent Christmas cards to my workmates every year (I've since changed jobs) because my JW relatives refuse to associate with us, even though they have their JW version of Christmas Dinner and Thanksgiving Dinner every year. I attend baby and bridal showers and birthday parties and retirement celebrations for my workmates. I take cooking classes and have developed a circle of friends who take those classes too. We try to go to all the holiday parades and celebrations in town. We check out all the featured homes at Hallowe'en and Christmas. We do a lot of fun things with our kids that they wouldn't be able to do or allowed to do if we were still going to JW Meetings™. The nice thing about it is that we don't run into any JWs while we're out having fun!

  Living well and being happy is the best revenge to counter a lousy restrictive JW childhood. Eventually I was able to go from always being angry over my upbringing and the rift between me and my JW relatives, to enjoying my life, seeing my children enjoying their childhood and growing up into really great young adults (who have no JW hang-ups), and finally to not even giving JWs a second thought except for pity that they are the ones making the choice to miss out on some terrific times with my family.
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  Doctors, Police "Fight Off" Jehovah's Witnesses Over Blood Transfusion

  by Bangalore in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  doctors, police "fight off" jehovah's witnesses over blood transfusion.. http://www.ghanaweb.com/ghanahomepage/newsarchive/artikel.php?id=211555.

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  Scully

  Bottom line: The child is NOT one of Jehovah's Witnesses, her parents are. She should not be expected to follow the religious choices of her parents in matters of life and death until she is old enough to choose them for herself.
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  Genetics Teaser

  by TD in

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  2. friends

  we discuss biology from time to time here (usually as it relates to evolution) so i thought this might be fun.. below are two mice; male and female:.

  below are the offspring they consistently (90% of the time) produce:.

  can anyone guess why?.

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  Scully

  In this case, it's obvious that the albino is really a black mouse.

  Well, of course it's perfectly obvious.
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  Tell me: IS THE CANADIAN POST OFFICE ON STRIKE RIGHT NOW?

  by Nathan Natas in

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  2. friends

  i've just ordered something from a bizness up in canadia, and the guy is telling me delivery may be slow because the canadian post office is on "partial" strike.

  is he telling me the truth, or is he a hoser?

  eh?.

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  Scully

  Supposedly the Post Office is on rotating strikes, which means the work stoppages will happen in selected cities/towns on a day-by-day basis.

  Frankly, with the decrease in mail traffic (as evidenced by the service reduction to Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays) I don't see how they can demand higher wages, particularly when other unionized workers have had 2-year wage freezes imposed on them.

  The postal service is gradually becoming redundant, and this kind of BS is not making me feel all warm and fuzzy about sending parcels via Canada Post. I think I might send out something in the mail about twice a year now.