I still have a hard time believing that it's been 31 years since we lost John Lennon. It feels like it was just yesterday.
Posts by Scully
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12And so this is Christmas ....
by talesin inhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbksgaxqy2k.
"an eye for an eye, will make us all blind" ~ john lennon.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cbksgaxqy2k.
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MONTREAL MASSACRE REMEMBERED ... please join with me in this ...
by talesin inplease hear this song in rememberance of the women massacred on this day ....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pvzdwvmmutm.
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It's my birthday :-)
by poopsiecakes in...and i'm shamelessly looking for love from my jwn peeps!
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Scully
Happy birthday, poopsiecakes!! etc, etc.
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Born ins..Were You Forced to Be a JW Growing Up?
by LostGeneration inmyth: parents who are jehovahs witnesses.
force their children to follow their faith.. fact:witness parents strive to inculcate love.
for god in their offspring, just as the bible.
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Scully
I was threatened with being kicked out of the house if I didn't smarten up and do what they wanted me to do. They'd also give me the silent treatment for days on end, to teach me what it would be like if I were ever DFd.
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The "Jo Ho Ho" project
by Earnest inthese are photos of the felixstowe kingdom hall in suffolk , england , after it received some free decorations from an anonymous group calling themselves the johoho project.
it is thought that the group limit their activities to felixstowe at the moment although other cells throughout the country are thought to be lying dormant.
the police are recording it as a religious hate crime (which tells you more about our crazy government than it does about jws)..
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Scully
Several years in a row while I was growing up in the JWs, our house got egged on Hallowe'en because we didn't hand out candy.
I guess that was a hate crime in both directions. Or Karma.
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"Hospitality"?
by NCO inhad to meet my parents not too long ago for some family business and while working out the time for that sunday, they said they had the meeting and then following the meeting they had "hospitality" for an hour or so.. now i've been out for going on 20 years and somewhat out of the loop.
needless to say i've never heard of that.
i've been to other churches where they have the sanctuary and then the fellowship hall where the members go and eat after the service.
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Scully
LOL @ Mary
Imagine that, a family with worse table manners than yours!! LOL
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"Hospitality"?
by NCO inhad to meet my parents not too long ago for some family business and while working out the time for that sunday, they said they had the meeting and then following the meeting they had "hospitality" for an hour or so.. now i've been out for going on 20 years and somewhat out of the loop.
needless to say i've never heard of that.
i've been to other churches where they have the sanctuary and then the fellowship hall where the members go and eat after the service.
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Scully
While growing up I remember our family was asked to invite a visiting Speaker™ and his family over for lunch after the Sunday Meeting™. Without being told who it was, and anxious to accept whatever Privileges™ were offered, my dad agreed.
Turned out to be one of those families who are so frikkin' strange that nobody wanted to be around them. Their several kids were absolute animals, without any table manners at all, and the parents weren't much better. We were so accustomed to having a relaxing enjoyable meal, but this time as soon as the word "Amen" came out of my dad's mouth, it was a bloody free-for-all grab fest by the visiting kids, with the parents doing absolutely nothing to control their brats. It was a simple meal of soup with cold cuts, cheese, bread and condiments for sandwiches, but it looked like crime scene after they left.
I think that was the first and last time my folks welcomed any visiting Speakers™ or their families to come over for a meal. My mother put the skids to it after that family left. I think my parents were beyond gobsmacked by the horrid behaviour we had all witnessed.
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Do you get constant "digs" by JWs that still talk with you?
by skeeter1 inmy personal story: i grew up as a jw, left, went to college, and have a career.
i have a spouse, married for many moons, wonderful kids, normal house, cute dog, and newer cars.
the "american dream".
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Scully
It's simple.
She's miserable and she is trying to find a way to make you miserable or at least unhappy with your life. She's been promised her whole life that if she did what the WTS said, she wouldn't want for anything - and then she sees you and this other relative who are not JWs having material success through hard work and planning (imagine that!), and it creates emotional turmoil for her in the form of jealousy and hostility, which makes her want to have someone else to justify her feelings (you).
What seems to work for me with that kind of person is to (a) make a point of telling them how satisfied you are with life the way it is (b) make sure they know that you are super-pleased for the person you are being compared to, and (c) ask them why they seem so jealous of someone who has worked hard for everything they have and is successful in their life.
Taking the high road seems to shut them up too: "It's really not polite to 'keep score' or make these kinds of comparisons. It just makes you look petty and jealous of them, when you could be happy for them."
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JW Pedophile sentenced in my courtroom today....
by diana netherton in65 year old self-professed jw man sentenced to 20-40 years state for abusing a young neighbor boy.
over a course of three years.
he actually read scriptures to the boy after each abuse session, which.
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Scully
My question is: Is this guy still a JW In Good Standing™?
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Help! My brother wants to hate me.
by strymeckirules intonight i tried to contact my blood brother.
i am 32 he is 30.. he was baptised at 10 and df'd at 12, 22 and now he would have been again but he walked away.. i made no progress with our reunite.
he's hating on me for leaving the family.
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Scully
Some people can't accept responsibility for their own choices... I wonder if your brother has this trait - it seems that way to me by the way he tries to shift the blame to what happened between you and him half a lifetime ago.
People get DFd from the JWs for behaviour they chose and for being Unrepentant™ about it - blame-shifting is classic Unrepentant™ behaviour. Nobody held a gun to his head and forced him to tiger-woods his marriage. Nobody held a gun to his head and forced him to smoke tobacco or weed. Those were choices he made, of his own volition.
I find it interesting that your brother his trying to psychologically beat you up for leaving The Truth™, and for trying to share with him your own reasons for doing so. I'm guessing that he is still mentally "in" and likely still thinks he is better than you because he still believes it to be The Truth™, despite his obvious and multiple transgressions, and maybe even regards you as a filthy Apostate™.
I find it even more interesting his pushing you away when you tried to reach out to him and his blaming you for "not being there" after he told you to scram. I suspect he knew that he'd be hard pressed to find a listening ear or moral support while going through the divorce and being DFd, so he expected you to rally around him, even when he rejected your offer in the beginning. He probably didn't have anyone else to turn to from the JW side of things.
It's unfair of him to have expectations of you supporting him, talking to him, etc. while at the same time he is pushing you away, being non-responsive to your efforts at reaching out to him, and so on. Once you've come to some kind of accord, it will be important for you to get through to him that (a) you care about him (b) you do want to help him, but (c) you need for him to be clear - if he wants your help, then accept the help when it's offered - if he says he doesn't want your help, then he should not expect multiple offers, insistence or persistent harassment to force help upon him when he doesn't want it. You have a busy life yourself, and you don't want to get in his business if he doesn't want you involved, and you don't want to interfere if he's made it clear that he wants to handle his situations independently. If things change and he does feel that he would welcome your help, he'll need to approach you - again you don't want to be accused of getting in his business uninvited.
