Hi All,
It all started like this...40 is the new 50, 30 is the new 40, 20 is the new 30, &&&& 10 is the new 20. I think today parents deal with alot of guilt factors, they have to work long hours so they don't get to spend much time with their children, so they provide for them but don't nuture them. They stress the kids out early by, putting them in all types of activities, they keep their kids on the same treadmill they are on...stay busy & avoid. I even heard a person at my job that said she felt guilty because she has to work & gets home late. I said, I understand but my Mom & Pop worked too, & I'm ok. It's really not the quantity of time parents stay with their kids but the quality. Many folks come from single parents. I also said, you feel guilty now, imagine how guilty you would feel if you couldn't feed them & see their ribs or when they get sick & you can't afford to take them to a doctor.
I really think most parents love the dependency, they feel worthy. Once the children leave, then what ? So they still call them at 22 yrs. old to see if they wore their boots & have their umbrella. They don't allow them to grow-up. Ever wonder why Moms talk like this when they have a baby, you ask how old is your child...they say...47 months, ah, come on...your child is almost 3 or 4, just because you talk in months doesn't mean it makes you younger. We live in a youth oriented world. I work at a job with many young adults, don't you know, they get paid, but don't think they have to use their paychecks for nothing. If their nose is running & they left home, you know they will wait until they get to work to ask for a tissue. They ask for feminine products, tylenol, band-aides, eye drops, cough drops, food...they think their check is for, What I really don't know...it's a sense of entitlement. But you can't blame them...we raised them. These young ones today are not taught to even be strong or protect themselves. There has always been bullies, now poor little Johnny can't even defend himself, because parents won't teach them the basics. When kids are not behaving in school, the parents go & blast the teacher, not the child, no accountability. Parents will even call the college & fuss with the teacher about the childs grades..they even call their son or daughter jobs to tell the boss their child deserves a raise. Parents are more than helicopter parents, they are all in the childs life.
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