Witness My Fury said it well; I would say the same thing. Moving forward your 'morals' are what you evolve them to be. To me, as long as I'm not hurting anyone, it is no one's business but mine and the same for everyone else. I don't care what a few old men 'decided' thousands or hundreds of years ago as to what morality is or isn't. Harm no one.
Let's really talk about sex now- Advice please???
by KateWild 86 Replies latest members adult
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KateWild
So after that I started dating again and in time I found Mrs. Flipper in 2006 and we've been together ever since. Through the years I dated several women in between, some lasted a year and a half, some 6 months, some a couple years - but in each relationship you learn more about yourself and what you want or will accept in a relationship- and then what you don't want or will not accept. So it was all educational through the years.-flipper
What a lovely experience, it sounds like you hade fun. I can be like a teenager again, but with more wisdom at 40. The couger lady, I have had a couple of guys in their early 20s show me a little attention. But I think that may be a little immoral.
Anyone???? Is a cougar lady with a boy half her age immoral? What do you think?
Kate xx
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ILoveTTATT
Here's my two cents (actually let's make that a nickel, since there are no more pennies in Canada)...
What on Earth makes people think that signing a stupid piece of paper and going through a ceremony makes any difference in the commitment that a man and a woman (or any possible combination now) will have for each other?
NOTHING!
What makes a piece of paper (or plastic or whatever...) that says "100 dollars" actually worth "100 dollars"? It's the BELIEF of the holder in the respective Government! Otherwise, ANYONE could write "one bizillion cajillion dollars" on a piece of paper and buy whatever they want!
Same thing with marriage and relationships. It's an UNDERSTOOD contract, a sense of mutual respect for one another, and love, that makes people stay together. Not a piece of paper. Granted, that piece of paper makes a difference legally, unless it was cancelled out by a pre-nup. And nowadays, the government allows common-law couples to have pretty much the same rights as married couples.
Now, dating is a complicated thing. If you want to have multiple partners, I would suggest either be in an open relationship, or just not be in a relationship...
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Terry
Morality is not the issue I'd be concerned about. Your private life belongs to you. It is nobody else's business.
People who make other people's sex life their own concern have an outrageously exaggerated view of themselves.
The devaluation of the currency of intimacy, I should think, is the biggest issue involved with so-called "casual" sex.
Sex almost always involves a kind of involvement, commitment and interpersonal crossing-of-boundry lines which entails
careful consideration of exactly WHO the other person is.
None of us want to think we could end up with herpes or some other sexually transmitted disease.
We don't really want to think too much about the character of our sex partner either--except, that's pretty important as it turns out.
I have had friends who lied about all sorts of personal issues when it came to sex and it turned out badly.
Sometimes you discover there is another side to your prospective shag-mate you'd never have guessed.
I would ask the following questions of myself:
1. If I were sick, would this person care enough to bring me soup? (Yeah, silly question, right? Not really!)
2. If I had an underage child, would I be comfortable leaving that child alone with this person?
3. Is this somebody whom I now have to lie about to somebody else?
4. If my sex partner is also having sex with somebody else on the side--do I know how safe THAT is?
I had a dear friend who was doing the old in-out in-out with a married woman and having the time of his life. Then, one day, the
subject came up--and he mentioned he use to be a Jehovah's Witness. Now get this. . .this very same lady who was cheating on her own
husband having secret sex gave my friend a big lecture on religion! She started dragging her Jesus into it. They ended up going their separate ways. My buddy didn't think it was funny. After a few years, I don't either, but I did at the time.
My point is certainly not to create a checklist, but to point out our society has relaxed the public shame barrier to such an extent
the rest of us might not realize there really is no validity to the word "casual" when it comes to having our body penetrated or handled
in some extremely intimate manner by somebody we don't really know.
As for morality?
I heard a woman say this to her friend and I over heard it. At first I laughed it off. Now, no--not so much.
She said, "He had a heart attack in my bed and I was faced with having to call an ambulence and telling the police
every detail. I was so humiliated! It never ocurred to me something like this could happen. And now--I feel like this
thing that was going to be so trivial has become a horrible chain around my neck the rest of my life."
None of us knows where something can lead and what it can cost.
Your mileage may vary--but, it is worth at least thinking about.
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ABibleStudent
HI KateWild, Whatever you decide, be careful. Get to know the person enough to at least like him as a person. You never know who a person is really like until you have talked with him at least several times and been with them to different places. If you havie sex with a person and you don't at least like him, it can make you feel miserable. I know. I did it with a woman when I was in my 20's. I started not liking myself and it was not for moral reasons.
Also, you do have to worry about contracting STD's and hooking up with people with lots of baggage that you do not need in your life right now.
Peace be wtih you and everyone, who you love,
Robert
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St George of England
Kate - you did realise that a rabbit is not a bunny with big ears didn't you!!??
George
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Witness My Fury
Clearly not George, any girl worth her salt would not have to have these things spelled out....
Only kiddling...
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