The men on the thread who are encouraging you, waving you on, stop and look at who they are, as you weigh their advice. I've been here long enough to know that at least one of them is a nice guy, but he's pretty wild and risky in his behaviors and decisions. I know from reading his posts over the years. Additionally, there has been more than one man on this forum, over the years, who has played women, even married women and caused some big problems. Be careful, please.
Let's really talk about sex now- Advice please???
by KateWild 86 Replies latest members adult
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KateWild
FHN,
Thank you for taking care of me. I am vulnerable and it's nice to see ones really looking to my best interests, I will check out some past posts. Good idea. Thanks Kate xx
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Gypsy Sam
I'm 37, just waiting...until they teen is grown. Soon........,,,lol
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Gypsy Sam
I hope you have a good toy....it makes a difference ;)
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kurtbethel
Since you asked about sex, and not relationships, I will tell you this.
Explore your own sexual response and get to know it really well. Master it. Use any toys or helpers or any sensory enhancements you need to get to know your body and sexual responses. Maybe you have done this already, then so much the better.
Then find a suitable partner for play if you are ready. As for relationships, it can be paradoxical in that sometimes the highest sexual compatibility is with someone who is not good for a relationship, while a good relationship can be found with someone who you have no sexual attraction to. I hope you don't experience it that way, but I thought I would mention it as no one else has.
As for the cougar thing, I like the idea. When I was in my early 20s I was involved with someone in her mid 30s and it was very pleasant, I remember it fondly and learned a lot from it. Now I'm the same age as FHN, so I'm not in the range to be your "cub" but if you want to look into that it could be a productive stage in your life.
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FlyingHighNow
I want to clarify that I don't think you have to be married to someone to have a satisfying relationship.
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FlyingHighNow
Oh and cougar, smougar. Andy, who is my dear friend now, but used to be my fiance: he is 14 1/2 years younger than me. He and I were good friends. We knew there was great friend chemistry between us. Eventually, he admitted strong feelings for me. I brushed him off because of my circumstances and the age difference. But in time, the idea of a relationship with him grew on me. He and I were intellectual equals. We shared the same interests. We even had the same spiritual and political beliefs. We communicated so well. (We still do.) We struck up a relationship and we even lived together for a few years. We are still such adoring friends that he comes to visit twice a month, platonic these days. My point is, I didn't chase him. He chased me. He caught me. Neither one of us regret it. We had all kinds of adventures together. We had a lot of fun. We cried together. Now it's a very adoring, comfortable friendship. It is my choice that it be platonic.