Wow, I am back now guys. I will answer you all individually Kate xx
Let's really talk about sex now- Advice please???
by KateWild 86 Replies latest members adult
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KateWild
Georgia,
Thank you for that. So if I make sure there are no expectations either way then most men will probably be okay with that, being wined and dined sounds cool.
Kate xx
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KateWild
asking for a contract before rubbing skin together is just odd and a turn off-snare
haha!! Thanks for the heads up, if a guy is a bit creepy I can start talking about commitment, but if I like him I can behave casual. Reminds me of what WMF was saying about dating mind games.
Kate xx
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KateWild
The JW's are full of marriages getting by, teens that married 20 years ago for sex. It is so abnormal and odd to the natural activity in the real world.-snare
So true, my daughter is 20yrs and she has seen it all with JWs and I have heard sll the stories, really eye opening stuff. They are no different to other youths, some are worse.
Kate xx
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KateWild
Kate, I think WMF was talking about pleasuring yourself, not getting drunk. It does have several advantages and none of the dangers of casual sex.- UTR
I was baiting WMF to spit it out, honestly I grasped it after zeb posted. WMF, knows I pull his leg at times. I agree we need to protect oursleves phiysically and emotionally if we choose to have a few one night stands with different partners.
But is it moral?
Kate xx
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flipper
KATE- What the WT Society does to it's 7 million members is much more " immoral " than an unmarried man or woman sleeping together without marriage. It's not a big deal, religions have made it a big deal , when it's not- it's just a natural urge and desire that men and women have and can fulfill whether you are in love with the person or " friends with benefits ". I agree with some here that if a person has gone through a stressful divorce that many times it may be good to have some " alone " time to re-charge your emotional , mental, and physical batteries in order to get to know yourself better - but that's not written in stone either. Different people have different amounts of time to feel a healing within themselves after divorce. Some people can take being alone longer than others.
Personally - after my 19 year marriage to my JW ex-wife ended in 1998 - I took a year off from dating as I really was in pain trying to educate myself more about relationships and reading of how I could make improvements in myself in the event I got back into a new relationship. So I used that " down " time from dating in that fashion.
So after that I started dating again and in time I found Mrs. Flipper in 2006 and we've been together ever since. Through the years I dated several women in between, some lasted a year and a half, some 6 months, some a couple years - but in each relationship you learn more about yourself and what you want or will accept in a relationship- and then what you don't want or will not accept. So it was all educational through the years.
So bottom line is - it's up to you. You know yourself better than anybody. Trust your instincts. If a guy seems like a creep- he probably is. If a guy shows you over a period of time he is legitimate and caring, honest, and trustworthy- that's probably true as well. Just be careful, have fun, and don't let anybody be abusive to you, O.K. ? And don't worry about sex having anything to do with morals - the more important qualities to worry about are what's inside a person- not if they are married or not having sex or not. Just my 2 cents
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snare&racket
"I was baiting WMF to spit it out"
tee hee
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baltar447
Get yourself a Hitachi Magic Wand, those are the shizzit.
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St George of England
You need a cat and a rabbit.
As one young lady said, "If I want love I've got my cat, If I want sex I've got my rabbit!"
George
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J. Hofer
morality is probably the most subjective virtual construct possible. if something feels good and nobody gets hurt (without consent), what's the problem?